lol...I'm going to give you a tip. Turn around now and walk out of here. Just casually, don't draw any more attention to yourself then you already have and you might get out of here alive. For future reference...don't even think about coming to the women's issues forum looking for wank material. You will have your head and heart chewed up and handed back to you and sent on your way with whatever is left between your legs dragging behind you. If by any chance you are serious, then you should know that you will get 20 different answers from 20 different women and none of them will help you with your, assumedly real, girlfriend, which does lead me to think you are only looking for material. The best advise, however, is to actually ask her how she likes to be fucked or if you really can't communicate through words, which does not portend well for a future, then through trial and error. By the way, there is no one way to fuck or be fucked. People have preferences but the situation and the mood usually dictate how. You're on your own now. Good luck