Judging a man's performance.

[dolfette]

I'll give you an orgasm whether you like it or not!

you'd fail.

 

[Drifterwood]

But as others posted, some people enjoy 'performance'. Sexual extroverts you could say. And what is a performance without reviewers?

It's an argument, but rather weak I think, because this type of person is not in the majority by nature. And why doesn't it swing both ways? I've never known of a guy to lie back and say show me what you've got tight puss and I'll let you know. Maybe I'll give it a go :biggrin1: Maybe I am wrong, I am sure you'll all let me know.

pft! i happily admit to being shite in bed.
i'm fully entitle to say when i think men are being shite too.

Two negatives make a positive, I think Dolfie. I have read many of your comments and you know what you like, why should you call that shite? And a guy whom many would think shite might be just what you want. I know you don't conform and why should you.

 

[ManlyBanisters]

I keep seeing people use this expression, and I find it very insulting, revealing of sexual immaturity and frankly makes those who say it completely unattractive to me.

Why do women talk about the way men interact sexually as a performance and rating or judging it? I'll give you a few clues:

How was I?
Was I good enough?
What would you give me out of 10?
What did you like best?
Was that all right, did it rate?
Was I better than X or not as good?
If sex was an Olympic sport would I be a contender?
So, give me my marks?

(those are all genuine, either from guys I was with or guys friends were with and told me about, and that's just the tip of the iceberg)

A lot of men, not all and not necessarily you, see sex as a performance and want to be judged - or seem to want to. Perhaps they don't at all - it's only the ones who come across as insecure (to me) who actually asked to be judged, but there has been plenty of not so direct conversation with others that has strongly hinted that the guy wanted a rating on his 'performance' and cocksize rolleyes.

Some of your attitudes about men stink. What on earth do you think we are? (OK I am looking forward to the answers on that.)

I think men are human, like the rest of us :smile:

And I can't help but notice that most of those who talk like this about men, are not voluntarily single. What a surprise.

Maybe the single women here who are looking for someone are just too used to being played and have started to play back - There is still a very strong culture of men objectifying women sexually. 'Judging' men for their 'performance' may not be nice but I suspect to a lot of women it feels like tit for tat (forgive the pun).

Thanks. :smile:

You're welcome :smile:

Men can't fake it

Balls. Of course they can.

 

[D_Tintagel_Demondong]

Balls.

What about 'em?

Of course they can.

He can't fake a hardon or an orgasm (if he's wearing a condom). With utilitarian sex, the man's job is simple: get hard, go in, cum, get out. He can't do any of that if he doesn't get hard or cum. Whether or not this is a 'performance' or just 'criteria', these bases still need to be covered.

Drifter, as far as judgement of a man's performance goes, look at the back of any porn DVD and you'll see many adverbs and similes describing the woman's 'performance'. Women may talk about their lover's performance in bed with their girlfriends, but I really don't think that this happens as often as it does in Sex in the City--especially among married women.

 

[ManlyBanisters]

What about 'em?

HickBoy's big bouncey ones - I like mentioning them. :smile:

He can't fake a hardon or an orgasm (if he's wearing a condom). With utilitarian sex, the man's job is simple: get hard, go in, cum, get out. He can't do any of that if he doesn't get hard or cum. Whether or not this is a 'performance' or just 'criteria', these bases still need to be covered.

I would say it is easier for a guy to fake an orgasm when he has a condom on - Whip the thing off and chuck it. I certainly never used to ask to inspect the damn thing after

Once a woman is a bit wet she can fake the rest and can certainly fake the enjoyment level. Once a man is hard he can fake the rest and can certainly fake the enjoyment level.

 

[D_Tintagel_Demondong]

HickBoy's big bouncey ones - I like mentioning them. :smile:

I know. I can hear them slapping your wet pussy from here. I can't get any sleep. :redface:

I would say it is easier for a guy to fake an orgasm when he has a condom on - Whip the thing off and chuck it. I certainly never used to ask to inspect the damn thing after

If he pulled out and you happened to look down to see a saggy, empty reservoir tip, would you think that he somehow failed in his performance? Would you think that you failed to please him?

Do HB's condoms explode?

