So, it's the relationship thread again. Not really relationship, it's about having the courage and gut to approach a person to begin with. I suck at that. Just like today at an academic conference, I just stood there while everybody else was mingling around. Then, when I presented my paper, people started to approach me after seeing how my topic was interesting and how I presented it well and all. But that's the problem, people need to see my strength/skills/abilities/etc. to be interested to know me further. I know that one of the ways to advertise yourself is by going active and go approach people and introduce yourself, but I just couldn't do that.
So, applying this issue in my love life, I strongly believe that my extreme shyness has become an obstacle for me to find a life partner. I can just wait for people to approach me, but there is no paper presentation or stage performance in social settings, so I am usually just left behind alone because I have nothing to "show off". I might have my own attractions and I might get talkative once I get to know someone but first impression is a bitch and this bitch makes me seem less interesting than when I am after I am known.
I know the easy solution would be to brave myself up and go talk to someone, but to be honest, that's almost the last thing I want to do. I can't even bear the thought of being rejected, directly or indirectly. I can't also bear the thought of screwing up when you're trying to present yourself in the most attractive manner.
So, I'm sure some of you guys here are shy, and I'm sure many of you who are shy are also in a very stable relationship right now. So, how do you do it? Please give whatever input you have.
So, applying this issue in my love life, I strongly believe that my extreme shyness has become an obstacle for me to find a life partner. I can just wait for people to approach me, but there is no paper presentation or stage performance in social settings, so I am usually just left behind alone because I have nothing to "show off". I might have my own attractions and I might get talkative once I get to know someone but first impression is a bitch and this bitch makes me seem less interesting than when I am after I am known.
I know the easy solution would be to brave myself up and go talk to someone, but to be honest, that's almost the last thing I want to do. I can't even bear the thought of being rejected, directly or indirectly. I can't also bear the thought of screwing up when you're trying to present yourself in the most attractive manner.
So, I'm sure some of you guys here are shy, and I'm sure many of you who are shy are also in a very stable relationship right now. So, how do you do it? Please give whatever input you have.