Straight men out there who watch mostly gay porn or pay more attention to the man in straight porn?

[BCH]

You have a favorite scene/site or porn star? Just curious lol question for any of you who consider yourself straight

I do, I do...I'll have to find it. There is a straight couple, and TSA has the guy in a room for a search. The officer is a hot alpha guy. He strips this guy and then fucks him. It's hot because the fantasy is that the guy loves it. Powerr, sex, cum!!!

 

[ScotGirlJ]

This"I would suggest all men take a break from any influences and truly get to know their own instincts before dragging other people into your misery."

How about we (societies) first stop socializing males from birth to fear homosexuality? Young males are taught that they shouldn't play with dolls, that they don't wear "girly" colors, that they behave in certain "manly" ways, that they not touch other men or show any affection to other men - and that's just a start. In school, some men are bullied if they exhibit any behaviors other than what groups of guys consider masculine. As adults, men can be fired or denied housing if they are perceived as being other than heterosexual. Even in societies where homosexuality is more or less acceptable (the U.S., for example), we still hear the occasional celebrity or politician utter a gay slur. Many religions still don't accept anything other than an idealized version of heterosexuality. I could go on and on with examples.

Now, we get to those gray areas - bisexuality; men who identify as straight but are curious; men who identify as straight and pursue romantic and sexual relationships with women, but like looking at cocks; men who identify as straight but like to wear their wives' underwear when she's shopping. These men are persecuted by some on both sides - people who identify as straight, and people who identify as gay. The former because they don't understand such behavior. The latter who believe that anyone who has ever noticed a penis must indeed by gay.

So, it's not as easy as taking "a break from any influences." You're asking many of these guys to turn the switch off on decades of their own socialization, peer pressure, and guilt. Many men succumb to fierce social and familial pressure to marry women - even though they might have homosexual or other urges. They marry women, and after years of a less-than-fulfilling marriage, start exploring surreptitiously some of their urges - all the while feeling guilt and shame.

Certainly, many women may not be comfortable in a relationship with a man who is bisexual or has other than purely heterosexual urges (although, I tend to think such men are unicorns - quite rare). And, yes, men should be encouraged to explore their urges - but this encouragement should start as part of their early sex education. Thinking that a 30 or 40 year old man can just step back and understand fully his sexual orientation after decades of socialization just isn't realistic - it's more likely to be a journey for him than a light bulb suddenly turning on.

WTF? This isn't what I was talking about. You just went into this area to play the hero.

Influences = porn use.

Sorry, but it is black and white. Even curious or confused is labels that are black and white. You just say what you're confused or curious about. Those are labels themselves. Then you test the waters to see what you like. Then, if you realise that it's only 1 % for the other team, then you are still bisexual or pan. That's just facts. You can't define things when more people than yourself get affected. It effects everyone, and the other orientations lose credit when they aren't used properly. Straight will just be another word for gay or bisexual if this is misused, and then a new word will be generated for straight. That's just how communication with language works.

Men should not drag women into their confusion or even their porn addiction when they may be wasting that womans short period of time to reproduce. It's a fucking cruel and selfish decision. Using women as sheilds against stigma or as incubators until you become less curious is not what we are here for. And whether you like it or not, women are the other half of society. Women have gone through more than any man who is bi or straight. All are mostly at the hands of those men due to just being women. We don't get the shitty end of the deal for getting caught having an orgasm from the wrong gender. No, most women are lucky to even know what an orgasm is. No, we get the high numbers of rapes and murders just for being women. This has been a tradition since the big bang days. All because we were born women. So the "poor me because I can't decide or choose who to fuck" pity party doesn't measure up to what women go through and feel. Vulnerability and inferiority are just something you think is expected. Expectations are high and ongoing from day one by men and women. So we win the hard knock life award.

The bi rant is pointless. We know all the things you're saying because we hear them all the time. It doesn't stop these guys here from testing things out. Women don't get their dicks hard for bisexual men. It's just our biological reaction. Some won't care and will give them a go.

But really, all i care about is men dragging women into the misery. Or having kids who get dragged into the chaos. Men can do what they like as they always have done. You forget that men have always set the standards in what society deems acceptable. Societies more tolerable than ever with sexualities. You can just look at how many men who are on this site and do it behind their partners' backs to see how confident and popular this is getting now. Porn is an issue, so you can investigate that yourself. The virtue signalling can stop.

