How do I tell my gf I want have a MMF?

[D_Claude_Crowsfoot]

This evening my girlfriend and i were talking about threesomes, and she joking mentioned having a MMF threesome. not so she can get some action, but so she can watch me get done by another guy! the truth is i would LOVE for that to happen!! i acted like i wouldnt do it, but then i said to her if you really wanted i guess i would give a guy a blowjob, only on the conditions that she ate out another girl. she seemed excited by the idea of me giving head, but got nervous about the girl part...so we changed subjects.

so how do i go about telling my gf i actually want to do these things? and how do i actually get her to do them!?!?

 

[2322]

It is the experience of many people that the less said, the better.

Unless your GF is really mature and open and understanding, there's a risk that she'll wonder if you're not really gay. It is also something she could throw back in your face in more unpleasant moments. Many partners, straight or gay, see this kind of thing and see their partner really enjoying it. Enjoying it too much. And that usually plants the seeds of doubt in their head.

You may also enjoy it a bit too much and wonder if you don't prefer it to sex with women. Sex with men is a different thought paradigm. It's more raw, more physical, more challenging if only because men are physically stronger. Your GF may interpret this as scary. She may also worry about the intensity of the action and find the intimacy both shocking and fascinating at the same time, as the action goes from tender to forceful and back again, which is why some straight women like to watch gay porn.

Sincerely and seriously evaluate your relationship before taking her up on this offer.

 

[D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah]

Ive always found the best approach is by porn. Find some you know has a MMF and let out the obligatory
"oh honey that looks good, maybe we should give it a go"

 

[erratic]

When you and she are in the middle of some real hot sex you say "Honey, remember when you said you wanted..."

 

[himu]

Very well said... specially highlighted parts:

It is the experience of many people that the less said, the better.

Unless your GF is really mature and open and understanding, there's a risk that she'll wonder if you're not really gay. It is also something she could throw back in your face in more unpleasant moments. Many partners, straight or gay, see this kind of thing and see their partner really enjoying it. Enjoying it too much. And that usually plants the seeds of doubt in their head.

You may also enjoy it a bit too much and wonder if you don't prefer it to sex with women. Sex with men is a different thought paradigm. It's more raw, more physical, more challenging if only because men are physically stronger. Your GF may interpret this as scary. She may also worry about the intensity of the action and find the intimacy both shocking and fascinating at the same time, as the action goes from tender to forceful and back again, which is why some straight women like to watch gay porn.
and vice-versa men like to watch lesbian porn...
Sincerely and seriously evaluate your relationship before taking her up on this offer.

And your condition of eating another woman's pussy was a wrong one... because to most straight women eating a pussy will gross them out...

I like Lee-M's suggestion... that might work.
try it.:tongue: And let us know... :biggrin1:

 

[BigLargeWhiteCock]

Is your girlfriend straight....?
Does She Know Your Bi..?
If Not Tell your girlfriend these things first!

 

[Hippie Hollow Girl]

When i first read the post I misread it. I thought she wanted a MMF because she wanted to get more action. But she says she wants to watch you get some action. Telling her you would do it when she ate pussy was definately not the right way to go......unless she had shown some interest in going down on pussy.

You do need to be honest with her and tell her that you are bi curious. And if you go through with this, it would probably be important to make sure you give your girlfriend plenty of attention too. So, she won't feel left out. Maybe somehow you can make her feel like you are doing this for her because she said she wanted to see this.

I would definately be interested to find out how this turns out!

 

[D_Rock_ N_Hardon]

Mmm, I think this could a problem.

I think if you suggested a FFM it might be easier on your gf but if you get off on the second male it may make her question your sexuality.

 

[SpoiledPrincess]

Many people successfully have threesomes, however for a good many people it can cause lots of problems. You can talk it out ad nauseum but until you actually do it neither of you know how you're going to react to it in real life and if it will change your relationship. I view it as a bit of a gamble and always tell anyone who asks me if they should go for it that unless they're prepared to take the chance it might end their relationship don't bother, keep it as a nice fantasy.

 

[yogo]

As everyone has said, a lot depends on your relationship with your girlfriend and how honest you feel you could be.

I've had a MMF but not with my women, and it can all go very differently to how you might imagine.. (well it did for me)

I hadn't considered the guy would do any more than touch.

First was a double entry, well yeah was unexpected but felt really good, same couple, second time later in the evening (well early hours of morning)

I entered her, and he was been jerked and sucked, as I was fucking her, he entered me, wow, that was really unexpected, but very hot.

