Does this make me a slut????

[Not_Punny]

The recent slut thread got me to thinking (and to counting)...

I know everyone thinks I'm a slut...

But am I?????

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In my entire life, and it's a looooong life (I'm the mom of teens!) I have had intercourse with exactly TEN men.

-- Two men I was married to.

-- Three men I was engaged to, including my current s/o of seven years (I haven't married him because I have minor children, and I feel that I need to respect the children and not give them a stepdad to contend with)

-- One guy ONCE - he popped my cherry when I was passed out drunk and barely 15 years old (I woke up to the ouch, and for that moment of pain, I almost got banished to live with Texan relatives that I had never even met)

-- One guy ONCE that banged me (again passed out drunk) in a parking lot (I woke up to the ouch). I was out drinking because a scumbag fiance had just dumped me.

-- Three guys in the last few years who were experiments as threesomes and/or to see if I could have sex for sex's sake.

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There are other men who have watched me and my s/o, and/or I've blown them (I do like a nice dick).

So................

Does that make me

-- A whore

-- A slut

-- Bill Clinton

-- An idiot for posting this thread.

Please vote accordingly. :tongue:

 

[SpoiledPrincess]

An idiot for posting this thread you can fuck who you want and if you feel you're not a slut then you're not, we're in charge of our sexuality, no one else.

 

[saturn]

An idiot for posting this thread you can fuck who you want and if you feel you're not a slut then you're not, we're in charge of our sexuality, no one else.

that`s right, i would say exactly the same !

 

[Not_Punny]

But my IQ is above 2.... how can I be an idiot?!

I don't even drool!

 

[Osiris]

Most women these days that are marked with the ambiguous title of "slut" are usually marked that out of jealousy.

You are not a slut in my book.

 

[B_ScaredLittleBoy]

Well my ex had had 15 (at least) men and she was only 25. So she was a LOT better slut than you missus! What kind of slut do you think you are anyway?

You should be ashamed. I suggest you give up being a slut and look for something else to do! :tongue:

Really though, is not so bad. If I were as hot as you I'd have slept with at least ten, probably more... :smile:

FYI I view a slut as someone who sleeps with many men, strange men and usually without protection. I don't look down on them because I wouldn't be on top of them in the first place. Not my thing.

10 is a perfectly acceptable number. The aforementioned ex was worried that her husband (to be?) had slept with 30-something people. If it doesn't bother you (which I don't think it does) - but rather it bothers you that it bothers other people - then those people are just jealous and not worth your time. I, however... :biggrin1: am worth many hours.

 

[Axcess]

Nope , you aren't a slut . You are simply a normal woman . :wink::wink::wink:

 

[Catchoftheday]

The Does that make me

-- A whore

-- A slut

-- Bill Clinton

-- An idiot for posting this thread.

Please vote accordingly. :tongue:

You never mentioned money changing hands so you cant really be a whore ive checked your pics if your Bill Clinton youve had SERIOUS cosmetic surgery. Im not sure what a slut is I dont think you're one and I dont think you're an idiot Im not sure why you would want to share this information with lots of people you dont know.So...is there a reason for asking?

 

[D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah]

It makes you crazy for caring what any of us think and asking us to judge you.

 

[Drifterwood]

How could you possibly think you might be a slut - how does society get to that point? I bet the Pope has shagged more people than you.

 

[jeff black]

A slut? Come on now. You've had ten partners after being sexually active for 15ish years. Trust me, you are just fine.

 

[ManlyBanisters]

A slut? Come on now. You've had ten partners after being sexually active for 15ish years. Trust me, you are just fine.

I am interested to know at what number of partners (in a given time frame) it stops being 'just fine' in your perception.

 

[Axcess]

I am interested to know at what number of partners (in a given time frame) it stops being 'just fine' in your perception.

Maybe over 20 ?:biggrin1::biggrin1::biggrin1:

 

[ManlyBanisters]

Maybe over 20 ?:biggrin1::biggrin1::biggrin1:

In what time frame?

 

[Axcess]

In what time frame?

in less than a year? I don't know . :biggrin1::biggrin1::biggrin1:

 

[jeff black]

I am interested to know at what number of partners (in a given time frame) it stops being 'just fine' in your perception.

