Does EVERYONE cheat?

[D_Fiona_Farvel]

That is not true some people just cheat because they like a little strange, you can be in the best relationship and still want some outside dick. If it works for you, cool, regardless of what some people think.

+1
My ability to love and libido are not inextricably tied.
I have been in a good relationship with love, lust, and all that, but still found myself deeply attracted to another person.

Personally, I have yet to act on those feelings. However, if in a long-term relationship, I could see it becoming a valid option at some point. :shrug:

 

[007baby]

Yes, because it's selfish.

Well said

 

[007baby]

For some of us it's not just about the cock. :duh: It's the whole package. So when we find a really great guy that doesn't verbally, physically, or emotionally abuse us, who isn't a wuss, and makes us happy in and out of bed we start nesting. It's not like we are settling and there is something better which we can't attain.

People who stray are lacking a component in their relationship. It's usually emotional, the couple has grown apart and the sex is just part of the package deal.

I agree for the most part... but I think in many cases if not most, it's not about one person missing a component in the relationship that is lacking because of their partner or relationship... I honestly believe from experience that it has to do mostly with individuals not being whole (strong, independent, integral, etc...) and happy with themselves as individuals that allows them to be so selfish, which in turn inhibits them from truly understanding or feeling any obligation or responsibility to someone else's pain and suffering. That is why, if one isn't whole going into a relationship, then they are going in just for the principle of gaining something or filling that void in them, which can and usually is filled in only temporarily from someone else, which is why they get tired or bored or "unfilled" after a while and leave/lie/cheat. So, they ARE missing something (so good point on that)... but their mistake is continuing to think it will be found in someone else instead of taking the painful long and sometimes lonely road of finding it within themselves.

 

[bbblowme]

If not all females cheat "I" have yet to be but with one. I mean whats the point? I wouldn't do it to you, even in revenge. I think when a women cheats and gets caught she is wanting out in a way and any guy that would stay with that women is..........I don't know what he is thinking........like she wont do it again..........they always say they have never done that before........then they just get sneaker and smarter about it. Any female that does that to me must not want to have anything to do with me. Sure I forgive..................then I forget you ever existed.

Just my two cents. Hope it doesn't a fend any of you ladies on here. I am sure there are plenty of faithful women in this world and on this site

 

[frogshitpiss]

cheating is for loser's.....and fuck-tards.

 

[Stephenmass]

Badgirl,

Reading your response, I get the impression a lot more is wrong with your relationship than just a lack of sex. Usually a lack of sex (unless there are valid medical or psychological reasons for it) means that things have broken down to a point where "it's all gone". If, in fact, it is all gone, why stay married?

 

[D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah]

I really don't think i could ever cheat. Even if i didn't love the person anymore having to go home and see them everyday would kill me, my conscience just wouldn't take it

 

[Silvertip]

... Would it not be a sickener to stay faithful to youyr partner for many many years only to discover they did not do the same?

That certainly happened to me and, yes, it was an extremely "sick" discovery on my part.

But does everyone cheat? No, definitely not. I have had many close friends and even family member who did, but I have also known many married couples who spent their entire married lives without cheating at any level.

I'm now single again but the hedonistic sexual pleasure that I currently enjoy with compatible male buddies I could never have experienced while married, to either of my two wives ... I would have considered that to be cheating, even though no emotional commitment is involved. But I also have a number of married suck buddies that are perfectly OK with trading blow jobs with another guy, they don't consider that cheating as long as they're not fooling around with another woman. And I've known married guys that are perfectly OK with the "If your not with the one you love, love the one your with" concept. They don't feel that they are cheating as long their trysts with other women don't involve financial support or other LTR commitments.

In our free and liberal society most private interactions between consenting adults is considered legal and acceptable. So it boils down to each individual's concept of morality. But we are also free to write our own wedding vows to exactly match our morality. So I say anyone who violates the letter of their own wedding vows is definitely cheating.

 

[Cobalt Blue]

I have known girls that are like monkeys, and they only let hold of one branch when they have a firm hold on the next one. A girl that cheated on me claimed she had NEVER cheated, yet admitted to kissing other guys when she felt a relationship had come to an end. She didn't tell the partner that it had come to an end, but she felt it had so that was ok.

Also, although girls are just as sexual as men, I do believe the thought of settling down for a girl (when there are a whole load of cocks out there!) is a lot easier than for a man (with a load of girls to play through). I now believe that both sexes are capable.

Indeed, I simply don't think that the modern, Internet-savvy young woman can resist big cock...

Not everyone does, but some do it effectively and don't get caught.

I would personally revise that statement to:
"Not everyone does, but most women do it effectively and don't get caught."

 

[Corius]

Fidelity is something we hold up as a model. I assume that partners who promise to be faithful are sincere. Throughout my life I have remained a very horny guy; I know when I have been stirred by the presence of a sexually attractive person, both males and females. In my mind and in fantasy I have been guilty of many indiscretions, but, in real life I am restrained by remembering that I have promised to be faithful to my dear wife until death do us part. Somehow, I am left with gratitude for the vitality of my urges as well as the continuing health of my bond with my partner for life. A wise and kindly Creator endows us with powerful urges but has also given us minds to control and direct those urges for the sake of the love we find in commitment to our partner.

 

[badgirl22]

Badgirl,

Reading your response, I get the impression a lot more is wrong with your relationship than just a lack of sex. Usually a lack of sex (unless there are valid medical or psychological reasons for it) means that things have broken down to a point where "it's all gone". If, in fact, it is all gone, why stay married?

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well clearly there are problems in my marriage but the sex has been a major issue since the beginning and has only caused resentment on both our parts. In fact, today at the marriage councelor, he admited the sex was never, not even once, in 12 years, about me. It's always been about him getting his rocks off. And why stay married, i've worked this issue since the beginning and have tried many different ways of making our sexual/marriage issues better to no avail. So, i simply reached a wall and said i either have sex with other men and we stay married, or i have sex with other men and we divorce -either way i need to have sex in my life. It's not so simple to just divorce, there are children and financial considerations that make it quite complicated. A novel way to solve our problems outside of divorce would have been preferred