How many men do you feel are secretly bisexual?

[curtdude]

I honestly think every guy has thought about it once or twice in thier lifetime?.
we buy fitness mags with buff muscle guys inside we want our bodies to k
look like theirs we shower together and you can't help but think 'dang that dude has some nice junk down the really lucky dude'
it has to cross a dudes mind weather he acts on it is another story

 

[goldscorpguy]

Like many have said, we nearly all think about it at some point in our lives, it's whether there is that spark of opportunity and whether we decide to leap into it when it's being offered. I've had two sparks of interest in my lifetime, one back in my teens, which kind of fizzled out, and one in my late 30s which went on to burn bright and still does today.

If the original question was 'how many men are secretly bi curious?' then I think the number would be pretty high. But how many are secretly bisexual? That's a lot tougher. I am not 'out' in public or amongst family as bi, but I talk about it here and on other sites, so am I in that number? It's a very searching question by the OP and why I'm so into this site.

 

[daftman]

Like many have said, we nearly all think about it at some point in our lives, it's whether there is that spark of opportunity and whether we decide to leap into it when it's being offered. I've had two sparks of interest in my lifetime, one back in my teens, which kind of fizzled out, and one in my late 30s which went on to burn bright and still does today.

If the original question was 'how many men are secretly bi curious?' then I think the number would be pretty high. But how many are secretly bisexual? That's a lot tougher. I am not 'out' in public or amongst family as bi, but I talk about it here and on other sites, so am I in that number? It's a very searching question by the OP and why I'm so into this site.

agree with you there..

 

[glocker288]

It depends on how you define it. I would say I'm bisexual, but I'm not interested in butt stuff only oral. I think a lot more men would except a blow from another guy than would ever admit it.

Same here!

 

[nhguy78]

I think you're thinking of the Kinsey Scale. Unsure if that's accurate.

Remember willingness to have sex or want to experience different things, you know - sexual behavior, does not define sexual orientation. Only your sexual attraction defines sexual orientation. Heterosexual men may like receiving anal sex. It does not make them gay. Homosexual men might want to try vagina sex but that does not change their sexual orientation.

 

[daftman]

good observation - here is my take: I am a very well married guy. very bi. not experienced but certainly desire to. Am I gay? NO. Am I bi? yes. Net net, all is good!

 

[littleguy2]

It depends on how you define it. I would say I'm bisexual, but I'm not interested in butt stuff only oral. I think a lot more men would except a blow from another guy than would ever admit it.

I would even take it down one more notch. What about the guy that only wants a hand job with another guy? Is that bisexual or just buds?

 

[manju]

In Ancient Greece bisexuality was the norm. I'm not sure how much human sexuality has changed as much as how societies and religions have evolved to enforce and punish certain sexual behaviors. I think most men could be open to bisexuality if it was socially acceptable and "cool". That possibility terrifies some people.

 

[Marco86]

In Ancient Greece bisexuality was the norm. I'm not sure how much human sexuality has changed as much as how societies and religions have evolved to enforce and punish certain sexual behaviors. I think most men could be open to bisexuality if it was socially acceptable and "cool". That possibility terrifies some people.

agreed.

 

[flguyjax]

I think you're thinking of the Kinsey Scale. Unsure if that's accurate.

Remember willingness to have sex or want to experience different things, you know - sexual behavior, does not define sexual orientation. Only your sexual attraction defines sexual orientation. Heterosexual men may like receiving anal sex. It does not make them gay. Homosexual men might want to try vagina sex but that does not change their sexual orientation.

It would be interesting if we actually had the population data to plot against the Kinsey Scale, is it:
A normal distribution (standard bell shaped curve)
A bimodal distribution
Skewed toward straight

It would really be interesting to see some solid science on the matter.

Human sexuality is a very fluid complex subject.

 

[nhguy78]

It would be interesting if we actually had the population data to plot against the Kinsey Scale, is it:
A normal distribution (standard bell shaped curve)
A bimodal distribution
Skewed toward straight

It would really be interesting to see some solid science on the matter.

Human sexuality is a very fluid complex subject.

Yes, and fascinating.

I'm not as familiar with the term bimodal in this discussion.

In general, i think presenting this sort of information is best when de-centering of anyone's experience to prevent undue bias.

 

[flguyjax]

I think you're thinking of the Kinsey Scale. Unsure if that's accurate.

Remember willingness to have sex or want to experience different things, you know - sexual behavior, does not define sexual orientation. Only your sexual attraction defines sexual orientation. Heterosexual men may like receiving anal sex. It does not make them gay. Homosexual men might want to try vagina sex but that does not change their sexual orientation.

It would be interesting if we actually had the population data to plot against the Kinsey Scale, is it:
A normal distribution (standard bell shaped curve)
A bimodal distribution
Skewed toward straight

It would really be interesting to see some solid science on the matter.

Human sexuality is a very fluid complex subject.

Yes, and fascinating.

I'm not as familiar with the term bimodal in this discussion.

In general, i think presenting this sort of information is best when de-centering of anyone's experience to prevent undue bias.

