If you have no intentions of meeting anyone for in person for sex is it cheating to chat online and talk about meeting even though you know you’ll never meet?
Fantasy Cheating
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Why? What's the turn on? And wouldn't you just be leading on the other person?
Cheating or being a time-waster?
I think that this depends on a few things:
- If you have a partner and what your boundaries are. Some people think that looking at porn is cheating ("mind cheating" - eye roll). Some people have open relationships but have rules like no repeats, or friends/friends of friends, etc.... It's all up to the individual arrangement. Only people in the relationships they might be cheating on know what the boundaries are. Dont know? It's probably time for a constructive talk to find out what the boundaries should be.
- Ethics regarding the other person. This kind of falls into the category of being a bit of a catfish, or a prick tease, or a time waster. Lots of people like to chat for titillation. Some people enjoy it on the way to hooking up, even with people who they'll never get there with. If you have no intention of ever meeting up though, it's probably most ethical to state that you're only looking for chat in your online profile. If leading people on so you can get as much chat out of them as possible with no intention of meeting up from the get go is your thing, I'd say that you'd be pushing the boundaries of common ethics there, but the harm factor is pretty low, because you could get all the way to whatever in-person sex act you want to name, and still pull the plug at any point. It's a bit of a fine line there.
I think that for either point, you have to ask yourself "is my behaviour causing harm to another person?" Would they / I feel bad if the truth were revealed?"
having done the 'online' dating thing, there are far too many guys who say one thing, ie lets meet up, but when it comes to it, just don't want to or never turn up.
if you're chatting on line and just want chat with no intention of actually meeting up just say, there's lots of guys on line willing to talk dirty etc if thats what you're after, just be upfront thats what you're looking for
then you won't waste the time of those who are genuinely looking to meet up and are not leading anyone on.
if you're chatting on line and just want chat with no intention of actually meeting up just say, there's lots of guys on line willing to talk dirty etc if thats what you're after, just be upfront thats what you're looking for
then you won't waste the time of those who are genuinely looking to meet up and are not leading anyone on.
Yeah, there’s a term for that on the internet and it’s called CAT-FISHING!
There’s a new law in Australia making cat-fishing illegal.
No, catfishing is using a fake identity to lead people on, ie using fake photos or details and pretending to be someone else not yourself.
So just leading someone on is not catfishing, though equally not nice.
Hmm, I think your intentions will answer this question. Are you doing it as an ego boost and nothing more? Also if you can't tell your partner honestly about it then you are on some level cheating... Maybe just emotionally at that point but still.
I think we all flirt but make sure the other guy knows that you are not serious so you don't potentially hurt them.
I think we all flirt but make sure the other guy knows that you are not serious so you don't potentially hurt them.
