shame
/SHāme
Verb
- 1.
(of a person, action, or situation) make (someone) feel ashamed.
"I tried to shame him into giving some away"
synonyms: humiliate, mortify, make someone feel ashamed, chagrin, embarrass, abash, chasten, humble, put someone in their place, take down a peg or two, cut down to size, show up; More
Yes, we all know the definition of shame. Showing the definition of the word doesn't mean I mentioned the word, nor does showing a quote of me explaining that honoring or respecting someone's commitment isn't a "morally uptight" act mean I'm shaming anyone. I was defending my previous comment against your personal attack.
Remember, you pointedly ("all ears") asked for reasons not to do this. You asked. I answered. I mentioned one word: "married", as a reason. It's completely valid to suggest not getting involved in 3rd party sexual fetishes with (or as) a married person. The fact that you've gone sideways, you've brought up shame, you've made it personal with name-calling and judging me and
@Fade still doesn't change the fact that I simply presented a reason not to do this.
Your focus was on whether the underwear thing is creepy or not. I merely presented the other aspect of this arrangement. These things get discovered. It happens. And spouses have a way of not being very understanding. I sure wouldn't want to be in the middle of that, or have my fetish blow up someone's relationship. If you're okay with that, then you do you.
In the end, you asked for opinions. You received plenty of answers. The ones about the married thing triggered you. That is on you.
Two quotes from entertainment come to mind.
"The lady doth protest too much."
"If my answers frighten you, then you should cease asking scary questions."
