Dreams having gay sex

[dfwzy]

Recently, I have been having dreams of me having gay sex with straight guys that I know. I've never done anything with a guy, but have been curious for a long time and urges have increased more recently. I just don't know how to go about doing ig???

I am not sure to what extent I want to engage, but definitely would like to blow a guy. Most of the dreams is of me blowing straight guys that I know. They are straight that I know of.

What can all this mean? Are these dreams trying to tell me something. Any advice, comments?

 

[learningwell]

I'm n2 men but the same things happen to me. I've even pursued a str8 guy for 17years because of a false sex dream. The only thing I know that some times it's not about the sex @All but it's prophetic/symbolic meaning.

 

[BulgeGuySD]

Recently, I have been having dreams of me having gay sex with straight guys that I know. I've never done anything with a guy, but have been curious for a long time and urges have increased more recently. I just don't know how to go about doing ig???

I am not sure to what extent I want to engage, but definitely would like to blow a guy. Most of the dreams is of me blowing straight guys that I know. They are straight that I know of.

What can all this mean? Are these dreams trying to tell me something. Any advice, comments?

I think you are gay, but society have you repressed those feelings, and obviously you refrain for acting on them, it happened to me I dfint came out until 23 y/o and is late for a gay guy. I missed so many opportunities including my families young gorgeous driver. he always complementing me on about everything particularly wen I wear my white school’s uniform on Monday’s, I knew he had a GF .. because he talk to my mom a lot
I had wet dreams about him. and not just blow him but kissing, liking him, wrap my self in his arms, I not sure if I ever har urges of being penetrated or penetrate him, but one thing I’m sure about is the I love everything about him, gorgeous bubble butt, and huge delicious bulge on him .. and very handsome blonde hair, bleu eyes tan. just gorgeous, of course my sisters melted every time they jump in the car, I always want to ride in the front with him, but my Father forbid anyone for riding next to the driver.. crazy shit.. but I love to be the last to go in to the car so I can take a pick of his crotch ( big bulge VPL) while he was siting on the car.

 

[BigredFFun]

I don't think you have to define garzelf as gay or straight, you're just you. And we are finally getting to live a world that understands that's ok. Enjoy the dreams, act on them if you like and if you have the opportunity, it's all good. Gay, straight, or bi (that's me), there's beautiful woven and beautiful bodies, and there's beautiful guys with beautiful cocks. Enjoy them!

 

[WilliamG]

Recently, I have been having dreams of me having gay sex with straight guys that I know. I've never done anything with a guy, but have been curious for a long time and urges have increased more recently. I just don't know how to go about doing ig???

I am not sure to what extent I want to engage, but definitely would like to blow a guy. Most of the dreams is of me blowing straight guys that I know. They are straight that I know of.

What can all this mean? Are these dreams trying to tell me something. Any advice, comments?

So is it the fact they are straight that makes it erotic? Or is it because you know them? Or both? If you acted on it would they have to be perceived "straight" for it to work?

 

[BiDude69]

Could be one of many things ... in the end, you know you better than anyone, you are thinking about this and you will know, deep down, what it is that is going on in your head. And if that is that you want to be with a guy, I hope you can admit it to yourself and not wait too long to act on it, that will only lead to regret.
Good luck!

 

[dfwzy]

I don't think you have to define garzelf as gay or straight, you're just you. And we are finally getting to live a world that understands that's ok. Enjoy the dreams, act on them if you like and if you have the opportunity, it's all good. Gay, straight, or bi (that's me), there's beautiful woven and beautiful bodies, and there's beautiful guys with beautiful cocks. Enjoy them!

I think this is exactly how I feel. I find both women and guys attracting, but more turned on by guys sexually...more with women for a partner/relationship. Thanks for the advice.

 

[deleted817718]

If I’m having sex in a dream it is always gay sex!

 

[BigredFFun]

So come try it, case closed. next...

 

[halcyondays]

I grew up straight and all my sex dreams were straight until I was at university. Then I started having gay dreams as well. For a short while they were so overwhelmingly gay I considered I might be gay. It made no sense given my massive attraction to women.

Freud said dreams are a wish.

