Holding hands

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Pecker THanks again for putting up a fun thread, it amazes me the wide range of comments to such a basic fun loving comment.

Although I do love the way my hubby got me to hold his hand the very first time. HE SAID HIS HANDS WERE COLD.
 

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My guy and I aren't into public displays of affection. Yes, we're out and all that, but somehow our love is so precious and personal that we prefer to keep it for ourselves. PDAs seem to trivialise our bond...make it cheap, almost.

We give each other an unmistakably sexual kiss whenever we welcome or fare each other well at an airport, or such. But we generally don't hold hands in public...I couldn't convince him to hold hands walking down the street in Provincetown, even. Call us repressed, fucked up, whatever.

We often joke about wanting a gay marriage, but hating the idea of a gay wedding--the consummate PDA. I don't think we could bear making such a spectacle of ourselves--dancing, holding hands, and the inevitable moment where you-may-now-kiss-the-groom.

Once the door is closed, though, it's a different matter. "Home" is where we connect, where flesh meets flesh, where we bare our bodies. We touch, in some way, constantly. OK, I leave him alone when he's using a wok and he leaves me alone when I take out the trash. But otherwise, we're all over each other, 24/7. That's what defines "home" for us.

When do we hold hands? In private moments.

Discreetly, in the back seat of a cab. When I'm driving, I rest my hand on the gear lever, and he rests his own atop it (This worked much better when we lived in Japan rather than the USA. I could keep my favoured hand on the steering wheel).

And, oddly, in bed. We go to sleep, bodies entwined. But after a while, guys being guys, our limbs flail about and we're all over the bed. A couple of times a night, his hand reaches out for mine, and generally finds it. He squeezes my hand, so we know the contact isn't a chance meeting of body parts. No matter how many times he does this, it's always precious to me. I feel incredibly loved.

Not something I want to repeat in the A&P, personally.

HB8

P.S. Profuse apologies for not looking you up in P-Town, Stronzo. It was a whirlwind visit! Next time, though...
 

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DC_DEEP said:
I'm glad you have an opinion, midus.

My partner and I do occasionally hold hands in public, but we are very physically demonstrative of our love and affection. Both of us tend to reach for the other's hand, without even thinking about it. In the right situations, a quick kiss sometimes occurs, but never the tonsil-hockey style mentioned above.

As for the sweaty hand, or who lets go first, or any of the other referenced "awkwardness," it's not an issue for us. We've been together long enough to realize that letting go is not rejection. If I need to stretch my hand or air it out, I just relax my hand very slightly, and we both let go. It's very natural, not at all contrived.

This was not a direct shot at anyone, through my opinion. I was stating that when me and my ex would go out shed always want to hold my hand, like always. And I asked her why she always held my hand one day and she said she was afraid to lose me, which cant be true seeing as how she broke up with me a week later lol.
 

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My gf and I always hold hands, and it is still one of the most beautiful feelings i can feel. It is like we lead eachother through the life, or like we are walking the some path.
 

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MidusCo. said:
This was not a direct shot at anyone, through my opinion. I was stating that when me and my ex would go out shed always want to hold my hand, like always. And I asked her why she always held my hand one day and she said she was afraid to lose me, which cant be true seeing as how she broke up with me a week later lol.
Midus, I can understand your reluctance when it IS so contrived. But with my partner and me, it isn't a "I demand that you hold my hand, NOW!" kind of thing. It is always spontaneous, and we do it when we are awake or even sleeping.

headbang, I understand that you want your affection to be "private", but my partner and I touch each other in such a way that is not that conscious. A pat on the back, a touch on the upper arm, a brief squeeze of his hand, it just happens, we don't have time to think, "Is anyone else looking?" No, it's never like high school kids who have dated for 1.5 weeks. LOL I hate to admit it, but it's more like the cute 90-year-old couple you see walking in the park, hand in hand, and you think, "Oh, that's so cute... I hope we are like that 50 years from now."

On the humorous side, one morning, we were having our usual first-thing-in-the-morning cuddle and talk. He said, "I can just imagine us, years from now, just like this when we are 80 years old." He got huffy with me when I corrected him by saying "Excuse me, but you will be 80, and I will be 75." We kissed and made up, though.
 

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TRipod,
It appears that you have mutilated your penis with a vacuum pump. That's a shame, I doubt if it's functional anymore.