I Like Men, But I Am Not Gay ????

[b7ib l 2eir]

I do not know if this case is also around the world;

Here in the Arab countries at most as far as I have seen through chatting or even meeting men from my own country; there is this mentality here that makes me believe why some do say that being Gay is a Psychiatric condition; as much as I did not believe it, but for some, it probably is.

Alot of them(Tops), but not all of course, think of a bottom as a man who is taking the role of a woman; I have blocked most of those who either ask me to wear feminine clothes for them, or even call my private parts as if they were a woman's (boobs, pussy).

I have no boobs; I have a well toned chest from gym.
I don't have a pussy. I have an ass with a hole, a clean nice penis and two big balls.
I have a nice beard too.

I like men who like other MEN...

I am fine with those who like to be called that way; it is their own choice, but what I hate is the idea/ notion that some men want to force this over any bottom they come across with; especially the married ones.

They are top, they are still doing the role GOD made for a man to do; there is nothing wrong with them;
Maybe they have a bad translation of the word Straight acting guy


I met this married guy last week, who in some way disappointed me because he acted differently from what he told me he was while talking by phone.

Anyway, when were we got together and we were talking later on; I asked him about his family and he mentioned that he has a 20 year old son.

When I told him, do you think your son might be gay, his immediate reaction was: "YUCKHhhhh.... of course not." and he said it with this tone of disgust and shock as if that was something very disrespectful for me to say

When he did this, I stood up and left.

Has anyone been in similar situations?

 

[tnman]

Your bi guy, nothing wrong with it

 

[deleted9121811]

I don't know, this might be a cultural thing.
Here in The Netherlands it is perfectly fine to call another man attractive, and enjoy his company, whilst not being gay.

And if you're openly gay, you can have friendships with other men who identify themselves as straight.

I'm a man who likes men, but I also cuddle, hug, shower with my (female) friends. Which does not raise any questions.

I sincerely hope you will find a way to feel comfortable and free, but maybe this idea will not land in your current surroundings. This can change with time ofcourse. Or you can try to actively change and influence the thoughts of your surrounding ofcourse, but it takes a strong will to do so.

 

[b7ib l 2eir]

I think everyone is reading the title only and not even reading what I wrote... this is not abot me at all. I am describing a situation where this man I met felt sick and was offended when I asked him if his son could be gay too, because he believes being a top and married to a woman does not make him gay and his disgust of the thought of being gay made me wonder why would some men think this way. It is my fault I titled this thread this way...

 

[WilliamG]

I don't know, this might be a cultural thing.
Here in The Netherlands it is perfectly fine to call another man attractive, and enjoy his company, whilst not being gay.

And if you're openly gay, you can have friendships with other men who identify themselves as straight.

I'm a man who likes men, but I also cuddle, hug, shower with my (female) friends. Which does not raise any questions.

I sincerely hope you will find a way to feel comfortable and free, but maybe this idea will not land in your current surroundings. This can change with time ofcourse. Or you can try to actively change and influence the thoughts of your surrounding ofcourse, but it takes a strong will to do so.

I need to visit the Netherlands...

 

[WilliamG]

I think everyone is reading the title only and not even reading what I wrote... this is not abot me at all. I am describing a situation where this man I met felt sick and was offended when I asked him if his son could be gay too, because he believes being a top and married to a woman does not make him gay and his disgust of the thought of being gay made me wonder why would some men think this way. It is my fault I titled this thread this way...

My opinion only... But many rationalize their desire for sex with men by "picking a side". Like you said, "I fuck them in the ass - that makes them gay". Or the usual "He sucked MY cock so that makes him gay". The mind plays strange games when there are conflicting roles as a man. That's why there's so many online ads for men "Looking for straight guys to stroke with..." Hell, they're here in our CAM section.

Me? If a nice smooth shaved gay man wanted to stroke dicks with me? Sure. If a nice smooth shaved "100% straight" man tells me he wants to stroke with me? Hell yes. Maybe even tell him I'm 100% straight too so it's more exciting for him!

They can call it what they want... But somebody will be sucking a dick! Or even fucking!

 

[Flotiz]

I should perhaps define myself as an unusual bisexual. I try to summarize and simplify, hoping to make understand what I mean. First of all I say that I can feel a physical and sentimental attraction, which do not always coincide, towards women or girls. This regardless of aesthetic characteristics or age (in the sense that I can also find women older than me attractive). As for the males, I don't know if I would be able to have a real sentimental interest, since I often feel only a strong physical attraction. Therefore, in this case, I find influential and important not only the aesthetic aspect (for example I like the so-called "twink"), but above all the age (I mean that I almost always feel a physical attraction towards boys a little/slightly younger than me). In short, as you will have understood, I am quite complicated...