I am friends with Lance. We met at Bar On Castro one evening while he was in San Francisco for the filming of "Milk." He stated that he is a writer, but I did not learn until later that he is the writer of the film. During his stay, we spent time together at The Café and The Stud. He confessed that he was interested in me, but did not want to pursue me, because his friend, whom he had been trying to introduce me to, expressed interest in me first. Likewise, I confessed that I was interested in him, but did not want to pursue him, because my friend had expressed interest in him first. Subsequently, I introduced them to one another, and they had sex on several occasions in his hotel room. I am kicking myself now. : P