Straight men out there who watch mostly gay porn or pay more attention to the man in straight porn?

[Brayboy]

I've always considered myself straight. I've been married to my wife for several years and I'm still happy. But for a long time I've been consuming gay porn. Surely people would label me as bi but not me, maybe because I don't see myself in a relationship with a man.

That’s the core of it.
We need to accept that porn warps our mind a bit, esp. the volume and we consume it nowadays. As I mentioned earlier, I’m gay, never even kissed a woman, but I mostly watch straight porn.

I hope our western society is getting to a place where men can be a “bit bi” the way women seem to have had the flexibility to be since the 90s. Like the way girls can get drunk at a party and kiss, grope each other and not have an identity crisis about it.

 

[kuzcoOPN]

That’s about where I find myself too. Love jerking off to guys cumming, love the male form, a beautiful thick cock, and firm male muscles…something primal and raw about it that I just love ogling at. Same goes for women. I love gazing at beautiful, tight bodied women, with supple breasts and pink pussy.


Question for you mate: While you can’t see yourself in a relationship with a man, could you see yourself fucking a man (casual fling) even whilst married?

To be honest, I don't know. My wife makes me happy, that might be the only reason. I don't see myself with another woman either, to be honest. Gay porn turns me on and I watch it regularly. Maybe if I weren't in a fulfilling and satisfying relationship, I would want to explore more, but I don't feel the need. I think the important thing is to have an open mind and, above all, to respect each other.

 

[Smallteaplant]

"I would suggest all men take a break from any influences and truly get to know their own instincts before dragging other people into your misery."

How about we (societies) first stop socializing males from birth to fear homosexuality? Young males are taught that they shouldn't play with dolls, that they don't wear "girly" colors, that they behave in certain "manly" ways, that they not touch other men or show any affection to other men - and that's just a start. In school, some men are bullied if they exhibit any behaviors other than what groups of guys consider masculine. As adults, men can be fired or denied housing if they are perceived as being other than heterosexual. Even in societies where homosexuality is more or less acceptable (the U.S., for example), we still hear the occasional celebrity or politician utter a gay slur. Many religions still don't accept anything other than an idealized version of heterosexuality. I could go on and on with examples.

Now, we get to those gray areas - bisexuality; men who identify as straight but are curious; men who identify as straight and pursue romantic and sexual relationships with women, but like looking at cocks; men who identify as straight but like to wear their wives' underwear when she's shopping. These men are persecuted by some on both sides - people who identify as straight, and people who identify as gay. The former because they don't understand such behavior. The latter who believe that anyone who has ever noticed a penis must indeed by gay.

So, it's not as easy as taking "a break from any influences." You're asking many of these guys to turn the switch off on decades of their own socialization, peer pressure, and guilt. Many men succumb to fierce social and familial pressure to marry women - even though they might have homosexual or other urges. They marry women, and after years of a less-than-fulfilling marriage, start exploring surreptitiously some of their urges - all the while feeling guilt and shame.

Certainly, many women may not be comfortable in a relationship with a man who is bisexual or has other than purely heterosexual urges (although, I tend to think such men are unicorns - quite rare). And, yes, men should be encouraged to explore their urges - but this encouragement should start as part of their early sex education. Thinking that a 30 or 40 year old man can just step back and understand fully his sexual orientation after decades of socialization just isn't realistic - it's more likely to be a journey for him than a light bulb suddenly turning on.

This is bullshit. I will also say that you’re a coward. I have no pity or sympathy for men who married women under false pretenses. There were men who came out and lived life how they want despite sociatial pressure. Stop playing the victim

 

[NakedBuddy]

This is bullshit. I will also say that you’re a coward. I have no pity or sympathy for men who married women under false pretenses. There were men who came out and lived life how they want despite sociatial pressure. Stop playing the vict

This is bullshit. I will also say that you’re a coward. I have no pity or sympathy for men who married women under false pretenses. There were men who came out and lived life how they want despite sociatial pressure. Stop playing the victim

Oh ! I guess you told me! LOL

I stand by my comments…totally, completely, and without reservation.

 

[BCH]

Oh ! I guess you told me! LOL

I stand by my comments…totally, completely, and without reservation.

Sorry that people are haters. Nobody should judge or shame another because they don't know their journey. You do you. I have no judgment. The "blame" goes to society and religion, which think that they can dictate the sexuality of others...and many gay men are super judgmental.

 

[ScotGirlJ]

What's funny is that I've just come from a womans sub on another site. They were all talking about serving divorce papers to their neglectful husbands after finding their husbands gay porn collection. One had all of his filed by the male models name. They did say their husbands were distant but had no bedroom issues. One of the husbands won't even talk about it when he was confronted. I think they've had enough and don't want to stick around for the "what if?" Then I come on here are have a notification for this page.