Jung said most dreams are compensating for something--like an imbalance.

For example that short period of time when ALL my sex dreams were gay was a time when I strictly denied that I could be gay based on past evidence. Once I accepted I was bi my dreams returned to being 90% straight and 10% gay.

What happened was my psyche would not let me get away with denying the same-sex competent of my sexuality. It overwhelmed me with gay dreams until I admitted I was both.

How simple was that? Turned out my sexuality wasn't black and white, i.e. all one way or the other. It's both. Balance restored I went merrily on with life.

 

[deleted16577781]

I grew up straight and all my sex dreams were straight until I was at university. Then I started having gay dreams as well. For a short while they were so overwhelmingly gay I considered I might be gay. It made no sense given my massive attraction to women.

Freud said dreams are a wish.

Jung said most dreams are compensating for something--like an imbalance.

For example that short period of time when ALL my sex dreams were gay was a time when I strictly denied that I could be gay based on past evidence. Once I accepted I was bi my dreams returned to being 90% straight and 10% gay.

What happened was my psyche would not let me get away with denying the same-sex competent of my sexuality. It overwhelmed me with gay dreams until I admitted I was both.

How simple was that? Turned out my sexuality wasn't black and white, i.e. all one way or the other. It's both. Balance restored I went merrily on with life.

Love this. Thanks for sharing because we never know what lurks in our subconscious and you took a very pro active approach. I have crazy dreams and will contemplate them in this idea of 'balance'


I remember years ago listening to a doctor in the radio telling a female caller: you dream about murdering your mother! Great, at least it is in a dream because I'm real life you would probably end up in jail!!!!

 

[MrTMT]

This happened to me once, I was just out of high school and spent a late summer weekend at my brother's place where he sublet a room in a rental house (multiple occupants that unrelated). Because of that, I'd to slept on a couch in the living room. I remember vividly even today of that dream.
I was fucking some guy doggy style in a pool where the water was at the waist height, because of doggy style, I didn't know who the person I was fucking. I could feel the water splashing along as I was pounding away. Up until I was about to cum, suddenly I woke up. By that time, the sun was already up and shined through the windows onto my face.
I was really disappointed because I got interrupted and not able to enjoy the fucking to completion. I looked down and my dick was fully hard. I was glad that no one has awoken as I didn't know if I did anything (like jerked off) while I was dreaming.

 

[1373263]

Dreams and my subconsious were something that got me thinking hard about what i was into quite early on...
A mate came out as gay and it made me curious; why would someone have sex with a man when what I was getting from my GF was so good? I asked some questions during a drinking session and gay sex stuck in my mind. For the next week I had dreams about being with a man and it bugged me; I couldn't get it out of my head and was totally confused by my strong response.
Over the next month or so my curiosity continued, seeing and imagining my mate with his BF made my cock hard, and the dreams became more vivid; one night I had a dream that a guy was sucking my cock and wouldn't stop; I was dreaming that I was cumming in his mouth when I woke up, spraying cum all over the sheets. I was so scared of my reaction and took a cold shower, but the dreams continued over the next couple of weeks- I couldn't get away from it.

 

[BulgeGuySD]

I grew up straight and all my sex dreams were straight until I was at university. Then I started having gay dreams as well. For a short while they were so overwhelmingly gay I considered I might be gay. It made no sense given my massive attraction to women.

Freud said dreams are a wish.

Jung said most dreams are compensating for something--like an imbalance.

For example that short period of time when ALL my sex dreams were gay was a time when I strictly denied that I could be gay based on past evidence. Once I accepted I was bi my dreams returned to being 90% straight and 10% gay.

What happened was my psyche would not let me get away with denying the same-sex competent of my sexuality. It overwhelmed me with gay dreams until I admitted I was both.

How simple was that? Turned out my sexuality wasn't black and white, i.e. all one way or the other. It's both. Balance restored I went merrily on with life.

that is an amazing story, and very currareis, the curre ge lies on the fact of acceptance the inevitable, man we have that genie, the determine out sexual orientation, there so many studies about this, and yet not one is conclusive .. but for what your story tell us is it wasn’t a learning behavior, is not even a behavior.. is just nature.
my life got a lot easier after I accepted who I am, grew up in an ultra conservative family, no gays around me on both sides of my family Catholic.. my Dad was extremely homophonic.. and the irony is the in his family (Mexicans) we are at list 3 gay man .. Non on my (Italian) side of the family my Mother’s
an another time I’ll tell you what am I going thought with a sexual partner the he said he is bi..

