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I'm gonna have my first time bottoming with my boyfriend this valintines day and wondering if anyone has some tips to share, I just wanna make sure its pleasurable for both of us
Desensitizing lubes can also desensitize the top's cock as well, and can also make you a little less aware if there's any tearing or reason to slow down. If he's into it, I find that a nice long rim job can achieve the same effect, without taking away from any sensations.
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Even your first time with a dildo will hurt. I just want them to not get scared and never follow through because it hurt a little bit the first time.Some good advice here. I do take issue with one point here though. It doesn’t have to hurt. Not even the first time. My first time was pain free. Practice before with a dildo or plug will help, and so will a top who is patient and understanding. Don’t rush it.
I think it depends. Like I said, my first time did not hurt. Not even a little. We warmed up and did a lot of foreplay, and once the big moment came, it slipped into me like butter. And this was not a small cock. Now, it was a different sensation, and was incredibly intense, but painful, not at all.Even your first time with a dildo will hurt. I just want them to not get scared and never follow through because it hurt a little bit the first time.
I think it depends. Like I said, my first time did not hurt. Not even a little. We warmed up and did a lot of foreplay, and once the big moment came, it slipped into me like butter. And this was not a small cock. Now, it was a different sensation, and was incredibly intense, but painful, not at all.
My experience may not be everybody's, I suppose, but I also think that with enough time and care, the pain factor can be reduced dramatically, and if like me, eliminated entirely.
I agree do NOT desensitize or numb the area, you really need to feel how it is going. I am not a fan of lube, I much prefer to use saliva, but with the first time I would recommend as much lube as you can possibly use. Lube on it's own is not going to numb the area. But never use those desensitizing creams/lubes.A lot suggest lube to numb the area, as a doctor do not do this. If you tear or cause any injury you may not feel it. Pain is there to make you stop and go slower. Lots of lube, I always give nice rim job and get my tongue inside my boyfriend and fingers. Relax and take it slow.