Men Crying?
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D_Petherick_Poundlouder
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We watched Up the other day because of your post. It was after I broke my toe, so I had already cried for about 1.5 hours and then we watched this movie and it was so wonderful, such a tear-jerker! TheBF held my hand thoughout the whole movie. It was so sweet. I don't think TheBF cried, but his eyes did seem to be itchy a lot during the movie.
When I see other men cry, for whatever reason, I just want to laugh. It's so foreign and weird to me. When I see women cry I just want to make them feel better. It sets off some behavioral instinct or something. Woman crying=must help or fix. Man crying=your pitiful.
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I guess there's crying as a reaction to physical pain, crying out of despair/drama, crying out of grief, and movie crying.
A lot of people in my family have had extremely hard lives, as did their parents, and their parents and so on. So I grew up with the expectation that life was hard, expect to take hard knocks, get up, suck it up, etc. Crying was generally viewed as a denial of reality, as most reasons for crying generally falls in the despair/drama category - those kinds of tears on both men and women were viewed with absolute disgust.
(Genuine) Tears of grief are generally reserved for loved ones who meet untimely deaths, as opposed to loved ones who die in old age of an age related infirmity.
Crying from physical pain is a mixed bag, as there are degrees of pain. For men, if there's no blood, nothing broken, there shouldn't be any tears. Women seem to get a completely free pass.
For me, movie crying I understand how, but I can't get emotionally involved enough to suspend the disbelief that comes with knowing that I'm watching a movie.
A lot of people in my family have had extremely hard lives, as did their parents, and their parents and so on. So I grew up with the expectation that life was hard, expect to take hard knocks, get up, suck it up, etc. Crying was generally viewed as a denial of reality, as most reasons for crying generally falls in the despair/drama category - those kinds of tears on both men and women were viewed with absolute disgust.
(Genuine) Tears of grief are generally reserved for loved ones who meet untimely deaths, as opposed to loved ones who die in old age of an age related infirmity.
Crying from physical pain is a mixed bag, as there are degrees of pain. For men, if there's no blood, nothing broken, there shouldn't be any tears. Women seem to get a completely free pass.
For me, movie crying I understand how, but I can't get emotionally involved enough to suspend the disbelief that comes with knowing that I'm watching a movie.
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The only thing pitiful than a typo of a drunk post on a sex website is someone pointing it out. Dork.
Get a life. I mean.... git a lyfe.
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As a natural function of gravity, well yeah, if he was standing above and next to you. *runs*
I do not cry often or much. But I have been known to experience ocular sensory organ fluid seepage in moments of strong emotion - deeply moving film/drama will trigger this reaction, arguments with beloved ones. Not a voice-cracking, wavering, wobbling, sobbing mess as much as a...
"*sniff* Let's pick this up later, I am not ready to discuss this..." sorta thing.
Definitely though, men cry - whether they admit it or not. As for being attractive? Meh. I don't like to see anyone doing it. Young, old, male, female...