I was really nailing her and yeah he me.

Be prepared, for anything, am certainly am now, when I have a threesome.

Not sure my women would like one though.

 

[D_Adoniah Sheervolume]

Mmm, I think this could a problem.

I think if you suggested a FFM it might be easier on your gf but if you get off on the second male it may make her question your sexuality.

why the hell is it that people think it's ok for two WOMEN to go at it when a guy is around, but if two GUYS do it in the course of a MMF, they're fags and sexuality should be questioned?

i just HATE this double-standard.

 

[D_Adoniah Sheervolume]

I entered her, and he was been jerked and sucked, as I was fucking her, he entered me, wow, that was really unexpected, but very hot.

I was really nailing her and yeah he me.

THAT i would love to have seen (yogo has a hot bod!).

 

[B_andyo]

If my gf ever tells me she wants to do a MMF I will.... do it...

I will do you no more. LOL

 

[Notthe7]

I want a MMF but it SUCH a debated thing.
The stigma of being a slut.
Or even worse the GUYS touching.

I argued furiously with my guy friends. They all think MMF is gross and disgusting. I hate the double standard too.

But I also hate the 'gang bang' feelings attached to MMF 3somes.

 

[Eboomo]

I want a MMF but it SUCH a debated thing.
The stigma of being a slut.
Or even worse the GUYS touching.

I argued furiously with my guy friends. They all think MMF is gross and disgusting. I hate the double standard too.

But I also hate the 'gang bang' feelings attached to MMF 3somes.

Notthe, MMF sounds good to me. If I'm ever in Texas I'll be sure to look you up for a discussion :wink:

As for OP I agree with the advice given....be sure you are open and honest with your GF.

 

[Zottig]

I was in a MMF triad relationship for four great years. After getting married I realized a big part of me was attracted to men also. My wife was bi and had me figured out before I did. A strange confluence of events brought our BF into our lives. As an aside, he was very well endowed which was a big turn on for me. I am above average, but by no means near his 9x6.5.

Things were just between the three of us for a while then we started to open up about it.

Sadly things eventually ended. He moved on (felt his attributes made him marketable and he wanted to sow his oats), and she sought to fill the loss, doing so with a 100% straight guy so I didn't fit in anymore.

Anyway, it CAN work, but communication is KEY. I did feel bad for her though... being married she almost needed to tell people of my role with him to avoid the "slut" label. We all saw the relationship as a true triad marriage but others didn't always take the time to see it for what it was. Each party had a loving and lusting connection with each of the others.

There are many polyamory groups on Yahoo. Sometimes they come with attitudes and flame wars, but sometimes you can find some good insight. Broaching the topic is a common thread there.

As someone stated though... communicate and be sure the relationship is in a STRONG state beforehand. Not all women can take the news either. not all men can take their girlfriend wanting another man either.


Good luck!!


Ben

 

[62911]

Hey, just last week my wife said she would be open to having someone else join us in bed. We're both Bi so we wouldn't mind a guy or girl, but we kinda want a guy.

This miraculas transformation from prude to (I wish there was a word for swinger that rhymed with prude) happened because of one little movie. Short Bus. If you haven't seen it, you must. It was directed by the guy who did Hedgwig and the angry inch. It is excelent. The whole movie is about sex and you see real live banging throughout the whole movie. But it isn't porn. It isn't shot like porn, the actors don't look like porn actors. The sex is incredably real and beautiful. The acting isn't so great but the stilted delivery almost ads to the overall effect.

I would suggest renting the movie without saying "hey lets watch this movie it will turn you into a swinger". But instead say, it has some sex in it but you hear it is going to win a bunch of forigne film awards so it isn't about the sex it is about a great movie. The first ten minutes are full on sex but that is just to break your hymen so to speak, after the initial "shock of cock" things normal out and the story unfolds.

What this movie will do for you is open up the converstaion about sex and happiness and bisexuality (which is awesome by the way). It may not get your gf so hot that you head staraight to a gay bar but at least you will be talking about it.

ps i'm a bad speller.

 

[RandyL]

2 girls kissing and licking each others cunts is HOT.

2 guys kissing is fucking NASTY!

However, having said that, after some experimentation with a butt plug, I might like to try having a guy fuck me in the ass someday, but I'd have to do it in such a way that NO ONE who knows me would ever find out.

 

[kurios]

Let it drop and remain a fantasy !!!!!!!!!