A very interesting thread. Thanks to the OP for presenting it for discussion and insight.
I recently was at a social event made up of a diverse group of people - elderly, young, straight, gay, men, women etc. - Yeah, it was a theater. Following the concert, I saw a group of young people circled around a man who was seated. He was extremely obese and about sixty plus years old. He was more or less holding court with a great deal of laughter and smiles all around. He greeted each new arrival with enthusiasm and remembrance of something special about them. Then some of the young men assisted him out of his chair and the group walked him outside and helped him into his car.
I was struck by the love and affection these young people had to the man. It turned out he had been their voice teacher. He was gay, obese, unattractive in appearance but clearly possessed a spirit and a 'heart' that drew respect, compassion, affection and attention from others.
In light of the discussion on this thread, I think that all people should consider what they bring to a group of people other than their physical selves. A genuine interest and respect for others, a spirit of enthusiasm and joy in life, a vocation and career that feeds and sustains you in a myriad of ways....These are what attracts people.
We tend to find that which we seek. If we find superficiality in others, we need to see if it is reflected in ourselves. The poor guy who lost his partner and then didn't find support in a PFLAG community would need to really examine why and how he was part of that community. It would be a rare thing for a support group not to show genuine support.
In any case, my two cents in a thread that offered far more profound statements. I am going to work at treating others a bit better after reading this thread. Thanks, OP for the video and for offering its ideas for discussion.