Hey thanks for the answers. I really appreciate it. The two posts in a row really go to show how it is different for every woman.
For example, Enid, you describe the sensation as predominantly pain, but exotikittie describes it as a 'hurts so good' that it doesn't stop her. It seems like you are both referring to the stretching feeling.
Do you think it comes down to different physicality's or just past experience and what you learned to like? For example, I grew up masturbating without lube and I'm circumcised, some men might say I'm crazy, but I like it.
Or do you think that the different sex hormone levels in women result in different comfort levels when it comes to stretching? I'm under the impression one of the major female sex hormones 'comforts' the body when the vagina is stretching. I put comfort in quotes because it is all relative. And of course different vaginas.
I was curious because I know a girl who would see porn cocks and be scared of them. This always seemed crazy to me as a guy who could appreciate a nice looking cock. Especially considering that she had an accommodating vagina. She said she had a willingness to cross that bridge when she got to it, but not any bit sooner.
My idea was to get an extender, one for length and another for girth and surprise her one night (not with both at the same time) while she was tied down and blindfolded. I wouldn't be forceful at all and I would take it at her pace. Do you think it is a good idea or should I let her just enjoy my cock the way it is? Obviously I'd love to be the guy that could give her that first thrill (if she liked it).
She isn't interested in dildos because they are just rubber penis-like things. She wants a guy she can grab and like (as a person). So I figured an extender with me would get most of the way there, even though I imagine it can't compete with the real thing.
I want to cross that bridge because we are both interested in group sex, mmf and mff and possibly more. She has yet to have a positive experience with a big cock, but if we keep looking around for other people, it is bound to happen. So maybe I can see that twinkle in her eyes before some other lucky guy?
If I asked in a non-women's issue thread all the guys would say yes, so I'm trying to get some actual perspective. I'd ask her, but it would ruin the surprise. Yes I realize this is pretty neurotic.
This seems like ego to me. You want the pleasure of taking her to this place, which is nice, but since it is a place she seems reluctant to go, it is clearly all about you. Even in a group scenario, I see no inevitability; she always has the option of looking at a huge cock, if you even find one, and telling the guy, "That's too much for me. No thank you." That you want to make it a "surprise" after she has expressed fear, is kind of gross to me.
If you want this experience, there is nothing wrong with that desire. What is wrong is the surprise element. She isn't fucking interested in bigger, and has clearly given you that impression on purpose. I have no real doubt she would be willing to experiment with you, but talk to her about it. She's not your fuck hole to toy with. She is flesh and blood, and a functioning mind, her own sexual being, and I assume you give at least half a shit about her feelings. Show her what you're talking about. Ask her whether she'd be more nervous about length, or girth. Let her be relaxed and the willing recipient of what you want to give her. Anything else is... well... battery.
For the record, it wasn't your "harsh" wording in the other thread that let us all know that deep inside, where it really counts, you're just an asshole. It was that you commented on a situation you know nothing of, using "facts" you fabricated. You claimed I said things I never wrote. You claimed I said things that directly contradicted what I actually wrote. You're a troll, and a clown, and THAT is what bothered everyone who was bothered. THAT is why I said your opinions were worth so much less than used toilet paper.
Getting back to the topic in here, my comments on stretching:
It doesn't hurt me at all. It just feels like stretching. I wish I had a more articulate way to describe it, but I do not. That hurts-so-good feeling Exotikittie describes occurs for me only with really forceful penetration, and depending on the angle, I can get that from a huge cock, sure, but a small cock will do it too, especially now that I am used to my husband only for the past few years. I don't think of it like eating the same food. I bet spinach tastes the same to everyone, and some people like that bitter-sweet flavor, and that iron sting, and others do not. I don't think penetration by large dick feels the same to all women and that some like the sensation better than others. I think shape, size, stratification of epithelial tissue, and elasticity vary so much from person to person that the experience, though probably similar, is truly unique from woman to woman. I have extremely limited medical training, and only one cunt, so this is purely speculation.
A final word of caution. You will obviously have no nerve endings in your extenders. You won't be able to fuck her the way you do bare. You will miss some of the subtle cues her pussy gives your cock that you don't even think about. Typically, you would respond instinctively. That will change.
