Irritating habits...

[Leobakker]

Hi ladies!

What is the most irritating habit you have ever experienced in a relationship with a man? Did you break up with him because of that?

Grtz Leo

 

[693987]

Smoking. I had two exes who smoked. It definitely isn't why I broke up with them, but going forward I heavily lean towards people who do not.

Lying. It is definitely a huge part of why I did break up with them.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Cigarettes. My ex never cared to quit, he really enjoyed his ciggies. I always hated it.

I didn't break up with him over it. We just weren't compatible for a long term commitment. I don't think either of us actually ended it, we just found ourselves not together over about a six month period.

Pet names too. I fucking HATE being called "baby" or "boo" or any of that cutsie shit. Dated a couple guys who thought I was kidding when I told them not to call me those names. Never ended anything with anyone over that either... Just made it clear that I'm not a baby and my name ain't "boo".

As for my man, the one I'm with now and will probably get old as fuck with: he opens and closes the shower curtain So Aggressively, and it wakes me up sometimes. And sometimes he falls asleep on my lap when I'm still all energetic and wanna get up to do something. It's really not that annoying when he does that, though

 

[LaFemme]

Chewing tobacco. Smoking? That’s nothing compared to a guy who chews. Spit cans everywhere, blech.

Still, I’m not one who will throw away a perfectly good human being over annoying habits. Life is too short. It’s personality flaws that will drive me away. (Well, other than drug use - it threatens my own sobriety. I just can’t be around it. Even weed. Use it, just don’t leave it around me. One hit and I’ll be doing coke in a week. Just me, though. I was a serious user.)

Criminal behaviour is a no-no. Anger issues - no yelling, no name-calling, humiliation, no grabbing me, etc. I’ll argue, but in an adult way.

Don’t treat me like a child, tell me how to do things I already know how to do. Unless I’m paying you to teach me how to drive, cook, install a toilet lever - keep your advice to yourself. I am not your student or your daughter. I’ll ask for your help if I need it. Do not patronize me.

Drunks. Alcoholic or not. I do not respect you when you drink too much. I understand the disease. I love people with the disease, but I will never be in a relationship with another drunk.

Other than that, I think we can work it out.

 

[latinabella]

Hi ladies!

What is the most irritating habit you have ever experienced in a relationship with a man? Did you break up with him because of that?

Grtz Leo

His snoring, a gentle push doesnt help to make him stop. I sometimes need to hit him hard so that he reacts and turn around

Or when he leaves the toilet seat open, damn its irritating. He always wants to do the dishes before we eat, ok its great in a way. But not when you have to wait and the dinner gets cold.

I also hate when he sometimes is to afraid to speak out his mind because he knows what my reaction will be like. And that gets me mad

 

[EllieP]

I just realized that I've never dated a person that I knew smoked. I mean, if he did smoke I never knew it, and usually my nose is pretty good about these things. Interesting.

But I would not be in a relationship with someone who did smoke or chew. My Dad used to smoke a pipe, and I loved the smell. But he quit when I was still living at home. Sometimes when I smell a pipe it brings back such memories.

It's difficult for me to label snoring as a habit, but I'm kind of saddled with that now. He's not horrible, and he's one of the only people I know that did a sleep study at the hospital and was not prescribed a C-PAP.

I have a unique talent where I can turn off some minor annoyances. My best friend says I must have a touch of Y chromosome, because she doesn't know another woman who can do that. Sometimes I'll zero in on a constant sound, and other times it goes unnoticed. I guess it's just how attuned I am to what I'm working on.

But the number one habit, the big one, the one that will do me in one day is his driving. Specifically, he will wait until the last minute to stop; stop at a stop sign, traffic light or behind another car, he has entirely too much faith in his brakes, and it drives me crazy. I know the floor on the right side of the passenger compartment has an indentation where I've put my foot through pressing on the imaginary brake pedal. And this is my car! I don't ride in his truck. That's way too scary!

 

[MickeyLee]

I think I am the annoying one in most relationships

 

[LaFemme]

I think I am the annoying one in most relationships

I get you Ms Lee. I think I’m undateable.

 

[deleted924715]

Denial. Drives me nuts.

I *know* it wasn't me. Who the fuck left the oven on? The dog????

It's not a big deal until he denies the most ridiculous shit!

 

[LaFemme]

Denial. Drives me nuts.

I *know* it wasn't me. Who the fuck left the oven on? The dog????

It's not a big deal until he denies the most ridiculous shit!

Drives me nuts, too! Two of us live here. Pretty sure I didn’t pee all over the toilet seat. Oh, maybe I did. Slept walked into the bathroom, stood on my head, and did a breakdance head spin spraying urine all over the damn place. Yeah, forget it - way more likely than you not lifting the seat.

 

[Betty_Cocker]

I have only had one relationship in my life. It has lasted over 40 years.
But he has one irritating habit that I've learned to accept.
Procrastination.
I am not a procrastinator. At all. Quite the opposite.
He is totally a procrastinator, but I've learned that even though he may wait until the midnight hour to do something, I can depend on him to get it done.
I just have to give him a timeline.

 

[Holly Doors]

I can't moan too much, I have what many would consider annoying habits. I smoke and drink a lot, eat rubbish food because I enjoy it and also have an issue where I kinda have a lot of wind causing me to burp unexpectedly (it just happens not something I have much control over) which some people find embarrassing.

However, I was once in a relationship with a guy who dealt drugs, he kept it from me until we were together then told me. He used himself a little, tried to force me to use, would disappear for days, have random undesirable people in my company etc. As a result his sex game wasn't particularly good, he couldn't really level with me and as a result I got out! X

 

[EllieP]

I think I am the annoying one in most relationships

That is exactly what my best friend said when I told her I was giving up on men. I could never hold a relationship for more than a few months, and I was just tired of trying.