 

[NakedBuddy]

WTF? This isn't what I was talking about. You just went into this area to play the hero.

Influences = porn use.

Sorry, but it is black and white. Even curious or confused is labels that are black and white. You just say what you're confused or curious about. Those are labels themselves. Then you test the waters to see what you like. Then, if you realise that it's only 1 % for the other team, then you are still bisexual or pan. That's just facts. You can't define things when more people than yourself get affected. It effects everyone, and the other orientations lose credit when they aren't used properly. Straight will just be another word for gay or bisexual if this is misused, and then a new word will be generated for straight. That's just how communication with language works.

Men should not drag women into their confusion or even their porn addiction when they may be wasting that womans short period of time to reproduce. It's a fucking cruel and selfish decision. Using women as sheilds against stigma or as incubators until you become less curious is not what we are here for. And whether you like it or not, women are the other half of society. Women have gone through more than any man who is bi or straight. All are mostly at the hands of those men due to just being women. We don't get the shitty end of the deal for getting caught having an orgasm from the wrong gender. No, most women are lucky to even know what an orgasm is. No, we get the high numbers of rapes and murders just for being women. This has been a tradition since the big bang days. All because we were born women. So the "poor me because I can't decide or choose who to fuck" pity party doesn't measure up to what women go through and feel. Vulnerability and inferiority are just something you think is expected. Expectations are high and ongoing from day one by men and women. So we win the hard knock life award.

The bi rant is pointless. We know all the things you're saying because we hear them all the time. It doesn't stop these guys here from testing things out. Women don't get their dicks hard for bisexual men. It's just our biological reaction. Some won't care and will give them a go.

But really, all i care about is men dragging women into the misery. Or having kids who get dragged into the chaos. Men can do what they like as they always have done. You forget that men have always set the standards in what society deems acceptable. Societies more tolerable than ever with sexualities. You can just look at how many men who are on this site and do it behind their partners' backs to see how confident and popular this is getting now. Porn is an issue, so you can investigate that yourself. The virtue signalling can stop.

Honestly, if you intend to convince someone that your point of view is right, the wrong way to go about it is to hurl insults. At best, such insults irritate the reader. At worst, the reader thinks you are insane. Either way, the reader stops listening to you.

I stand by my prior comments.

 

[Casanova2229]

Imma be real with this, so don't take it as an offense, but if a man has "unholy" thoughts about men despite not engaging into gay sex or not fully being comfortable with it, then maybe "straight" wouldn't be the most accurate label.

People can have fantasies. Chill.

 

[LVCB77]

"Considering myself straight" might be a bit of a stretch based on my gay porn fetish and my previous post! As for gay porn, nothing turns me on like anal scenes with Athletic/muscular men.

 

[ScotGirlJ]

Honestly, if you intend to convince someone that your point of view is right, the wrong way to go about it is to hurl insults. At best, such insults irritate the reader. At worst, the reader thinks you are insane. Either way, the reader stops listening to you.

I stand by my prior comments.

Is this your version of telling women to calm down?

Or maybe it's just how you respond to women? Hmm..

Maybe next time, you can just read around the "insults" and get to the important parts of the message. Sometimes, the "insults" aren't there to change anything, and some "insults" are even deserved. I didn't really think I would stand a chance on here anyway. No one wants to reform you, so you can go back and unclench. You can stay entitled and believe that you're right because your opinion is the only one that matters after all.

Don't respond, please, as that's what I would have preferred from yourself. I don't like people telling me what I should or should not be doing. Especially a man.

 

[BIGBULL29]

"I would suggest all men take a break from any influences and truly get to know their own instincts before dragging other people into your misery."

How about we (societies) first stop socializing males from birth to fear homosexuality? Young males are taught that they shouldn't play with dolls, that they don't wear "girly" colors, that they behave in certain "manly" ways, that they not touch other men or show any affection to other men - and that's just a start. In school, some men are bullied if they exhibit any behaviors other than what groups of guys consider masculine. As adults, men can be fired or denied housing if they are perceived as being other than heterosexual. Even in societies where homosexuality is more or less acceptable (the U.S., for example), we still hear the occasional celebrity or politician utter a gay slur. Many religions still don't accept anything other than an idealized version of heterosexuality. I could go on and on with examples.

