Locker Room - Sizing Up

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by ripley_m, Jan 6, 2009.

  1. ripley_m

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    I'm an averagely-endowed guy, not particularly small and not too large either, and more of a grower than a shower.

    Often when I'm in the locker room at the gym there is always a large proportion of guys around me better endowed then myself, which tends to depress me slightly, for want of a better word. Some days, when Im feeling pretty confident in my own skin, I don't really take heed, but others, like today, it effects me negatively.

    Is this normal? I don't think its jealousy on my part, maybe some envy is involved. How do other guys deal with this thing?
     
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    Perhaps you were just in a bad spot today vs other days. It is mid-winter, the holidays are over..its dark more than light out ...so take it in context. One thing I DO know fore sure tho, is comparing your insides to other peoples outsides is never a winning proposition =)
     
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    Penis envy is a lose-lose situation.
     
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    Yeah, I agree willtom. I would never have considered myself particularly envious - I suppose I shouldn't really have any reason to be, if I think about it logically. I actually like my dick, it gives me huge amounts of pleasure and works amazingly well :) I guess I wouldn't mind being larger, particularly when soft. Maybe I am just having a bad day!
     
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    I'm a grower here, too, sport.

    I finally refused to feel inadequate because my dick appears to be on the small side of average when in its flaccid state. I know how thick and fat it gets when I'm horned up, and I know how many times guys have said "wow...that's a really hot dick."

    So, now I just think "fuck em" if someone looks at me and takes pity on me because they think I have a small dick. The joke is on them, although I'd be more than willing to let them in on the punch line! :)
     
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    Is a proven fact that when you see other's guy dicks they look bigger than yours. This is due to the angle of viewing. You see your dick from upside (wich causes it to look smaller than it is). This is one of the reasons because others guys' dicks looks almost always bigger than yours. I don't remember now the name for this optical effect.

    This also explains why many guys think that their girls exaggerate when they tell them how big are their dicks. If you watched your dick from the same angle of vision that your girl, it will look bigger than you usually see it.

    Porn directors and camera operators apply very well these techniques when they shoot their films. Remember that the perceived size of things can be noteciable altered with different use of views and angles. It's a kind of science in its own.
     
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    It's all good, the locker room is not the best place for comparison. So long as your comfortable with your size, I mean size does not always mean they know how to use it. Just be proud of what you have.
     
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    bruddah, don't get depressed because other guys look more bigger. first off, they might not get much bigger when hard, yah? and, more importantly, just because a guy has one big kine cock, doesn't mean he can use it, yah?
     
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    I'd say it probably happens to all of us, regardless of our own size. I know I feel a twinge of envy when I see a guy in a locker room or gym shower who's larger soft. It's clearly an irrational response, since (aside from these rare moments of being outsized) I really don't want to be any larger than I am.

    Try not to let it get to you. I'm sure you have positive attributes that are far more important and meaningful than something as superficial as penis size.

    Steve
     
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    Cheers guys.

    Steve26 - glad to hear I'm not the only one!
     
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    You are most definitely not ... and for what it's worth I am straight and well-endowed.

    Steve
     
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    Yeah, I wouldn't have thought of it as a particularly 'gay' thing
     
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    No, not at all. We straight guys size up the competition too, regardless of what anyone else on "my team" may say. And beyond my own experience, I know from having chatted with quite a few men of different sexual orientations in my years as a member here that many or most of us experience this same irrational envy.

    Steve
     
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    I wouldn't be surprised if the people using the communal showers are at the larger end of the spectrum anyway, wither because they want to show off or smaller guys may be embarrassed.
     
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    It's really tough for a guy like me. First, mine is very, very small when limp and secondly I see on a fairly regular basis, guys that are bigger soft than I am hard (especially in girth). That really give me a twinge of jealousy
     
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    I absolutely believe that's true. I have often found that the first time I get together with another guy for a little cock play his dick will look large to me. But once we're cock to cock I'm surprised to find mine is bigger than his. It's probably the simple fact that you never see your own dick in profile view.

    Brings to mind that old joke about the guy undressing in front of the prostitute and she asks "And who do you think you're going to please with that little thing?" To which he responds "ME!!"

    Don't give it another thought, Ripley, and do have a good day.
     
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    just had to share this one...(I posted it awhile back) awhile back when I worked more 'traditional hours' there was a group of 'regulars' in the AM...and it being a predominatly 'straight' gym I try to be non-exhibitionist....(another story there) anyhow, once in awhile you get the 'new cock on the walk' type...the show off etc..

    well this one guy, younger and well, obnoxious (did'tn wipe off equipment, etc) we all noticed- he was also freeballing in shorts so we could all "see"...anyhow he is strutting around basically 'showing off'...

    We all head back to the showers (most of us had fairly set routines and knew each other by face, if not by name) and he winds up with us....there is a line for the showers and he is of course scratching his nuts to further make sure we see (not bad but...) so I go take a leak, give it a few good hard tugs and get it nice and 'fluffed', walk back out, let my towel drop casually...

    Mr know it all glances my way....and tries not to look...his eyes get bigger and bigger and.....I could see him glance from me to him and back (friend later told me he was biting his togue to keep from laughing), anyway showered etc....noticed 'mr bigshot' came out of the shower with a towel wrapped around him... slid his (bikini briefs??) under his towel and hasn't been seen again...

    the other guys have sinced laught about the 'throw down'...

    so it works both ways...some guys have em and a are nice guys- but a "well hung" asshole is still...an asshole
     
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    I;m only like 4.5 long soft BUT 5 around soft. I alwasys get guys checking out my piece as if they are impressed and that is why friends spread rumours of me being hung. Is 4.5 x 5 a really good flaccid size or something?
     
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    "It's probably the simple fact that you never see your own dick in profile view."


    There's this new invention, called a MIRROR, and...
     
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    oh defintly, about the showing off part. one time i was in this communal shower, and we were all like 16,17 year old kids, but no one would get naked. one kid did (whilst getting changed) and he was ripped by the others "gay boy", "small dick". so me being forever the antagonist, drop my shorts and walk out after my shower. it was funny to see everyones head lift and no one takl for a while. my friends found this hillarious.

    anywho, what im trying to say is, well yeah i guess i did it to show off, but it was for a more bnoble cause against arseholes. and even those too pussy to shower naked were ripping on smaller guys, so its everywhere in the showers not just the nudes
     
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