Exploring Knowledge About Anal Sex

[Love in a Mist]

How would you explore the knowledge of anal sex when you was new to anal sex? Did you read any book, consult with someone or exploring by having anal sex experience directly?

Love to hear your story and what you have learnt.

 

[beginner63]

I talked to other guys on online forums, read articles. I experimented with butt plugs and dildos. The first guy to to me was older, experienced and very gentle

 

[damnimbi]

Two ways, one is trial and error, the other is asking. There are some great older threads here, with logs of good tips. I think the first one each is to take it slowly, and be comfortable.

 

[DiamondJoe]

Find a patient and practiced top who's happy to let you explore.

*hint hint*

 

[curtdude]

it may be gross but I started with a condom covered zucchini I had my way with it or it had its way with me. I knew from reading that there was pleasure there somewhere but at first it hurt like hell I thought I had ripped my butt hole in two then the pleasure came. I purchased a dildo and used it for a while until that day when Michael had his way with my ass we were both unexperianced with other dudes so he took it slow it felt great and he seeded my ass then it was my turn I followed and seeded his ass we did each other many times after that. i am glad it was with someone my age and unexperianced as I was instead of some old dude slamming my ass just to get his rocks off

 

[dickthrobbing]

I had been fucked with a strapon by a gf so the move to being fucked by a guy was quite natural

 

[WilliamG]

Try something as simple as a Coke bottle (empty of course). Once it goes in..? You'll know.

 

[Love in a Mist]

Try something as simple as a Coke bottle (empty of course). Once it goes in..? You'll know.

It sound really hot, must try someday then.

 

[bi2]

I talked to other guys on online forums, read articles. I experimented with butt plugs and dildos. The first guy to to me was older, experienced and very gentle

Same.

Do you realise and appreciate how fortunate and lucky we were?

My best advice to anyone out there curious about anal or wanting to try it the first time, is to be with someone who is older and experienced.

I never tried or experimented with butt plugs or dildos, my first partner gradually and slowly broke me in over a period of times we spent together. Now I know this is not practical for everyone, but it was pleasurable, enjoyable and not painful most importantly.

Once your Top partner has succesfully broken you in, your arse literally belongs to him lol.

 

[halcyondays]

I read The Joy of Gay Sex almost forty years ago. First edition was published in 1977. I read it as a university student. I recommend it highly. Many other good gay sex manuals have been written but Joy was the first widely published one I remember.

Taught me so much--especially how to top someone without injuring or killing them!

(Millennials and younger this is a book which is a papery thing with pages on which sentences and illustrations have been printed in ink.)

jk. More recent editions are available to download.

 

[diver6]

We had nobody to teach us, we just explored and figured it out and what felt good to do with each other. Watching dads porn helped too! lol

 

[pnwboy]

Same here. We were both inexperienced so we learned together and just went with what felt right. I somehow knew I wanted to feel him all the way inside me and I knew he wanted that too. It took some time before I was ready, (he has a thick cock) so thankfully he was very gentle and patient. We took things slow and made "stretching" me a very intimate thing we did together. The first time he bred me was the most intense and incredible feeling of our lives. It changed everything.

 

[Mister2101]

It "scares me" a little bit when I read about using vegetables or coke bottles........sorry I do not mean to judge......but why not just go buy a nice butt plug or dildo? Much safer and hygienically clean...

Any way....if you start playing with your ass using smaller butt plugs and dildos you can "train" your ass (and your mind and body) to being anally penetrated without pain. It will take some time (weeks or months of regular anal play). Use lots of lube....take your time......and let your ass get used to being opened up.....learn to relax and control your breathing.....eventually you will get to the point where there is very little pain, and your ass begins to crave the feeling. You will also be able to "experiment" with different size dildos, different position for being penetrated, different lubes.....how deep? how fast? how big? We're all different....but at some point you will begin striking and rubbing your prostrate....and things will start to feel really really good....like nothing you have ever felt before.....you'll know it when this happens....it feels that good.....

And yes...like many others have said....finding a partner to top you.....find a caring, experienced guy willing to take his time with you at first.....anal sex can and should be very pleasurable (in my opinion) rather than some painful experience...when done and experienced in the right way.........good, pleasurable, intimate anal sex will give you the most powerful and fulfilling orgasms that will change your views and perspective on sex. Hope this helps....it's my experience.....