Now, we get to those gray areas - bisexuality; men who identify as straight but are curious; men who identify as straight and pursue romantic and sexual relationships with women, but like looking at cocks; men who identify as straight but like to wear their wives' underwear when she's shopping. These men are persecuted by some on both sides - people who identify as straight, and people who identify as gay. The former because they don't understand such behavior. The latter who believe that anyone who has ever noticed a penis must indeed by gay.

So, it's not as easy as taking "a break from any influences." You're asking many of these guys to turn the switch off on decades of their own socialization, peer pressure, and guilt. Many men succumb to fierce social and familial pressure to marry women - even though they might have homosexual or other urges. They marry women, and after years of a less-than-fulfilling marriage, start exploring surreptitiously some of their urges - all the while feeling guilt and shame.

Certainly, many women may not be comfortable in a relationship with a man who is bisexual or has other than purely heterosexual urges (although, I tend to think such men are unicorns - quite rare). And, yes, men should be encouraged to explore their urges - but this encouragement should start as part of their early sex education. Thinking that a 30 or 40 year old man can just step back and understand fully his sexual orientation after decades of socialization just isn't realistic - it's more likely to be a journey for him than a light bulb suddenly turning on.

We're on the same page, buddy.

So much suffering is caused by homophobia. It's truly disgusting.

All men are curious about other men's penis sizes, bodies, etc. It's normal and natural. Why do you thing straight porn is full of big dick? Why are we torturing men this way still in 2025?

 

[NakedBuddy]

Is this your version of telling women to calm down?

Or maybe it's just how you respond to women? Hmm..

Maybe next time, you can just read around the "insults" and get to the important parts of the message. Sometimes, the "insults" aren't there to change anything, and some "insults" are even deserved. I didn't really think I would stand a chance on here anyway. No one wants to reform you, so you can go back and unclench. You can stay entitled and believe that you're right because your opinion is the only one that matters after all.

Don't respond, please, as that's what I would have preferred from yourself. I don't like people telling me what I should or should not be doing. Especially a man.

Ok, so now it's clear. It was the latter.

 

[Stumpjumper310]

I watch porn that involves a specific fetish. It's usually solo guys or two guys and usually isn't overtly sexual (like oral or anal). I don't usually care about the guy himself. I think about his headspace and what he/they is/are feeling. My kinks are pretty sensory. Every once in a while I pay attention to the guy, if he is a jock or fratty type but it's more about their attitudes in the videos. I also like videos where the guy is completely unattractive too -- it's about the action and headspace.

With straight vanilla porn, it's similar. Sometimes I just find the woman attractive. Sometimes I watch what the guy is doing and myself in his shoes and pretend it's me.

I don't know what I am. I had some experiences with guys lately that veered into more sexual stuff and it did nothing for me. I was completely dissociated. I don't think I can really label what I am and I am sort of fine with that.

 

[njnudeguy]

I am mostly str8 but play with guys once in awhile when I can. I watch more gay porn because for me a lot of newer str8 porn is pretty misogynistic - which is a total turn off. When I watch str8 porn it's mostly the amateur stuff because the performers actually seem to care about each other more.

 

[RO.MG]

I'm mostly straight, I've definitely fantasized a normal amount about guys but yeah I'm straight. I say mostly because these days it's a question.

I can appreciate a good looking guy but any thoughts of intimacy with a guy lead more to "whatever girl he has/will have would be really lucky." Henry Cavill I've definitely stared you up and down and thought unholy things but that's where it would stop, just thoughts.

Sometimes I would pay attention more to the man while watching straight porn, specifically if he was muscular, hung, good-looking, and knew what he was doing. Bruce Venture's body for one I remember being really fascinated with aesthetically, like looking at a Greek sculpture.

