How to deal better with fetishes?

[Shane_W]

Hey there! I am a member here for a while and recently I moved to Rio de Janeiro (I'm from the country side) and since I had the opportunity to explore more of my sexuality and date and hook up with very hung guys (I am a size king, hence I'm here hehe). I started to follow some threads here with more fetish stuff and some of them really intice me, but I am finding trouble to ask and talk about this stuff with my boys. Some that are more normal and vanilla I already talked about and asked, but others that are more unconventional I really struggle with and worry about their perception on me.
I know that those worries may not be real and even if they won't want to do it is ok and we'll just not do it, and I still find it really hard to ask about or talk without getting very embarased. Do you have any tips or life story entering this area of sex?

 

[Rooker]

Take your time. Assume their boundary is much more vanilla than it may be. Then go to that boundary. If they respond positively, move closer to the kink. Repeat as you discover each other’s wants.

My kink is really just domination. Not just in the sex acts, but the build ups as well. Financial domination, obedience training, waiting (hours or days) for my command, etc… But I didn’t break out the leash and demand she drive three hours to buy me a pizza on the first date. On a first date, I told them what I wanted them to wear, what our plans were, and when I expected them to be ready. Then progressed from there.

All of the women submitted to some degree, but I understood what they could handle by moving slowly. Some just liked me guiding them around in public and rough sex. Others liked full-on submission. Keep in mind these were relationships, not hook-ups. I expect it would be difficult to search for the line in a shorter term relationship.

The bottom line is respect.