Finally someone addresses this issue. To me it always seems like if you're not rail-thin,blonde,and twinkish looking then there is no chance of ever finding a partner.
It's hard to find acceptance in the gay culture at times.
I'm one of those (tall) thin blond (blue) things you speak of but I've always been hairy and am growing into moderation and looking my age finally.
It's a bit unnerving to be liked for certain superficial "sets."
The gay world has a large focus on two good looking cultures between being very well kept and stereo-typically good looking.
Sometimes it's awkward to be one, but not the other...or neither.
I can't even style my own hair.
It leads to a lack in confidence, which affects/effects attraction more.
Beauty comes from yourself and in a way is given to others.
I'm very fond of foreigners and more individualized qualities possessed by people that make them attractive.
It's a system of value.
Nice has it's shades too.
For every bit of tall blond thin blue I have along with looking younger than my years I have skin that rips, peels, and bleeds. Pocking, acne, scars along the inside of my mouth, lip, and a particularly large one next to my undescended testicle. (I've been dumped for that, by a runway model.) Being hairy sucks because a large part of the gay community treats you like an unnatural freak or a fetish.
I've been dating someone (not in a relationship) for the last two months - it doesn't bother me that he's balding, his hair is thinning/receding, he has acne and scars from it, and he's got dandruff like a motherfucker at times.
He sits across from me. I see him and his shadows. He sits beside me and lays his head on my shoulder rarely, offers to share a meal.
I know he's beautiful, he makes himself that way.
I'm not gonna say I'm ugly, but I'm beautiful - when the right person is looking.