I gave her a litany of guys I had broken up with in the past year. She said "do you see a common thread? It's you!"

She was probably right. I still don't know if she was joking or not.

 

[286798]

open mouth chewing and other smackage. I have misophonia... if you chew your cud, I will want to punch you in the face.

 

[AlteredEgo]

Pet names too. I fucking HATE being called "baby" or "boo" or any of that cutsie shit. Dated a couple guys who thought I was kidding when I told them not to call me those names. Never ended anything with anyone over that either... Just made it clear that I'm not a baby and my name ain't "boo".

Because I was raised by Afro-centric, feminist hippies, I bristle a bit at being called girl (by a man), chick, doll, baby, or anything like that. I've never minded being called Sweetheart, honey, darling, things like that. I did allow my high school sweetheart to call me Boo, because he did it rarely, and always ironically. I dated a guy who tried to call me his boodah or Buddha, I'm not sure which, but I shut that shit down after he told some waitress that's who I was. I corrected him the second she was out of earshot.

"Um... You don't know me like that. My name is [First Name] and we are not on a nickname level right now, Dre. We definitely do not imply to others that I'm your girlfriend. I am flattered, but you need to slow down."

By "flattered" I meant annoyed. Concerned. A little grossed out.

Anyway, years before that I had a boyfriend who called me Baby, or My Baby, or Babe. I tried to tolerate it, but eventually told him I didn't like it. He tried to stop, but kept slipping. Finally, he explained that he knew I was grown, and agreed I was in full effect, totally actualized all that good stuff. However, he thought of me as small and cute. I was initially offended. I'm not small. I am damn' near five nine. Heavy. Solid. He pointed out that compared to him I was very small. It was true. He said I triggered cuteness aggression in him. Ever look at a pet, and want to eat it, or squeeze too hard when hugging? Not that you do it, but there's the urge to be too rough? That's an actual known phenomenon. He said also wanted to take care of me. He asked to please just let him call me his baby. I agreed, and eventually it grew on me. Now I don't mind.

I have a nickname though. My mother gave it to me. All my friends use it. I prefer to be called by that name by an intimate partner. LOL Actually, when a lover uses my full first name, I always think we are about to have a fight! The other day, Dude was like, "Thank you, [First name]. I appreciate that." I asked him in all seriousness if I had angered him. I don't think he used my shortened name, let alone my whole first name, in months. LOL He said that was a weird question, and pointed out that I never use his nickname or apply a pet name to him. It's true. Even during sex I use all three syllables of his given name.

Anyway. Channel surfing. It's fine initially, but once you let me see three minutes of something, I'm watching that. Don't change it. Pisses me off, just not enough to complain out loud.

 

[LaFemme]

Because I was raised by Afro-centric, feminist hippies, I bristle a bit at being called girl (by a man), chick, doll, baby, or anything like that. I've never minded being called Sweetheart, honey, darling, things like that. I did allow my high school sweetheart to call me Boo, because he did it rarely, and always ironically. I dated a guy who tried to call me his boodah or Buddha, I'm not sure which, but I shut that shit down after he told some waitress that's who I was. I corrected him the second she was out of earshot.

"Um... You don't know me like that. My name is [First Name] and we are not on a nickname level right now, Dre. We definitely do not imply to others that I'm your girlfriend. I am flattered, but you need to slow down."

By "flattered" I meant annoyed. Concerned. A little grossed out.

Anyway, years before that I had a boyfriend who called me Baby, or My Baby, or Babe. I tried to tolerate it, but eventually told him I didn't like it. He tried to stop, but kept slipping. Finally, he explained that he knew I was grown, and agreed I was in full effect, totally actualized all that good stuff. However, he thought of me as small and cute. I was initially offended. I'm not small. I am damn' near five nine. Heavy. Solid. He pointed out that compared to him I was very small. It was true. He said I triggered cuteness aggression in him. Ever look at a pet, and want to eat it, or squeeze too hard when hugging? Not that you do it, but there's the urge to be too rough? That's an actual known phenomenon. He said also wanted to take care of me. He asked to please just let him call me his baby. I agreed, and eventually it grew on me. Now I don't mind.

I have a nickname though. My mother gave it to me. All my friends use it. I prefer to be called by that name by an intimate partner. LOL Actually, when a lover uses my full first name, I always think we are about to have a fight! The other day, Dude was like, "Thank you, [First name]. I appreciate that." I asked him in all seriousness if I had angered him. I don't think he used my shortened name, let alone my whole first name, in months. LOL He said that was a weird question, and pointed out that I never use his nickname or apply a pet name to him. It's true. Even during sex I use all three syllables of his given name.

Anyway. Channel surfing. It's fine initially, but once you let me see three minutes of something, I'm watching that. Don't change it. Pisses me off, just not enough to complain out loud.

I love your name! And your ‘nickname’. Totally suits your personality.

The kids call me by a nickname because technically I’m not their biological mother, but I raised them. Most of their friends call me that, too. My first name is spelled differently than it’s pronounced so almost no one gets it right, so I answer to the shortened version. Most of my friends here know what that is. My own name is so rare that if I told people what it was they could probably google it and find me, so I never share it anyway.

Lovers have never called me ‘boo’ or ‘sweetie’ or anything like that - always by my nickname. I’ve had friends call me ‘sweetie’ when I’m down, and that doesn’t bother me at all. It feels maternal.

Names are interesting.

 

[DaisyDoesIt]

I don't do tobacco or drunks. But---lying, deceit , or hurtful behavior--towards anyone---are deal breakers. Period.