zaneblue: I was going to link, but then I thought better of it. Here's a recent thread on a board I frequent, might be helpful.
lilida
I have only had sex for a year and with the same person. My bf is a bit large and my "V" is on the small side. I went to my Dr. to see if there was any problems and she said that I was normal, yet I still get a pinching sometimes burning pain from the friction accompanies by soreness. We have tried different positions, tons of foreplay,toys,and oral. Sometimes the oral even hurts.But I still have the pain of being tight.And because of the pain I don't get an orgasam and he feels bad that he can't please me and I feel defective because I can't have one.It seems to cancel everything out. Can my birth control be causing the problems? I don't know what else to do
zaneblue
Are you using lube? In this situation you should be using huge amounts of lube. You may also consider getting a dildo of approximately his size and stretching yourself on your own for a bit every day.
MKGAL
I have had similar issue. Lube is defiantly a great place to start. Get a good one like Astroglide. The KY Jelly of old just doesn't cut it.
I found that I reacted to the pain so that might be part of your issue too. You might find that you tighten up and you might even find yourself bracing for the pain. Try some relaxation techniques. Do Kegel exercises to strengthen you muscles in your V. You will problely notice a difference if you try these items. It might take some time so don't get frustrated if you can't learn to relax right away.
lilida
I use a special one that doesn't have any sugars in it. And it's still painful after entry.
lilida
Sorry, I meant to say that by having one without sugars in it helps prevent the on set of yeast infections. I'm allergic to the sugar and it is also good for folks who are diabetic and can't take KY or Astroglide. That totally made a great imprvement, but as far as the pain goes...still a problem.
Thanks
pinky
It is possible you may have a little vaginismus. Regular stretching, especially prior to intercourse, with a vibrator or dildo would be the key to resolving vaginismus.
lilida
I thought about that, but I wasn't sure since my Dr. said that I was normal and healthy. I think I might re-read my Berman and Berman book tonight. It's not easy when you have a small hole trying to fit a big stick...porn has it all wrong Thanks Pinky!
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