 

[WilliamG]

It "scares me" a little bit when I read about using vegetables or coke bottles........sorry I do not mean to judge......but why not just go buy a nice butt plug or dildo? Much safer and hygienically clean...

Any way....if you start playing with your ass using smaller butt plugs and dildos you can "train" your ass (and your mind and body) to being anally penetrated without pain. It will take some time (weeks or months of regular anal play). Use lots of lube....take your time......and let your ass get used to being opened up.....learn to relax and control your breathing.....eventually you will get to the point where there is very little pain, and your ass begins to crave the feeling. You will also be able to "experiment" with different size dildos, different position for being penetrated, different lubes.....how deep? how fast? how big? We're all different....but at some point you will begin striking and rubbing your prostrate....and things will start to feel really really good....like nothing you have ever felt before.....you'll know it when this happens....it feels that good.....

And yes...like many others have said....finding a partner to top you.....find a caring, experienced guy willing to take his time with you at first.....anal sex can and should be very pleasurable (in my opinion) rather than some painful experience...when done and experienced in the right way.........good, pleasurable, intimate anal sex will give you the most powerful and fulfilling orgasms that will change your views and perspective on sex. Hope this helps....it's my experience.....

Great post! I started with the coke bottle simply out out of horny curiosity (looking at my gf's Playgirl magazine). Back then, a straight guy like me (haha) would not be caught with a dildo. The bottle showed me I would enjoy the play. But yes... Buy a silicone dildo! I started with a "starter set" from Tantus that came with 3 sizes. Also, they are of the very smooth variety - not the matte finish ones that can be "grippy". Also for a safe first lube, coconut, almond, or avocado oil works well on the smooth silicone. Once the toys are easy and fun... Anything goes...

 

[damnimbi]

Try something as simple as a Coke bottle (empty of course). Once it goes in..? You'll know.

Only if a hole has been bored into the bottom. I've seen stories about the suction in can create, making it impossible to pull out.

There are also the risks with something getting stuck inside, so suggest always using a dildo/object with a wide base.

 

[WilliamG]

Only if a hole has been bored into the bottom. I've seen stories about the suction in can create, making it impossible to pull out.

There are also the risks with something getting stuck inside, so suggest always using a dildo/object with a wide base.

I agree about safety. But... I did it a lot. Never had that issue. Now if you can get that bad boy all the way in... Maybe. But the newbie won't get past the first taper. Of course now my collection of real toys has grown.

 

[CoolHanz]

Back in 1984, I was working in a National park for the summer and fell into a sexual relationship with a gay male coworker. He was the first guy - and only guy for 35 years - who fucked me. And I fucked him too. We foolishly didn’t use condoms or lube. The pain from the penetration far exceeded and masked any pleasure there may have been. Also, my experience from fucking him was that I was grossed out when I had to clean his “excrement” off the tip of my cock.

That experience - as a young, naive college student essentially “scared me straight” for, well, 35 years.

Over the years, the visual of anal sex in videos has always been arousing but an experience that I was not open to reliving. But from chatting with new acquaintances on here and other forums, I have learned better how to prepare. So far, I have. Altered all of them with the exception of acquiring a plug or a dildo, which I really should do.

My suggestion for what it’s worth: Always use a condom until/unless you are in a committed or exclusive situation; lubricant is a requirement for both the top and bottom; cleanliness - a cheap enema from the pharmacy or a very good cleansing with water injected gently inside your rear goes a very long way towards relaxing and enjoying the experience particularly if it is likely that your partner will rim you during the experience.

My first experience being fucked in recent years was an older gentleman who took it slowly, lay on his back and let me lower myself onto his hard, condom covered, lubricated cock. The fact that he had a fast refractory period enabled us to fuck twice in rather quick succession which was great because I really enjoyed the second ride and THAT was the experience that has kept me interested in pursuing it when the opportunity is right. Subsequent experience has taught me that I really need to get a device to help me relax and train my sphincter. And yes, one friend had suggested one of the narrower and longer cucumbers.... don’t think I can do that.....

 

[WilliamG]

Subsequent experience has taught me that I really need to get a device to help me relax and train my sphincter. And yes, one friend had suggested one of the narrower and longer cucumbers.... don’t think I can do that.....

Get a couple nice dildos or two... or three. When I started out with toys, I'd have a cocktail, smoke a little 420 (Cali here). I use sweet almond or coconut oils for lube as they are water based and safe.Then I just just lay back and experiment.