growing up

[tyfromtexas]

so growing up i had my stepmom and stepsister around (plus a little sister later down the line). i didn’t really have time with other guys to hang, explore, learn things.

so my question is those who have grown up with more guys around how do you feel that helped or hindered you?
and likewise guys who grew up with less men around how do you feel that helped or hindered you?

 

[Motion-of-the-Ocean]

I was going to say how this easily this question could go off the rails, but the very first response in and it looks like I'm too late.

 

[Fairlybigdick2074]

I had a balance life of 1 sister a mom 1 brother and a dad I don't feel like they hindered me in anyway my dad taught me how to treat a lady and that's honestly about it

 

[tyfromtexas]

I was going to say how this easily this question could go off the rails, but the very first response in and it looks like I'm too late.

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liiiiiike that took no time at all bruh

 

[Fairlybigdick2074]

liiiiiike that took no time at all bruh

I brought it back down with something more what I assumed you meant

 

[tyfromtexas]

I brought it back down with something more what I assumed you meant

yeah i was actually looking for legitimate responses not i****t

 

[Stephan765433]

So I grew up without a father, nor any strong male leads in my life. Single Mum, no siblings, Dad buggered off when I was quite young. Lots of incredibly strong women in the family, aunts, cousins, grandmothers etc., got passed around a lot, (all of us in the family were mind) and most of the men either worked long hours or were away at sea. Also went to a Catholic school with no male teachers either. So I think, from my perspective, that it has somewhat hindered my life. I think that fact that I grew up in a very matriarchal family without many male role models may be the reason I'm gay (might not be, but that's my ). I also think it affected things like my interests and hobbies, most of mine would be considered traditionally female, as well as more traditionally 'male' things. I was never taught about my body from a male perspective, didn't actually get a lot of body education at all which I think has lead to other issues: I was overweight, didn't enjoy any physical activity, was never taught how to shave, just didn't get any maleness in my life. It's hard to express quite how here without going into far too much detail but yes, I believe it hindered some things in my life. Have actually just considered some positives to this but I shan't go on.

 

[ChristmasGoofy]

I didn’t really grow up being close to other guys. My father wasn’t someone I cared to spend time with, my brothers and I have very large age gaps, and I didn’t really have any close guy friends. So, aside from the occasional joke about jacking off or whatever, most of what I ended up learning about sex, my body, etc came from the internet.

All in all though, while I didn’t have the same experiences of some other guys, I don’t think I feel too hindered by how life played out if that makes sense.

 

[HungBtmVegas]

I didn't have many memorable friends growing up and my first boyfriend was my first real friend, so being around him and his friends and colleagues helped me realize the kind of men I respect and am attracted to.

 

[Luudwig]

Personally, I can say that I have lived without a male figure. My father was rarely present and cold towards me. He made me understand that I am not the son he would have liked to have, partly because I am gay. So I basically lived with my mother and my sister. We lived quite isolated, I didn't have the opportunity to have friends.

I felt the lack of this masculine presence, I think that perhaps it would have given me more self-confidence. So much so that when I had a friend, I tended to get too attached to them. Overall, I would say that this absence has handicapped me in my life.

 

[marvink]

I grew up without a female figure. Just with my dad. We have a real good relationship.. More like buddies or brothers

 

[Pedritohola26]

I grew up with my mom and my sis, my dad rarely stayed at home as he had to go stay in military camp and only some weekend he could back home. I didn't close with him that time so I had no clue about anything because dad never guide anything, I had to learn about thing from the book !!! from the anatomy book in the library and learnt how human grows up, how body changes and especially male and compared with my body what did I change. So many topic that I want to ask my parent, especially my dad so bad but I was too shy to ask like about the erection, the pubic hair but I didn't ask.

 

[notthatguy]

Basically my father left our family when I was 9 years old. Was left with a mother two older sister and two female cats. No male anything in the house.