Lurker pmms

[13788]

Sweet Caroline:

Originally posted by hungthick@Feb 14 2005, 12:04 PM
peace (oh, sweet caroline i like reading your posts and you have a great avatar).

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*blush*

 

[13788]

NelsonMuntz84: I've had a few pm's some of which have been a bit abusive, but I'm a big boy and I dont really care. However, and I hope this doesn't sound sexist, I really dislike any vile pm's or going against the female on this sites wishes in regards to pm's, if someone makes it very clear (male or female for that matter) about how they do things then we should respect that as much as we can.

I also think anyone asking an underage member for pics wants to get a grip of themself, and give themselves a bloody good shake.

 

[lapdog2001]

It is really quite simple, if anybody requests that people do not PM them, then do not PM them!

Sometime late last summer when I joined lpsg, I was part of a long running thread in which Jana and many of the other women of lpsg were participating. At some point, I PM'd her with a question or words of encouragement. I was polite, and had been 'interacting' with her through the many subjects in this forum. I did not get a 'FOAD' reply, as I was following her wishes, even before she had posted them! Even though we haven't communicated via PM in many months, I'd like to think that if I have a reason to PM Jana, I'm not going to get a FOAD response!

I've PM'd some of the other women here too, and I've always been respectful and have received respectful responses. I now communicate with some of the members here outside of the lpsg environment.

My point is that by posting here, whether responding to others or posing a question, allows any reader to get to 'know' me. I have no doubt that is why I have not been told to go away when I have contacted lspg members.

On the other side of the coin, I've been PM'd by some men asking personal information while in chat, who don't know that I am straight. I politely tell them that all they need to know is in my profile.

The questions posed to Jana were perfectly fine, they just should have been posed in the forums instead of PM'd to her personally.

Just my opinion,
LapDog

 

[D_Barbi_Queue]

I've gotten PM's from Geo, gushiggins, and a couple others that have been respectable. Those I don't mind, especially if they are established members that I've already been conversing with in other threads. It's the ones like what I posted above that I could care less for. ....like I really give a shit of some dude and his chick watched porn together and now all of a sudden they need my opinon on size. Get a life! (In fact, if I'm not mistaken....I think that's the second time he's sent that same exact PM to me - get a hint....if I didn't answer the first time, I'm not going to the second time.)

 

[Freddie53]

Originally posted by hung_big@Feb 13 2005, 08:19 PM
And Freddy, it's obvious that you love her

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The word love has so many meanings that it is almost a useless word to convey any true meaning. So just in case, let me clarify something here. Jana reminds me of my sister. They both have had the same battle with alcoholism. And we tend to agree on most subjects. So I do love Jana, like a sister. I am not attracted to her sexually. I have too much homosexual tendencies for that to happen.

But when I read her posts it is like visiting with my sister. My sister and I are very close. We went through a terrible childhood together and stood by each other.

So, I have heard Jana's story and stand by her. I just wanted to clarify that.

Freddie

 

[D_Humper E Bogart]

Personally, I'm hoping to pass my degree and create a Zara clone, but that's my secret...

Seriously though, I haven't been PMed in a while and most of the "strangers" were fairly too the point, but some people need to learn to grow up.

Yes, if you want to PM someone and say they're attractive or whatever AND you're a regular, then personally, I love ego-strokes, but the "OMFG, FUCKEE YOU SUCKEE!" PMs are too far, especially from n00bs.

 

[D_Martin van Burden]

Originally posted by PonyPete@Feb 7 2005, 09:28 PM
One piece of info included in my profile is my birthdate, so anyone can see I'm 17, but folks keep PMing me asking for dick pics. Look, I know there's at least one pic of a naked 17 year old with a boner in the gallery, but I'm not one to do that. I ignore PMs with pic requests.

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No wonder you're getting hounded for pictures. Your birthdate in the profile is set at Tax Day (April 15), 1980 -- which would make you a hair over 25. And it is possible to set your birth year to a year that would make you under 18 in this forum.

 

[steve319]

This is the first time I've seen this topic and I'm so glad I read it! I helped me to clarify and understand some of the PM's I've been getting.

