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Hey everyone! Making this thread to get this thing out of my chest. (This is a real story, names will not be mentioned). This happened not to long ago with a classmate of mine. I’ve known him since elementary school and we somehow managed to get into the same college too (Not in the same dorm unfortunately). Our college was doing an event where they invited interested students for the college for them to get introduced to the space and all that and they needed volunteers. Somehow, again, he also went as a volunteer and I did too. This lasted 3 days. During these 3 days, there was a bit of talking. Just discussing about the students and the heat, as it was 37°C in the campus. On the final day, me, him, and another friend of ours decided to order something to eat as we were very hungry. After a lot of discussion of who is going to pay, how etc etc, he offered to pay for all of our meals, which was very kind of him. As we wait for the food order to arrive, he had to go and get some stuff done and he told me “You can keep my phone, the passcode is 0000 just check up on the order to see if it’s coming” and I was like ok sure no problem. As he slowly walked away, I couldn’t resist and I looked through his gallery. This move of mine can be supported in various ways. For example he always says he is so straight and goes out with many girls and stuff like that and there is no way he can be bi or something like that and also claimed to have some hot pics of the girl she was “dating” a while back. It isn’t that he doesn’t support lgbt+, he knows I’m gay myself but he keeps denying allegations of him being bi. And I was like, ok mister, let’s see if you’re telling the truth here and actually have some pics in your gallery. As soon as I open the gallery; I’m greeted with at least 3 pictures of me being shirtless from my friends instagram story when I went to her house for a pool party. I will say it, I don’t have a great body, I am medium size fat and this man is like 1.5 heads taller than me and somewhat, to pretty skinny. I also found out that he has screenshots of a student who is in a year lower than us (don’t worry he is still 18+, turning 20 this July), who is completely shirtless and has his abs showing. After witnessing all that, I quickly put the phone down, deleted my pics and proceeded like nothing happened. I am sure he has noticed or at least picked up something sketchy was going on. Since then we make small talk from time to time through instagram about certain stuff. He hasn’t brought up anything related with the gallery incident. What do you think? Should I bring it up someday?
 
Hey everyone! Making this thread to get this thing out of my chest. (This is a real story, names will not be mentioned). This happened not to long ago with a classmate of mine. I’ve known him since elementary school and we somehow managed to get into the same college too (Not in the same dorm unfortunately). Our college was doing an event where they invited interested students for the college for them to get introduced to the space and all that and they needed volunteers. Somehow, again, he also went as a volunteer and I did too. This lasted 3 days. During these 3 days, there was a bit of talking. Just discussing about the students and the heat, as it was 37°C in the campus. On the final day, me, him, and another friend of ours decided to order something to eat as we were very hungry. After a lot of discussion of who is going to pay, how etc etc, he offered to pay for all of our meals, which was very kind of him. As we wait for the food order to arrive, he had to go and get some stuff done and he told me “You can keep my phone, the passcode is 0000 just check up on the order to see if it’s coming” and I was like ok sure no problem. As he slowly walked away, I couldn’t resist and I looked through his gallery. This move of mine can be supported in various ways. For example he always says he is so straight and goes out with many girls and stuff like that and there is no way he can be bi or something like that and also claimed to have some hot pics of the girl she was “dating” a while back. It isn’t that he doesn’t support lgbt+, he knows I’m gay myself but he keeps denying allegations of him being bi. And I was like, ok mister, let’s see if you’re telling the truth here and actually have some pics in your gallery. As soon as I open the gallery; I’m greeted with at least 3 pictures of me being shirtless from my friends instagram story when I went to her house for a pool party. I will say it, I don’t have a great body, I am medium size fat and this man is like 1.5 heads taller than me and somewhat, to pretty skinny. I also found out that he has screenshots of a student who is in a year lower than us (don’t worry he is still 18+, turning 20 this July), who is completely shirtless and has his abs showing. After witnessing all that, I quickly put the phone down, deleted my pics and proceeded like nothing happened. I am sure he has noticed or at least picked up something sketchy was going on. Since then we make small talk from time to time through instagram about certain stuff. He hasn’t brought up anything related with the gallery incident. What do you think? Should I bring it up someday?
I'm not sure how close you guys really are but you potentially destroyed a friendship because you were curious as to whether he was really straight. You didn't only invade his privacy, you deleted things from it (which he found online, so deleting it from his phone really didn't matter) and after it all, you are still no where close to determining whether he is actually straight or not.
 
Wether it's wrong or not, the first rule of spying is "do not get caught". You could've spied in his gallery but not leaving any clues. As long as you don't use it to expose him to anyone, instead just to find out of he's interested in guys so you can make a move, I guess it's fine (I wouldn't have the courage to do it though).
Considering he knows you did it, maybe it's best to open up. Talk to him eye to eye, say that you are sorry but you did it stupidly because you were curious. Don't say that you are interest on him yet, would scare him off. But take the chance to ask him why he had pictures of you. Be sure to make it clear that you won't say it to anyone, he needs to trust you after you giving him a reason not to.