I don't know what it is about gay porn though that I enjoy it so much and eventually almost exclusively watched gay porn. There's something so hot about the concept of me watching another man in the act of masturbation for example. I feel almost as if I shouldn't be watching, yet something about it is so tempting, the same energy of thoughts like "it wouldn't hurt to take one peek at the guy changing next to me in the locker room." Maybe it's my mirror neurons going crazy and my caveman brain just gets horny when I observe people being sensual. And then something about two hot guys willingly getting it on is super sexy to me, yet also wrong at the same time. I think since they're both guys, they sort of know what feels good and stuff and it's exciting to have a mutually pleasing experience, but the naughtiness factor of it being two men and the "taboo" (in quotations bc it's 2025) factor of it add to the vibe. Anyway that's the gist of it I think. Does anyone else relate?

Yeah, let's try

 

[LVCB77]

No one likes to mention this part about porn use. I'm no prude, and I like porn myself. But with the right conditions, it can escalate into needing more exciting taboo scenes, and after a while, in comes the fantasies that urge you to want to try things out for real. "Why not try it if no one knows about it?" Is what many now divorced men said. Do you know how many women over these last few years put posts up on a mums site that I'm on, under the "my man's gay" subject matter. So many are upset, confused, and heartbroken about catching their husbands or boyfriends watching gay porn, having the grindr app or similar apps, and some have even caught theirs on subreddits talking to other men. There's more subreddits for married men to meet men than there are to meet other women. I suppose it's because women need effort and time with maybe some commitment before they would give those men what they want, which is just sex. Two women wrote that they divorced their men after decades together once they became obsessed with pegging and couldn't climax from penetration after a while. Those ones started f*cking around as the story came out after their divorces. They told us all some funny stories. One woman, though, had lost her 8 month unborn child after getting off her nightshift job early and catching her husband of 8 years with a man from grindr in her f*cking living room. She went into shock and lost the child. He blamed her being pregnant and not having sex as much, which led him to porn and then this because he thoughtfully didn’t want to put in effort or make commitments to women (how sweet!). He had done it 3 times before, and the first time he did it, he was drunk, he claims. I feel like I'm living in the twilight zone. A lot of men now just put their own sexual pleasure above people's feelings. People who they claim to love! Those personal stories were an eyeopener to some naive women.

I don't give a sh*t what men do or want to do, but just stay single doing it. Why even open that door if there's no intentions? It's cruel. Especially when it's those women who lose the most whilst everyone else goes off into the sunset to live their best life. I'm maybe bitter because my friend has been through it, and she was and still is on a scale of top model level type of beauty with the humbleness and kindness to go with her. She was everything I wanted to be. Yet because of this mans selfishness, she managed to lose all her self-worth and confidence in one night and then soon became depressed and suicidal. She hasnt been the same and hasnt dated properly since. Even though her ex was sorry and claims he wants her back even now, it's just too late. All trust in men and her own judgment has gone, and he took that from her. We egged his windows and car one night whilst drunk because I'm petty like that, but it cheered her up.

So if anyone's capable of some empathy and feels guilt, then I'd maybe think of ending situations before starting any new ones. Turn off the porn and the media and listen to your own instincts once it all calms down with no other influences to help you.

It's all just a sign of the f*cking times! I'd rather have 187 cats and a highly powerful, long life battery-powered vibrator than deal with this sh

No one likes to mention this part about porn use. I'm no prude, and I like porn myself. But with the right conditions, it can escalate into needing more exciting taboo scenes, and after a while, in comes the fantasies that urge you to want to try things out for real. "Why not try it if no one knows about it?" Is what many now divorced men said. Do you know how many women over these last few years put posts up on a mums site that I'm on, under the "my man's gay" subject matter. So many are upset, confused, and heartbroken about catching their husbands or boyfriends watching gay porn, having the grindr app or similar apps, and some have even caught theirs on subreddits talking to other men. There's more subreddits for married men to meet men than there are to meet other women. I suppose it's because women need effort and time with maybe some commitment before they would give those men what they want, which is just sex. Two women wrote that they divorced their men after decades together once they became obsessed with pegging and couldn't climax from penetration after a while. Those ones started f*cking around as the story came out after their divorces. They told us all some funny stories. One woman, though, had lost her 8 month unborn child after getting off her nightshift job early and catching her husband of 8 years with a man from grindr in her f*cking living room. She went into shock and lost the child. He blamed her being pregnant and not having sex as much, which led him to porn and then this because he thoughtfully didn’t want to put in effort or make commitments to women (how sweet!). He had done it 3 times before, and the first time he did it, he was drunk, he claims. I feel like I'm living in the twilight zone. A lot of men now just put their own sexual pleasure above people's feelings. People who they claim to love! Those personal stories were an eyeopener to some naive women.

