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  1. lovenuts50

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    ladies, how do you like your partner to make love to you? what really gets your turned on and satisfies you completely?
     
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    yea good thread i would like to now to lol
     
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    I like mine to be intuitive and not have to ask me.
     
  4. dolfette

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    ^this.
     
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    Step one would be to recognize me as an individual, and understand a one size fits all strategy guide to the bedroom wouldn't work.
     
  6. Phil Ayesho

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    ...great.
    the ole "if you don't know I'm certainly not gonna tell you" dodge.

    ...thanks for nothin...


    Women, who are intuitive, want men to be intuitive about their needs? want us to be like women?

    we tried that... back in the seventies...
    guess what? they didn't like that either...

    Maybe it made us too much like women.... or maybe we are bad at it...

    Girls... men are not intuitive.

    If you think you found a man who understands what you need... and does it right... its just the dumb luck of finding a guy who has stumbled upon the right technique...

    or, more likely, he had a woman before you who actually gave him some useful feedback.
     
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    Dumb luck would = Gets it right when you're in a specific mood.

    My husband reads the signs, he knows what each sound means, every move, look, he adapts with each to give me exactly what I want without me every having to say a word...

    That's what I want, not just some dumb fuck who thinks he's got the winning combination of moves that will hit the spot every time, or some twat who thinks it's acceptable and a turn on to fuck away while having a discussion about what he should do next.

    Side note: There was no one before me, and I've never had to give him feedback... he's a clever boy, he worked it out all by himself!
     
  8. dolfette

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    most of my partners managed just fine, despite my specialist tastes. if reading your partner's response is a female trait then gimme girly men every time. if i put down my preferences in text and you put them into practise without listening for cues, chances are you'll wind up in prison for a few years.
     
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    I think it's impossible for me to write an essay on the subject. I think that I am a bit different with each man I've been with and the way that sex works with each man works a little differently. When I'm with someone, I let him know what I like with moans, whispered 'yesses' and pleasured whimpers.

    I can't be specific - how do you describe the perfect kiss? Everyone knows what a perfect kiss feels like to them, and may even describe it the same way, but it might not be the same.

    All I could do is describe generalities. I want a man to be truly present with me. I want him to express his desire for me. I want him to be vocal about his desire for me. I want there to be heat and chemistry where we forget where one body ends and the other body begins. I want there to be tenderness and kissing and holding and caressing. I want there to be laughing and snacks and cold water.

    I just can't be more specific than that unless I'm in bed with you.
     
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    He knows. Oh, he knows.
     
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    I do'nt think you need to be any more specific. I do however, think I'm ready for my first cigarette.
     
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    I agree with you, Phil.

    I'm going to have to cross the Atlantic and borrow some of Dolfette's gentlemen/x'es... ain't no one I've ever been with was intuitive to know what I wanted without some help from me. :eek:
     
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    Good question, but everyone is different, so you're better off asking individual women, not a women's forum.

    And if you want to surprise your gal, pay attention to her porn preferences. It's the only way to find out unless you ask.
     
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    This is what my FB is like. *floating*
     
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    I been with a lot of girls and a lot depends how old the female is, 28s+ females usually know what they want and expect in bed, as younger girls they usually just go with the flow. I personally like older woman because they usually are not scared to try anything and less shy to try things.

    As your Q I would say just follow her flow, you can easily tell if what you doing is the right thing, also dont b scared to bring a vibrator or 2. Back up is always welcome
     
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    it's not about being psychic, it's about actually bothering to observe your partner's responses. i think it's pretty damn obvious when i like something, and even more obvious when i don't. if he's the kind of guy that doesn't pay attention to how i'm responding then i don't want him in my bed.

    shagging by numbers? no thank you.
     
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    Do you know how many men here have been with women that have lied to them? How many men did you have to go through to get to the right person? How many men have told you that they faked an orgasm? How many assholes have you had to deal with? The OP definately has the right idea. Most of us here want to please our partner (OK, some of us here are looking for a cheap trick). Intuition hs never been the most effective sexual technique at any time. Women, tell us what you want. You're verbal sexual input will usually turn us on. We will always want your input and you should be completely honest.
     
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    i've told you what i want.
    you've either got it or you ain't.
    it's called sexual compatibility.

    i don't really give a shit how many times the average guy has boohoo'd over some mean girl. that's not my problem. i'm not cheating guys out of a relationship by only going for guys who suit me. i know what i like and i'd rather stay single than settle. there are plenty of guys who get it perfectly and any guy who doesn't can date girls like punny instead.

    intuition may not be an effective tool for you.
    again, not my problem.
    some guys surf it like a wave.
     
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    Well, sometimes you get what you want.:rolleyes:
     
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