To be honest, I try not to judge people. I think it depends on the person.

For example, I'm good friends with a guy who had 50 partners over a six year span. Really nice guy. I'm also good friends with a girl who had 50 over 2 years at college. Still a nice girl.

Personally, I think it's easier to judge people when you don't know them. If I was at a party and someone said,
" Hey JB, that girl/guy is a slut and has sex with anyone. They've had sex over 100 times" I'd think they were a slut. However, when you know the person, you understand them a bit better and can see why they had sex so often. Life is one bit psychological ride.

Wow, I ramble alot. Here is the 'to-the-point' answer:

I don't have a set time. Perhaps 1000 in a ten year spand? It really depends on who it is and why they did it.

If you've had more than 1000 from the time you were 16-26, I might look at you and feel a little uncomfortable around you. Who knows? I tend to not have friends who are overly outgoing sexually.

 

[B_andyo]

2 sexual partners per year is acceptable.... lets just say you tend to have bad relationships.. (w/e) in 20 years thats 40 partners.. but if in less than 3 years you have 40 partners, sorry it is not the same thing..

my sexual partners probably were lying, at least some of them since there is not way possible that all those girls only been with 2-5 guys. Then again I don't pick `them from bars or clubs.

 

[jeff black]

2 sexual partners per year is acceptable....

but if in less than 3 years you have 40 partners, sorry it is not the same thing..

Aren't you a porn star now?

 

[B_lamdellboo]

You're definitely not a slut. Or a whore.
I'd sooner call myself one.

(You're no Clinton, either. )

 

[ManlyBanisters]

in less than a year? I don't know . :biggrin1::biggrin1::biggrin1:

To be honest, I try not to judge people. I think it depends on the person.

For example, I'm good friends with a guy who had 50 partners over a six year span. Really nice guy. I'm also good friends with a girl who had 50 over 2 years at college. Still a nice girl.

Personally, I think it's easier to judge people when you don't know them. If I was at a party and someone said,
" Hey JB, that girl/guy is a slut and has sex with anyone. They've had sex over 100 times" I'd think they were a slut. However, when you know the person, you understand them a bit better and can see why they had sex so often. Life is one bit psychological ride.
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Thanks Jeff - that's a very thorough explanation of where you're coming from.

I think it is intersting both Jeff and David see it in similar ways - that there is somewhere a line that gets crossed between 'person who enjoys sex' and 'slut'.

Looking at responses here and in the other thread about sluts I find it curious that all of us (even when, like Jeff [and I'd say me too], we try not to judge) feel that there is such thing as a slut but that the definition is really vague - and often shifts depending on several factors.

For some people it appears to be about number of partners over a given time - that is what milf is asking us to consider. She is also asking us to consider the relationships she had with the men she has had sex with. She even considers two incidents that many would consider rape in her list that we should judge her on (even though her consent was not given)*. Both in this thread and the other, people are discussing the motivation for sex, the choice of partner, their feelings for the person who may or may not be considered a slut, and so on.

Looking at the highly objective way that this is judged socially, even by the open minded, starts me wondering if sluts exist at all. Is it not just a term we use, mainly for women but more these days for men too, to define a sexual behaviour that we don't understand? There are a few people who take the term and apply it to themselves (usually defiantly) but most of us do not think of ourselves as sluts and define slut as something else. And who is to say why a person feels the need / want of many partners - who is to say (if that needs comes from insecurity, sexual energy, an inability to be close without sexual contact, or something else) that it is something to be judged entirely negatively. Like Jeff says, he feels different about the people he feels he understands / knows - How can we judge the motivations of people when we don't know the full story?

I don't see why we need the word 'slut' at all. The word is dismissive and derisory. Promiscuous is a much better word - it doesn't judge and is easier to quantify. It is still relative and open to interpretation but it leaves the motivations of the promiscuous person unquestioned.

So - getting back to the OP - no, hotmilf, you aren't a slut because I don't believe in sluts, they don't exist. You aren't promiscuous either - not by modern standards. Having said all that, I am kind of left wondering why you care how other people might define you?


*I'm not questioning your motivation there, milf, I'm just looking at the question (hopefully) objectively - I hope you don't find this offensive - that certainly is not my intent.