I don't give a sh*t what men do or want to do, but just stay single doing it. Why even open that door if there's no intentions? It's cruel. Especially when it's those women who lose the most whilst everyone else goes off into the sunset to live their best life. I'm maybe bitter because my friend has been through it, and she was and still is on a scale of top model level type of beauty with the humbleness and kindness to go with her. She was everything I wanted to be. Yet because of this mans selfishness, she managed to lose all her self-worth and confidence in one night and then soon became depressed and suicidal. She hasnt been the same and hasnt dated properly since. Even though her ex was sorry and claims he wants her back even now, it's just too late. All trust in men and her own judgment has gone, and he took that from her. We egged his windows and car one night whilst drunk because I'm petty like that, but it cheered her up.

So if anyone's capable of some empathy and feels guilt, then I'd maybe think of ending situations before starting any new ones. Turn off the porn and the media and listen to your own instincts once it all calms down with no other influences to help you.

It's all just a sign of the f*cking times! I'd rather have 187 cats and a highly powerful, long life battery-powered vibrator than deal with this sh*t. Bliss!

Silly me, I thought this site was a secret refuge for me to confess my thoughts about and exclusively with other men. Actually, seeing a lady on here unabashedly responding to my confession is refreshing and eye opening.

I wouldn't begin to deny or denounce the impact of deception in a relationship, but what if it was just a fantastic indulgence? If it never amounted to actual physical cheating? Would it be a bad thing if it stayed secret to the one having that fantasy and indulging the fant?

No one likes to mention this part about porn use. I'm no prude, and I like porn myself. But with the right conditions, it can escalate into needing more exciting taboo scenes, and after a while, in comes the fantasies that urge you to want to try things out for real. "Why not try it if no one knows about it?" Is what many now divorced men said. Do you know how many women over these last few years put posts up on a mums site that I'm on, under the "my man's gay" subject matter. So many are upset, confused, and heartbroken about catching their husbands or boyfriends watching gay porn, having the grindr app or similar apps, and some have even caught theirs on subreddits talking to other men. There's more subreddits for married men to meet men than there are to meet other women. I suppose it's because women need effort and time with maybe some commitment before they would give those men what they want, which is just sex. Two women wrote that they divorced their men after decades together once they became obsessed with pegging and couldn't climax from penetration after a while. Those ones started f*cking around as the story came out after their divorces. They told us all some funny stories. One woman, though, had lost her 8 month unborn child after getting off her nightshift job early and catching her husband of 8 years with a man from grindr in her f*cking living room. She went into shock and lost the child. He blamed her being pregnant and not having sex as much, which led him to porn and then this because he thoughtfully didn’t want to put in effort or make commitments to women (how sweet!). He had done it 3 times before, and the first time he did it, he was drunk, he claims. I feel like I'm living in the twilight zone. A lot of men now just put their own sexual pleasure above people's feelings. People who they claim to love! Those personal stories were an eyeopener to some naive women.

I don't give a sh*t what men do or want to do, but just stay single doing it. Why even open that door if there's no intentions? It's cruel. Especially when it's those women who lose the most whilst everyone else goes off into the sunset to live their best life. I'm maybe bitter because my friend has been through it, and she was and still is on a scale of top model level type of beauty with the humbleness and kindness to go with her. She was everything I wanted to be. Yet because of this mans selfishness, she managed to lose all her self-worth and confidence in one night and then soon became depressed and suicidal. She hasnt been the same and hasnt dated properly since. Even though her ex was sorry and claims he wants her back even now, it's just too late. All trust in men and her own judgment has gone, and he took that from her. We egged his windows and car one night whilst drunk because I'm petty like that, but it cheered her up.

So if anyone's capable of some empathy and feels guilt, then I'd maybe think of ending situations before starting any new ones. Turn off the porn and the media and listen to your own instincts once it all calms down with no other influences to help you.

It's all just a sign of the f*cking times! I'd rather have 187 cats and a highly powerful, long life battery-powered vibrator than deal with this sh*t.

