I have discovered that I am adversely affected by a man who doesn't greedily eat my pussy like he's starving for it. I don't really need any other kind of lust from him, whoever he is. I do need a response to my lust to be happy and horny.
I have enough lust for a busload of women, but if I get the impression that it is overwhelming, unrequited, or just plain unwanted as is sometimes the case with my husband, that desire does find a way to get channeled elsewhere. Once, this even spawned romance and love outside my marriage when my lust settled on a friend from an online game. I recently was able to make my husband understand this, and confessed the full breadth of my emotional involvement with that individual.
Consequently, I have had to recently discuss with my husband that I want more sex partners, and he has had to consent to me finding them. I have encouraged him, as part of these discussions, to date and fuck more women. As an adult, he has only ever dated me, and only ever had sex with me. He has only ever been in love with me. I want him to get more experience, and find out what is normal for him. We should have done this sooner. The conversations eliminated every trace of resentment from our relationship, and brought us closer than ever. And I met a nice woman today! I NEVER meet women I want to have sex with.
I'm not sure it's going to work out. She thinks I'm weird; I think she's an intellectual snob. But we seem to like these traits in each other, even though we dislike them in others. Also, I'm not sure she's going to like my body when I am naked. I present really well in clothes. She gives me the impression that she is physically attracted to women who are slimmer and shorter than I am. I believe she is being misled by my clothes, and making an exception about my height. Still, I know my personality turns her on, and she is the one who approached me. I find her laughter intoxicating, and her confident, aggressive demeanor makes me hyper-aware of my panties against my vulva. We'll see. I need to perceive equal lust to get physical.