How long does your guy last??
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Kinda of an off topic response for me. But would this not be ok? If he lasts a few minutes, maybe you could let him orgasm then he can just put on a new condom and go again? Maybe it's just me, but once I bust one I only need but a minute to be erect again if that...Just my suggestion and would this be ok to do?
good god are you fucking kidding me?!?!?!??!
this is one of the big problems in america... pills for everything!
if hes cumming too f ast,,, he doesnt need drugs,, it just meeans he needs more praactice or maybe even wear 2 condoms... tell him to jerk off and cum before you have sex, that will make him last alot longer... anyone who says he needs to get on DRUGS IS OUT OF THEIR FUCKING MIND! nothing like an uneducated moron prescribing drugs to people on the internet! my god, i hope no one took that idiot seriously
Premature ejaculation is just that when its a problem for either one of you and in this case sounds like it is. You need to communicate to him how you feel in a sensitive way.
My current boyfriend usually lasts about 10-30 minutes and can usually do it again almost right away and that is just right for me. He has good control and sometimes we can come at the same time which is great control has to be learned though. An hour or more would be torturous to me. Just goes to show you everyone is different!
I had one bf who came within a couple minutes (and he was in his 40s) and it was really frustrating because I need longer than that to orgasm plus I like it to last longer just for the feeling and closeness of it. We talked (he was uncomfortable talking about it though) and he would pull out and wait. Wed do this a few times and have more like a 30 minute session, which was much better! Also, as others have said the second time around he will be able to last longer.
I dont think women necessarily need to come first again, it all depends on the people involved. I sometimes would prefer to wait because if I come first, I just want him to get it over with on his end. If I wait, Im more into it the entire time. (Although this has changed as I get older now Im into it the entire time regardless!)
My current boyfriend usually lasts about 10-30 minutes and can usually do it again almost right away and that is just right for me. He has good control and sometimes we can come at the same time which is great control has to be learned though. An hour or more would be torturous to me. Just goes to show you everyone is different!
I had one bf who came within a couple minutes (and he was in his 40s) and it was really frustrating because I need longer than that to orgasm plus I like it to last longer just for the feeling and closeness of it. We talked (he was uncomfortable talking about it though) and he would pull out and wait. Wed do this a few times and have more like a 30 minute session, which was much better! Also, as others have said the second time around he will be able to last longer.
I dont think women necessarily need to come first again, it all depends on the people involved. I sometimes would prefer to wait because if I come first, I just want him to get it over with on his end. If I wait, Im more into it the entire time. (Although this has changed as I get older now Im into it the entire time regardless!)
Satisfactory sexual intercourse for couples lasts from 3 to 13 minutes, contrary to popular fantasy about the need for hours of sexual activity, according to a survey of U.S. and Canadian sex therapists.
Good sexual intercourse lasts minutes, not hours | Science Blog
Good sexual intercourse lasts minutes, not hours | Science Blog
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Welcome to the site, boardman, but this should prolly have been posted in either New Members or Personals. :smile:
To Collette, I don't think your current bf's time is the average, but the hour your former bf went is definitely not either. I think the average is prolly closer to your current guy. Hopefully if he orgasms fast he can still go some more rounds after? As others have said, he could try masturbating beforehand. If you haven't talked to him about your concerns, you might want to find a sensitive way to bring it up, maybe by offering to help him out. When you go down on him, try and learn when to back off once he's really close but before he orgasms. If you can do that repeatedly, he should be able to get a sense for himself of when he can ease off during sex before he picks up the pace again. If all else fails, make sure he spends enough time going down on you so that you get yours even before you get TO the actual sex, since most women orgasm that way any way. Good luck!
I know when I want to last longer and pleasure my wife more, I will just wear a condom. The head of a penis has most of the nerves that get stimulated. So if you are wearing a condom that slows down the stimulation for me, at least. There are also some rub ons that dull the head of the penis which will allow him to go longer. I also think that if you have a lot more foreplay it would be a better feeling for you. Let him masturbate you first. Even have him use a dildo as an aid. You would be amazed at the stimulation for you. My wife and I do this all the time. Sex is great fun. Kick back and enjoy it. I get great satisfaction in shooting off a large load for my wife. Have fun.
