^^^ Where did that come from?
Did you read what I wrote?
Did I say anything about "club hoochies"?
No, no, I didn't.
When you date a single mom, it becomes a package deal sooner or later.
Like I wrote... I have been there done that... had the headaches... had the money stolen out of my wallet by her kid.... driven with the GF to admit her bipolar daughter once again to the psych ward... spent countless hours waiting in the ER for her to get admitted....numerous times
Been kinda caught in the middle between the GF, the daughter, and the X-hubby/biological father...
Moved on to another relationship or two down the road. One gal had a 2 or 3 year old boy.
A'yup, he always had to be the center of attention even if that meant being a rotten little shit...
Call me selfish... and conceited , but I want to be the center of attention of my woman's life.
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Heehe, giving the ignore feature a workout, eh? :tongue:God. Another arsehole for my ignore list...
So very true, NP!It's CONCEITED, not "concded" or "conceded". To concede means to give in (a point, an argument, a battle, etc.). Conceited means thinking a good deal too much of oneself.
If you go to a supermarket, and you don't find the food you're looking for, you try a different market.
Same with men.
If your activities -- and the places to choose to "hang out" -- don't bring you face to face with the kind of man you'd like to meet, then you need to change your activities AND the places you go to hang out.
Don't blame men, and don't blame scarcity.
There are plenty and I mean PLENTY of great men out there. (Sigh... so many men, so little time.... )
Hmm... Do you guys think that all single moms are the same? Maybe you - like we are accused of - date the wrong kind of women? I'm thinking the women you describe would take advantage of you even if they were not mothers, don't you think? A gold digger is still a just that even if she is a mother...
A little background: I'm a single mom. I work hard to make my child grow up to be a responsible, smart, and polite kid. Sure, when he's around he tends to take occupy more than the actual physical space needed to house å 45-pound-person (what healthy five-year-old does not?) - I will not ignore him even though I'm with man. There's no way I'd bring the kid to a date, though. I will not introduce a boyfriend to him unless we're both serious about the relationship - I believe a kid has no use having adults randomly enter their lives just to disappear without an explanation later on.
I do not want a guy who does not accept my child. My child has a dad who is very much involved in his life. He does not need a new father. However, a guy who would be in our household would be expected to love and act like a responsible adult - but that's beyond the dating scene. Why would I settle for anything less? I'll give that in return if he has kids.
So Within one standard deviation is right about this, it becomes a package deal sooner or later. But, darkseid, I'm not looking for a hand-out; I don't need financial support, but I would like to meet a MAN who is emotionally generous (with me and my son). Someone who is honest, who will be faithful, and who shares some of my values. I would not give anything less in return, so why should I settle for a liar? No one should have to do that.
I see that you want to be the center of attention... I'll keep my man center of attention, but he'll have to share my heart with someone else. That does not mean I love him any less - actually, I'll probably love him more if he is prepared to take us both into his heart. Anyone who has a heart big enough for two?
Just some random thoughts there, could probably be a bit mor organized... Am I too naive believing there is someone out there for me, you think?
So guys, is this defensive enough for you?
Heehe, giving the ignore feature a workout, eh? :tongue:
So very true, NP!
I meet good men daily, even though most may not be the right person for me, they are good, averagely flawed, single men.
Sometimes women get caught up in a fantasy or ideal of the man they want and overlook the decent, often quiet, guys who may not fit every desire, but may be perfect for you.
Stop bemoaning the lack of quality men - just go outside, look cute, extra lip gloss, smile, be friendly, talk (have something to say!), and eventually you will find a "good one". :wink:
wonderland curious if you would want to have a relationship with a guy that is any of those items listed in original post not some dreamt up dream list? I can most certainly say that any of these items would be a deal breaker.
1) Married - do not want to start relationship with a man that is already married.
2) Lack personailty - Who wants to be with someone that has zero personailty?
3) Concded - Cant stand people that are stuck on themselves.
4) Liars - OK I can not imagine anyone wanting to be with a liar.
5) Cheaters - Same as above would you really want to be with someone that cheats?
Just trying to understand how some posters here would want to accept someone with these items. Do not go furthur trying to say no one is perfect these items are not asking for perfection but rather someone with communication skills, respect and character. Sorry to rant in this response but seen a few replies that seemed to be willing to be with someone that is either not available or has no character.
Doesn't it seem that so many men that are otherwise complete in having good personailty, looks, big cock are/or have one, or more, of the following faults or details that make them not a match:
1) Married
2) Lack personailty
3) Concded
4) Liars
5) Cheaters
Still doesnt sound exactly what I mean to say but realized after couple response that I was typing faster then was thinking through the post.
Isn't this contradictory? How can they be the 'good ones', complete in having personality, looks and the whole nine yards if they:
Men who fall into those categories surely are not "the good ones?"
- lack personality
- are conceited
- are liars; and
- are cheats?