 

[ManlyBanisters]

If he pulled out and you happened to look down to see a saggy, empty reservoir tip, would you think that he somehow failed in his performance? Would you think that you failed to please him?

The answer to both those questions would dependon a hell of a lot more than seeing an empty resevoir tip.

Do HB's condoms explode?

Yes - when we fill them with water and throw them at the mods :biggrin1:

 

[dolfette]

Two negatives make a positive, I think Dolfie. I have read many of your comments and you know what you like, why should you call that shite? And a guy whom many would think shite might be just what you want. I know you don't conform and why should you.

i'm a rogue,
a rebel,
a free spirit.
...i'd be quite exciting were i not so idle.

 

[Drifterwood]

Why do women talk about the way men interact sexually as a performance and rating or judging it? I'll give you a few clues:

How was I?
Was I good enough?
What would you give me out of 10?
What did you like best?
Was that all right, did it rate?
Was I better than X or not as good?
If sex was an Olympic sport would I be a contender?
So, give me my marks?

(those are all genuine, either from guys I was with or guys friends were with and told me about, and that's just the tip of the iceberg).

I know this.

Why the xxxx do they feel the need to ask? and women don't.

 

[dolfette]

she missed one though.
the ever present...
''am i the biggest you ever had?''

 

[Drifterwood]

she missed one though.
the ever present...
''am i the biggest you ever had?''

And are you ever going to have a happy relationship with all this shit going on?

That is my question.

 

[dolfette]

And are you ever going to have a happy relationship with all this shit going on?

That is my question.

i found myself a man who never asks.
a man who knows how to shut up and fuck.
and thank fucking gawd for that one!

 

[helgaleena]

Drifterwood skrev:

I've never known of a guy to lie back and say show me what you've got tight puss and I'll let you know. Maybe I'll give it a go :biggrin1:

You should try it! I like rubbing oil into things for example. I spent much of today with my cutting boards, salad bowls, knife handles, and incubi...

 

[Mule]

It's only really fair to 'judge' a man's performance on things he can directly control, such as his ability to listen and pay attention to a woman's response, be considerate, lack of selfishness, etc. Judging a guy on his ability to maintain an erection or on the size of his cock is pretty harsh. I realize that those factors may have an impact on his ability to perform, but if it's not something he can do anything about, it's rather cruel to pass judgement upon him for it.

If a guy works hard to be the best lover he can be, he should absolutely be in the running for being a "class A stud".

 

[rob_just_rob]

OP sounds bitter to me.

I agree it isn't fair to judge a man's performance (in bed). To a large extent, whether a woman has an orgasm is dependent on whether she has orgasms, not whether the man she's with is good at bestowing orgasms on women.

That point aside, fairly or not, men and women endlessly judge each other, and why should this be different?

 

[Patchos]

Some men are absolutely shithouse in bed because they make no effort whatsoever to please the woman they're with; they just want to nut. I'd call that a bad performance.

 

[Guy-jin]

you'd fail.

I wasn't actually talking about myself. You're not my type, I'm afraid. :frown1:

 

[AlphaMale]

It's only really fair to 'judge' a man's performance on things he can directly control, such as his ability to listen and pay attention to a woman's response, be considerate, lack of selfishness, etc. Judging a guy on his ability to maintain an erection or on the size of his cock is pretty harsh. I realize that those factors may have an impact on his ability to perform, but if it's not something he can do anything about, it's rather cruel to pass judgement upon him for it.

If a guy works hard to be the best lover he can be, he should absolutely be in the running for being a "class A stud".

You da man Mule! :smile:

 

[dolfette]

I wasn't actually talking about myself. You're not my type, I'm afraid. :frown1:

i was going along with the joke, dude.

 

[Drifterwood]

Drifterwood skrev:

I've never known of a guy to lie back and say show me what you've got tight puss and I'll let you know. Maybe I'll give it a go :biggrin1:

You should try it! I like rubbing oil into things for example. I spent much of today with my cutting boards, salad bowls, knife handles, and incubi...

Oh I have, with a lover, a proper lover, how we wanted to interact with each other. The joy of tantric massage. But this is a mile away from, OK now perform.