I had sort of viewed the receiving of requests for pics as just something that some folks are more comfortable with than I am. I get those messages from people and I've always (very politely) laughed it off and said I'm too shy or whatever. I was beginning to wonder if maybe I was coming off as rude for not participating in the LPSG experience to the extent that others are (I still wouldn't have shared pics, but I would have felt the need to apologize for not doing so). But reading this topic has helped me see this issue more clearly and feel better about my "just say no" stance.

(I think it's weird that I get those requests anyway since I'm very clear about falling into the "just above average" range with personal stats. Not sure how to be any clearer.)

ONE MORE THING: This underscores another thing I enjoy about taking part in things at LPSG. This is probably the only place in my life that I can be the naïve one! I've been down some (relatively) dark roads in my life (for a rural guy, anyway) and being the new initiate here is a fun experience (if a bit disorienting). Anyone know what I mean by that?

 

[madame_zora]

Oh sure, we've all had the enlightening experience of being a noob on LPSG at the beginning. At this point, anyone with over 50 posts isn't a noob anymore, so Steve, you're one of the gang! I appreciate members like you who continue to learn and grow in our unwritten traditions. For the most part, we are self-monitoring, supportive, caring and interested in each other, so the ones who aren't stand out. The few polite pmms from lurkers I'ce received have usually gotten a polite "Please don't pm me again" but the others have either gotten ignored or flames from me. I posted this topic to let people know this is an experience we all share, so you're not alone.

 

[Pecker]

OMG - Jana, you mean I'm not a newbie either?

Next you'll be potty training me.

 

[madame_zora]

Originally posted by Pecker@Apr 24 2005, 09:19 PM
OMG - Jana, you mean I'm not a newbie either?

Next you'll be potty training me.

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No Pecker, I'm keeping you in diapers just so I can do the talc rubs.



Oh yeah, for anyone interested, don't be a dufus and try to IM me either!

 

[D_Barbi_Queue]

*adds Jana to my IM list* Oh wait, I don't have one of those damn things. Nevermind...you're safe from me afterall.

 

[madame_zora]

Originally posted by TexAssgirl@Apr 25 2005, 12:40 AM
*adds Jana to my IM list* Oh wait, I don't have one of those damn things. Nevermind...you're safe from me afterall.

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I don't think I need protection from you, girl!

No, I just got another annoying add request from a noob today saying "I read you on lpsg all the time"- well if that's true, they should KNOW how I feel about noobs!

 

[yaoifun]

Originally posted by madame_zora+Apr 24 2005, 08:13 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(madame_zora &#064; Apr 24 2005, 08:13 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'><!--QuoteBegin-TexAssgirl@Apr 25 2005, 12:40 AM
*adds Jana to my IM list* Oh wait, I don&#39;t have one of those damn things.  Nevermind...you&#39;re safe from me afterall.

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I don&#39;t think I need protection from you, girl&#33;

No, I just got another annoying add request from a noob today saying "I read you on lpsg all the time"- well if that&#39;s true, they should KNOW how I feel about noobs&#33;

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Ditto to that&#33;

 

[13788]

hung_big: Preech it momma, preech it&#33;

 

[13788]

kracken: OK, time for my two cents. Even though I&#39;ve been on the site for a while, I still don&#39;t know everything about it. It wasn&#39;t until about a month ago that I found the chat room&#33;

So please forgive me if my questions and comments seem ignorant.

1) On every PM service I have been on, there has been an option to only get PM&#39;s from people on my buddy list. Wouldn&#39;t it be easier just to engage that option? If people wanted to get in touch with others and have found that they are banned or ignored via that option, why not start another thread in Meet & Greet called Looking to PM or something like that?

2) I agree that to be incessantly hounded and badgered by idiots just isn&#39;t fun. Unless you can send them a virus to crash their computer. Then THAT could be fun. But that could easily escalate.

3) Judging by the two posts that were used as examples, I&#39;s have to say that the lurkers are either very young or uneducated. Madame Z&#39;s post, with all the spelling errors in the PM, and when did Gangsta chat ever appeal to anyone, and TexAssGirl&#39;s post about the boyfriend with the 3 incher, it all rings of being young, uneducated and possible low self esteem. BTW, I&#39;m not a shrink, I just love to Psycoanalyze, not be Psycho. But I digress.