 

[halcyondays]

that is an amazing story, and very currareis, the curre ge lies on the fact of acceptance the inevitable, man we have that genie, the determine out sexual orientation, there so many studies about this, and yet not one is conclusive .. but for what your story tell us is it wasn’t a learning behavior, is not even a behavior.. is just nature.
my life got a lot easier after I accepted who I am, grew up in an ultra conservative family, no gays around me on both sides of my family Catholic.. my Dad was extremely homophonic.. and the irony is the in his family (Mexicans) we are at list 3 gay man .. Non on my (Italian) side of the family my Mother’s
an another time I’ll tell you what am I going thought with a sexual partner the he said he is bi..

Thanks. I look forward to hearing your story. PM me if you want.

My family was similar being all Catholic but Irish & English (about as anglo as you can get!) except my parents were liberals in both politics and religion. They were taught that homosexuality was wrong but considered it mental illness not the fault of the individual. That was about as progressive as their generation became on the issue. Later in life it was a struggle for them to accept that homosexuality was no longer considered a disease.

Dreamwork. I took some psych classes at university forty years ago. Reading Freud & Jung I began dream journalling and learned quickly that some dreams--especially recurring dreams and nightmares--were doing almost exactly what Jung said they were--compensating for some imbalance in my mind, opinion, attitude or worldview. Many of my recurring dreams disappeared as I worked through them. It was a relief to be free of nightmares I had had since childhood.

I think you're right about genetics. It's highly unlikely that sexuality is determined by a single gene. Most other characteristics like how tall one grows are determined by many genes not just one. Few social behaviors have been linked to just one gene. Besides there's other scientific evidence which indicates that 90% or more of the population has some level of attraction to both sexes.

 

[BulgeGuySD]

Thanks. I look forward to hearing your story. PM me if you want.

My family was similar being all Catholic but Irish & English (about as anglo as you can get!) except my parents were liberals in both politics and religion. They were taught that homosexuality was wrong but considered it mental illness not the fault of the individual. That was about as progressive as their generation became on the issue. Later in life it was a struggle for them to accept that homosexuality was no longer considered a disease.

Dreamwork. I took some psych classes at university forty years ago. Reading Freud & Jung I began dream journalling and learned quickly that some dreams--especially recurring dreams and nightmares--were doing almost exactly what Jung said they were--compensating for some imbalance in my mind, opinion, attitude or worldview. Many of my recurring dreams disappeared as I worked through them. It was a relief to be free of nightmares I had had since childhood.

I think you're right about genetics. It's highly unlikely that sexuality is determined by a single gene. Most other characteristics like how tall one grows are determined by many genes not just one. Few social behaviors have been linked to just one gene. Besides there's other scientific evidence which indicates that 90% or more of the population has some level of attraction to both sexes. Thanks. I look forward to hearing your story. PM me if you want.

My family was similar being all Catholic but Irish & English (about as anglo as you can get!) except my parents were liberals in both politics and religion. They were taught that homosexuality was wrong but considered it mental illness not the fault of the individual. That was about as progressive as their generation became on the issue. Later in life it was a struggle for them to accept that homosexuality was no longer considered a disease.

Dreamwork. I took some psych classes at university forty years ago. Reading Freud & Jung I began dream journalling and learned quickly that some dreams--especially recurring dreams and nightmares--were doing almost exactly what Jung said they were--compensating for some imbalance in my mind, opinion, attitude or worldview. Many of my recurring dreams disappeared as I worked through them. It was a relief to be free of nightmares I had had since childhood.

I think you're right about genetics. It's highly unlikely that sexuality is determined by a single gene. Most other characteristics like how tall one grows are determined by many genes not just one. Few social behaviors have been linked to just one gene. Besides there's other scientific evidence which indicates that 90% or more of the population has some level of attraction to both sexes.

oh I absolutely believe that I’ll PM you

 

[deleted16577781]

Thanks. I look forward to hearing your story. PM me if you want.