Here is what a bimodal distribution looks like. In terms of the Kinsey scale there would be two clusters one at the gay end and one at the straight end. I am not suggesting that this is the case. That is how it would apply to the Kinsey Scale.

 

[daftman]

In Ancient Greece bisexuality was the norm. I'm not sure how much human sexuality has changed as much as how societies and religions have evolved to enforce and punish certain sexual behaviors. I think most men could be open to bisexuality if it was socially acceptable and "cool". That possibility terrifies some people.

I think you are very 'right' there. These things have been evolving over past decades (in the US and elsewhere). I am looking forward to when men can wear tiny bikinis in public. (Not likely! But we can hope!)

 

[Slam91]

It's much larger than reported (especially if you count curious guys) but much less than the gay community assumes. But it has been my anecdotal observation that a LOT of guys (both queer and straight) are fascinated by large dicks, even other guys with big dicks. It doesn't necessarily mean they are sexually aroused as much as curious.

 

[Anton565]

I think there're a number of things going on. Yes, a lot of it's anecdotal, but it seems too frequent to be random. In no particular order:

As has been said, guys compare & admire each others' muscles & other body parts all the time, often often touching, massaging, etc. while saying how impressed they are. I don't see why dick, balls, & ass are exempt from this. I also think the straight world reads way too much into it. Just because it's a dick instead of a bicep doesn't automatically mean it's more sexual.

Most guys seem to just like being naked. If they're in a space where they feel safe, won't be judged, and won't have any negative consequences it takes about two seconds to get them out of their clothes. It also seems like NON-sexual touching goes through the roof!

I've heard a lot of straight guys complain that their wives, girlfriends, etc are almost squeamish (my word) about sex and have fairly rigid ideas of how sex is 'supposed to be'. You have to read between the lines but I get the impression that a lot of straight guys would like to frot, hump legs, lick armpits, get their balls licked for 20 minutes straight, and just generally get sweaty with maximal skin contact.... but a lot of ladies apparently aren't interested. I bet a lot of straight guys wonder if other guys would be more open.

I think a lot of guys want to just release sexual tension without jeopardizing their romantic relationships.

And who you want to have sex with and who you want to date/marry don't need to overlap.

Think about it. When straight guys look at a group of gay guys what do they see? Depending on the setting,
- Friends are openly affectionate, hanging all over each other with lots of skin contact and nobody automatically assumes it's sexual.
- Guys talking explicitly about having done things that sound like fun but could.
- Guys talking about getting blowjobs from guys who want to see how loud they can make the recipient scream.
- Having sex with someone who agrees that good sex is the goal and 'feelings' are set aside.

To get back to point, I'd say most guys are bi-curious and would at least try it once or twice if they didn't have to worry about any negative consequences

One interesting shift I've noticed among younger people is a tendency to define gay,straight, bi, etc. by whom you DATE. So a striaght guy who jumps into bed with another guy when he's between girlfriends and is lonely, bored, or horny is NOT giving up his straight credentials.

 

[juicyj]

guys willing to top other guys and get head from there don't seem to be that rare. It happens in prisons and these men are straight apparently. But I don't know if it would make them bi or not.

Guys who are actually attracted to and would do as much with a guy as they would do with a woman? I'm not sure they're very common at all. I have a hard time believing true bi guys like that exist.

 

[Puffdaddy316]

guys willing to top other guys and get head from there don't seem to be that rare. It happens in prisons and these men are straight apparently. But I don't know if it would make them bi or not.

Guys who are actually attracted to and would do as much with a guy as they would do with a woman? I'm not sure they're very common at all. I have a hard time believing true bi guys like that exist.

On the last part, I assure you we actually exist lol

 

[SAFRAN82]

Beaucoup..
entre ceux qui franchissent le pas..et ceux qui voudraient...
Mais la société...
Le regard.des autres..
Font que ça reste tabou..
Mais tout homme a envie de toucher une autre bouchée que la sienne.
Et après d'autres même plus longe...
Moi je suis devenu accroc à la bite alors que j étais hétéro..et des mes premiers branlettes..je pensais à de la bite qui liait des chattes avec moi..
Aujourd'hui jme gode je suces..et j aime la chatte comme la bite!!!

 

[WilliamG]

Obviously female bisexuality is much more accepted relatively speaking, hence why so many men are DL and stay that way.

Yes it is far more accepted. There are forums all over the internet for women to discuss their bisexuality. Many are on mainstream outlets. Yet men seem to be viewed as "secretly gay" in many circles when discussing there desire for sex with another man while in a hetero relationship.

What if the expert advise told the guys to "take time to understand your feelings" before telling your spouse or gf? Or said, "Prepare for reluctance on your wife’s part when discussing your sexual orientation. There is no need to feel that your relationship with your wife must end because you have come to terms with your bisexuality. Many women remain married to their husbands in healthy, functional relationships even after disclosing their bisexuality."

Note: I replaced the word husband with wife in the above example from this article.

There is a huge difference in how bisexuality is covered between men and women.

 

[juicyj]

On the last part, I assure you we actually exist lol

And I'm so glad you do exist. Bi guys are the biggest turn-on but I can never find them