4) I&#39;m glad that Madame Z did set the ground rules for her preference. At least those of us that use the forum know when we can PM her. But I have to wonder just how effective it will be, Madame Z. I&#39;m not trying to be a downer or insult you but I don&#39;t see how those people who are making the posts like the two mentioned above will really care. They will still PM people.

5) Maybe there should be a new policy that if you join, you HAVE to do a minimum of two posts, even if it&#39;s only to say hi the Meet and Greet section, within the first 3 days. If you don&#39;t then you get deleted. THis could clear up a lot of luker problems.

Just my two cents.


Kracken
Gay, Jewish & Republican - - - and you thought YOU had problems

 

[madame_zora]

Kracken, for some reason, this board doesn&#39;t offer the "buddies only" option you suggested, we talked to Mark about it before. I do block people I get annoying pmms from, but posting stupid threads like this seems to work the best. I get far fewer of them now than I once did, it&#39;s just that the posting woman to lurking men ratio is about 1000 to one.

You may be right about the low self esteem issue, but I tend to think it&#39;s more that they&#39;re too busy jerking off to bother to type well. We have a gallery for that, I don&#39;t need pmms to know about it&#33;

I never mind (and in fact enjoy) getting pmms from regular contributing members and I want lurkers to be free to read, just leave me alone until you&#39;re adding to the site, please&#33;

 

[willie]

I for one don&#39;t mind bulletin boards where you have to show some persistence.

Too many boards are bogged down by trolls and people just join to publicise their single cause.

 

[B_hungrick]

Originally posted by TexAssgirl@Apr 24 2005, 04:40 PM
*adds Jana to my IM list* Oh wait, I don&#39;t have one of those damn things. Nevermind...you&#39;re safe from me afterall.

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Yeh, I&#39;ve gotten the unwanted PMs also. Most of the total I have received have been positive & cool.

BTW, TexAssgirl, I didn&#39;t want to PM you but I have to say that every time I see your avatar, it makes me quite nervous....but in a good way&#33;&#33;&#33;

 

[DC_DEEP]

Originally posted by madame_zora@Apr 25 2005, 03:06 AM
Kracken, for some reason, this board doesn&#39;t offer the "buddies only" option you suggested, we talked to Mark about it before. I do block people I get annoying pmms from, but posting stupid threads like this seems to work the best. I get far fewer of them now than I once did, it&#39;s just that the posting woman to lurking men ratio is about 1000 to one.

You may be right about the low self esteem issue, but I tend to think it&#39;s more that they&#39;re too busy jerking off to bother to type well. We have a gallery for that, I don&#39;t need pmms to know about it&#33;

I never mind (and in fact enjoy) getting pmms from regular contributing members and I want lurkers to be free to read, just leave me alone until you&#39;re adding to the site, please&#33;

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Maybe I&#39;m just not too bright, but could someone please explain to me the problem with Jana having a preference and making it known? I understand her reasons. I will admit that I accidentally ignored that.

Jana, in the very short time I&#39;ve been on the board, I have come to respect and admire you more than you can imagine, and I suspect you know the 3 or 4 reasons for that. By the way, your "avatar du jour" is deliciously salacious&#33; Thank you for your trust and support, and especially for the new friendship you have extended to me. You are nothing short of incredible. How the hell did you manage to have such a great total package? Beautiful, bright, open-minded, witty, passionate, and compassionate? If I were not gay, I think I would be in love with you, and since I am gay, I will have to settle for just simply loving you. Don&#39;t change a bit, babe - not that I think for a moment that you would.

To all: don&#39;t be so quick to judge; I&#39;m not certain (I don&#39;t regularly check my number of posts) but I think Jana read my posts, and actually made an exception in my case - but ONLY after reading my posts. It is her right and prerogative to decide to receive or not receive a PM. Don&#39;t be like the religious-right fanatics, and demand that she conform to your views of propriety.