God I wish I had his problem. My girlfriend says I last forever, and unfortunately it's true; we've had four hour sessions, and I was still going strong. We just gave up, and I masturbated instead.
Thing is, I noticed that orgasm intensity, or rather "ejaculation intensity" and hardness correlate well; when I cum a lot I go soft but if I don't cum a lot, cum in small spurts, or just don't cum I'll be up for a long time.
I have to edge prior to sex to make sure not to hurt her from friction; foreskin or not there's only so much a vagina can take.
Thing is, I noticed that orgasm intensity, or rather "ejaculation intensity" and hardness correlate well; when I cum a lot I go soft but if I don't cum a lot, cum in small spurts, or just don't cum I'll be up for a long time.
I have to edge prior to sex to make sure not to hurt her from friction; foreskin or not there's only so much a vagina can take.
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another reason one is proud to be an american...I'm a marathoner for a reason, sex is the same way.
I should augment other answers that ask about penis size...that it's not about penis as much as his stamina that I'm interested in.
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My wife wishes I came faster than I do. She really likes lots of quick fucks instead of the long-lasting ones.
But instead of working on my own orgasm, I've been focusing on the things I can do to make her orgasms more mind-blowing.
But instead of working on my own orgasm, I've been focusing on the things I can do to make her orgasms more mind-blowing.
Marlboro woman
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Collette,
Unfortunately there are a lot of men out there who cannot last more than 5 minutes. My boyfriend can last for hours, but sometimes I need a ten minute quickie, and luckily he can do that as well, sometimes I want a marathon session, but not all the time. You need to be patient with your new bf and show him the ropes.
Unfortunately there are a lot of men out there who cannot last more than 5 minutes. My boyfriend can last for hours, but sometimes I need a ten minute quickie, and luckily he can do that as well, sometimes I want a marathon session, but not all the time. You need to be patient with your new bf and show him the ropes.
they say that if a person excersises then they have a better sex life and also if they eat good, but excersise plays an important role, I have noticed that I sometimes cannot go as much as I used to when I was in shape; I am sort of in shape but when I excersised I could go much longer; maybe have him try some ginseng and see what happens
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SLANT, Put a pinch of salt under your tongue before sex and you will have no charlie horse. i used to get them in my sleep, its a grand way to wake up, anywho my trainer told me about it being caused by a loss of salts. From then on i kept a salt shaker near my bed and a pinch brought on relief in minutes. On days of heavy exertion i would take some before bed. No Charlies in years. hope it helps.
B_HornyPrincezz
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my man knows his stuff in bed. the foreplay lasts a long time so each time we have sex the whole thing lasts for like 30 to 50 something minutes. but the actual pumping lasts for 10-15 minutes.. He's 6x6 I think..never measured but i think thats what he is.
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It's also about relaxation. If your man is focussed too intensely on the physical sensations, he'll come quicker. There's a kind of knack to letting go into the mood, relaxing into the groove(as it were), letting go so there's plenty of erection, but no tension. He could try releasing energy by focussing on his breath. If he's really feeling he wants to come, get him to think pissing instead. There's a whole load of ways to defuse the sexual pressure. It's all the tantric stuff (Well, I wrote a book about it, couldn't get it published!) and , yeah, meditation helps, doesn't really matter what kind. Just so long as it gets you used to being where you really are, rather than off in the future, or back in the past. Sex is really about being totally present. The more you're focussed on some goal ( getting yourself off, getting her off, ) the less present you are to what's actually happening
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If he really is so tense sexually, he could get into yoga and yoga breathing, both are great stress reducers.
And of course, he should spend much more time tuning into you before penetration.
Maybe some of this will help someone.
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If he really is so tense sexually, he could get into yoga and yoga breathing, both are great stress reducers.
And of course, he should spend much more time tuning into you before penetration.
Maybe some of this will help someone.
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