So, if anyone gets given divorce papers, then let us know. There are 4 wives right now who are making moves. They are in a bit of a state, actually. Few girls have had to have the talk when you talk them off the ledge type of thing. It's not fun to see people in pain. I am selfishly and brazenly, hoping that those girls win in life.

Sign of the fucking times! The internet is also a bad influence in having women lose confidence in all men."Do you want to worry about cheating, closet cases, or both?".. we need to start handing out valium with relationships. I'm sure men also have their issues to worry about, but that's their story.

 

[vst1908_23]

I'm mostly straight, I've definitely fantasized a normal amount about guys but yeah I'm straight. I say mostly because these days it's a question.

I can appreciate a good looking guy but any thoughts of intimacy with a guy lead more to "whatever girl he has/will have would be really lucky." Henry Cavill I've definitely stared you up and down and thought unholy things but that's where it would stop, just thoughts.

Sometimes I would pay attention more to the man while watching straight porn, specifically if he was muscular, hung, good-looking, and knew what he was doing. Bruce Venture's body for one I remember being really fascinated with aesthetically, like looking at a Greek sculpture.

I don't know what it is about gay porn though that I enjoy it so much and eventually almost exclusively watched gay porn. There's something so hot about the concept of me watching another man in the act of masturbation for example. I feel almost as if I shouldn't be watching, yet something about it is so tempting, the same energy of thoughts like "it wouldn't hurt to take one peek at the guy changing next to me in the locker room." Maybe it's my mirror neurons going crazy and my caveman brain just gets horny when I observe people being sensual. And then something about two hot guys willingly getting it on is super sexy to me, yet also wrong at the same time. I think since they're both guys, they sort of know what feels good and stuff and it's exciting to have a mutually pleasing experience, but the naughtiness factor of it being two men and the "taboo" (in quotations bc it's 2025) factor of it add to the vibe. Anyway that's the gist of it I think. Does anyone else relate?

I think you are gay and you should try it

 

[BIGBULL29]

I watch porn that involves a specific fetish. It's usually solo guys or two guys and usually isn't overtly sexual (like oral or anal). I don't usually care about the guy himself. I think about his headspace and what he/they is/are feeling. My kinks are pretty sensory. Every once in a while I pay attention to the guy, if he is a jock or fratty type but it's more about their attitudes in the videos. I also like videos where the guy is completely unattractive too -- it's about the action and headspace.

With straight vanilla porn, it's similar. Sometimes I just find the woman attractive. Sometimes I watch what the guy is doing and myself in his shoes and pretend it's me.

I don't know what I am. I had some experiences with guys lately that veered into more sexual stuff and it did nothing for me. I was completely dissociated. I don't think I can really label what I am and I am sort of fine with that.

Fully relate...I've always been like this.

Take care, buddy.

 

[Smallteaplant]

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Most you guys are disgusting.

 

[daRose]

This thread is going off the rails....

 

[ScotGirlJ]

This thread is going off the rails....

I'm happy this is getting attention. It's about time it all stopped getting brushed under the rug. What do you expect when there's two different types of human beings having to unknowingly fight for this one resource? People don't deserve this.

 

[KappaAlphaPhi]

Anyone in la?

 

[specialluigi]

I'm mostly straight, I've definitely fantasized a normal amount about guys but yeah I'm straight. I say mostly because these days it's a question.

I can appreciate a good looking guy but any thoughts of intimacy with a guy lead more to "whatever girl he has/will have would be really lucky." Henry Cavill I've definitely stared you up and down and thought unholy things but that's where it would stop, just thoughts.

Sometimes I would pay attention more to the man while watching straight porn, specifically if he was muscular, hung, good-looking, and knew what he was doing. Bruce Venture's body for one I remember being really fascinated with aesthetically, like looking at a Greek sculpture.

I don't know what it is about gay porn though that I enjoy it so much and eventually almost exclusively watched gay porn. There's something so hot about the concept of me watching another man in the act of masturbation for example. I feel almost as if I shouldn't be watching, yet something about it is so tempting, the same energy of thoughts like "it wouldn't hurt to take one peek at the guy changing next to me in the locker room." Maybe it's my mirror neurons going crazy and my caveman brain just gets horny when I observe people being sensual. And then something about two hot guys willingly getting it on is super sexy to me, yet also wrong at the same time. I think since they're both guys, they sort of know what feels good and stuff and it's exciting to have a mutually pleasing experience, but the naughtiness factor of it being two men and the "taboo" (in quotations bc it's 2025) factor of it add to the vibe. Anyway that's the gist of it I think. Does anyone else relate?

Honestly probably because it relates more to what I feel, so I can fantasize a lot more clearly.

 

[dhbike]

I watch gay porn because to me it's deviant and therefore exiting and arousing. Can't' see that I would ever do anything with a man, but like admiring cocks but not the man it's attached to.

 

[KappaAlphaPhi]

You like sucking cock?

I watch gay porn because to me it's deviant and therefore exiting and arousing. Can't' see that I would ever do anything with a man, but like admiring cocks but not the man it's attached to.