My family was similar being all Catholic but Irish & English (about as anglo as you can get!) except my parents were liberals in both politics and religion. They were taught that homosexuality was wrong but considered it mental illness not the fault of the individual. That was about as progressive as their generation became on the issue. Later in life it was a struggle for them to accept that homosexuality was no longer considered a disease.

Dreamwork. I took some psych classes at university forty years ago. Reading Freud & Jung I began dream journalling and learned quickly that some dreams--especially recurring dreams and nightmares--were doing almost exactly what Jung said they were--compensating for some imbalance in my mind, opinion, attitude or worldview. Many of my recurring dreams disappeared as I worked through them. It was a relief to be free of nightmares I had had since childhood.

I think you're right about genetics. It's highly unlikely that sexuality is determined by a single gene. Most other characteristics like how tall one grows are determined by many genes not just one. Few social behaviors have been linked to just one gene. Besides there's other scientific evidence which indicates that 90% or more of the population has some level of attraction to both sexes.

I really like your comments and easy way of telling/sharing things.. thank you for the dream stuff. I only really look at my dreams when it occurs 'this one is important' but in context of 'balance' that is very interesting... and I get that... I'm lazy to write a lot of stuff but have started to, slowly

A friend was sharing that at a psychotherapy conference in Germany, he and a colleague were talking about sexuality and realised that 'they never had a unit/lectures' just on sexuality at University or their training... which I find rather odd, given that Sex/sexuality - even identity - plays such a big role/part in our daily living...

I was also sharing on here that a group at a German university wanted someone to talk to them about Homosexuality and the university refused to allow it on ? campus... this is absurd .... 2022 and people are still afraid 'dinosaurs'.. (just a phrase you use sometimes when it is hard to discuss things with people - living in fear of the past, which I can be quite good at of course, but....)

But, times are changing... I hope for the better...

 

[chrisrobin]

Recently, I have been having dreams of me having gay sex with straight guys that I know. I've never done anything with a guy, but have been curious for a long time and urges have increased more recently. I just don't know how to go about doing ig???

I am not sure to what extent I want to engage, but definitely would like to blow a guy. Most of the dreams is of me blowing straight guys that I know. They are straight that I know of.

What can all this mean? Are these dreams trying to tell me something. Any advice, comments?

Are they wet dreams, do you have an orgasm?

 

[1373263]

Jung said most dreams are compensating for something--like an imbalance.

For example that short period of time when ALL my sex dreams were gay was a time when I strictly denied that I could be gay based on past evidence. Once I accepted I was bi my dreams returned to being 90% straight and 10% gay.

What happened was my psyche would not let me get away with denying the same-sex competent of my sexuality. It overwhelmed me with gay dreams until I admitted I was both.

How simple was that? Turned out my sexuality wasn't black and white, i.e. all one way or the other. It's both. Balance restored I went merrily on with life.

I can relate to that...
After I split with my university girlfriend I had a lot more to do with my gay mate, meeting and socialising with his friends who were group of mainly gay men and women. It was at this time I had my first MM sex and really didn't like it- it didn't do much for me, and left me feeling guilty and icky. In the months following I justified to myself that I wasn't into men ("gay"as I then saw it) as I continued to be interested in women and hadn't enjoyed sex with a man- I used these two things to convince myself I was straight. However, my dreams were always about men; their intensity varied from passing to very sticky, but the theme was consistent. I was really confused as I was attracted to a woman I worked with during this period (and eventually had a 7 year relationship with her); it wasn't until that relationship had ended and I had allowed myself to be gently seduced by a male customer that I accepted that I was actually interested in both men and women.
I noticed that as I became more accepting of my interest in MM sex the intensity of my dreams about men diminished and from time to time I would dream about sex with women; it seems my mind is aware of what it likes even if I'm not aware of it.

 

[dfwzy]

Are they wet dreams, do you have an orgasm?

They are not, but when I wake up out of them...I have the hardest erection ever and usually finish myself off.

Why do you ask? PM me