Silly of me to assume this site was a secret refuge for my male confessions but here we are. It's cool and refreshing to see a female be on here and unabashedly chime in on my post.

I totally see how an admittance of indulging in gay porn can seem as a gateway to the ultimate deception and violation of a hetero relationship and slight to the female in said relationship. However, if it never amounts to actual cheating, physically, is this a violation or a negative thing? Is it okay to keep it secret?

The "gateway drug" thesis of porn deems this idea impossible but when we think about the fantasy that exists in all human minds, it is a feasible proposition to have these fantasies or any other ones played out on a pornographic and even masturbation level without crossing the line into a relationship violation.

 

[Bagyiw]

I do, I do...I'll have to find it. There is a straight couple, and TSA has the guy in a room for a search. The officer is a hot alpha guy. He strips this guy and then fucks him. It's hot because the fantasy is that the guy loves it. Powerr, sex, cum!!!

Do you have the link?

 

[BCH]

Do you have the link?

Damn, I can't find it. I thought that I had saved it. I'll keep looking.

 

[BIGBULL29]

I watch porn that involves a specific fetish. It's usually solo guys or two guys and usually isn't overtly sexual (like oral or anal). I don't usually care about the guy himself. I think about his headspace and what he/they is/are feeling. My kinks are pretty sensory. Every once in a while I pay attention to the guy, if he is a jock or fratty type but it's more about their attitudes in the videos. I also like videos where the guy is completely unattractive too -- it's about the action and headspace.

With straight vanilla porn, it's similar. Sometimes I just find the woman attractive. Sometimes I watch what the guy is doing and myself in his shoes and pretend it's me.

I don't know what I am. I had some experiences with guys lately that veered into more sexual stuff and it did nothing for me. I was completely dissociated. I don't think I can really label what I am and I am sort of fine with that.

Totally relate.

I don't like oral with dudes. I don't like playing with a dude's dick, but I like to watch male strippers, etc. I enjoy watching men in porn at times. That said, kissing is about all I like with a man. I'd rather penetrate a woman I fancy. I like MFM, but I wouldn't want to do anymore than be maybe touch his balls jokingly, or slap his hot ass. It's all really bizarre.

I just enjoy what I enjoy.

Do I relate to gay men in general. Not really. Do I relate to straight men in general. Sometimes, a little more, but not by much.

I'm just me, Bigbull29.

 

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[kuzcoOPN]

I've always considered myself straight. I've been married to my wife for several years and I'm still happy. But for a long time I've been consuming gay porn. Surely people would label me as bi but not me, maybe because I don't see myself in a relationship with a man. I don't watch a lot of bi porn, I like straight porn but I prefer gay porn even more. I love masturbating while watching real guys especially in amateur porn. I like looking at hairy bodies. I like seeing guys get off eating their cum.

 

[daRose]

I've always considered myself straight. I've been married to my wife for several years and I'm still happy. But for a long time I've been consuming gay porn. Surely people would label me as bi but not me, maybe because I don't see myself in a relationship with a man. I don't watch a lot of bi porn, I like straight porn but I prefer gay porn even more. I love masturbating while watching real guys especially in amateur porn. I like looking at hairy bodies. I like seeing guys get off eating their cum.

Thanks for sharing- this got me hard lol

 

[dhbike]

I identified as 10% gay because I discovered that I get aroused by trans female porn. Later I started looking at gay porn and yes that arouses me also. Before this I never had a gay thought or desire.

 

[alexeddl]

I've always considered myself straight. I've been married to my wife for several years and I'm still happy. But for a long time I've been consuming gay porn. Surely people would label me as bi but not me, maybe because I don't see myself in a relationship with a man. I don't watch a lot of bi porn, I like straight porn but I prefer gay porn even more. I love masturbating while watching real guys especially in amateur porn. I like looking at hairy bodies. I like seeing guys get off eating their cum.

That’s about where I find myself too. Love jerking off to guys cumming, love the male form, a beautiful thick cock, and firm male muscles…something primal and raw about it that I just love ogling at. Same goes for women. I love gazing at beautiful, tight bodied women, with supple breasts and pink pussy.


Question for you mate: While you can’t see yourself in a relationship with a man, could you see yourself fucking a man (casual fling) even whilst married?