Possibility of having a straight guy as friend of benefits?

[pass3434]

Ok this might sound a bit tricky but I still decide to post it out and get advice.

So I am a fem looking guy and I sometimes crossdress for fun. I have a dating profile picturing myself as “female” on app and with my real picture. I matched with some straight guys but 80% of them dismiss me after knowing I’m actually a man in dress.

However, last week, I matched with a really hot muscular young guy who is in his mid 20s and he told me a BJ is a BJ and he wouldn’t mind trying my mouth. We set up some rules, such as I cannot kiss him, he would not touch my penis, I cannot put my penis into his ass etc. and then we met up.

He was as hot as the picture. He works in construction and has a natural muscular body and his cock was like the most amazing thing in the word. I can tell he was nervous and he said it was first time he had been with someone who isn’t a woman. But I got him rock hard in 1 min and got his precum out in 5 mins.

he became like totally dominated by my mouth that night. I managed to play with his chest and even his beard during the sucking session. I also tried having his feet press my hard cock and he did it too as long as I keep sucking. I played with his ass and almost fingered him (he didn’t push me away). It was like he just submitted to this pleasure and let me take the lead. I even ordered him to pose differently, to fuck my throat, to flex, etc. he all did them for me.

In 1 hour, I got him cum hard twice and also extracted countless amount of precum of that cock. After the session, he lied in the bed and told me “hey I never thought I would have cum twice so fast”.

After the session, I haven’t tried to message him yet. I don’t know if there is a chance for us to become regular. I really enjoyed it. I think he did too. But I don’t know if he would go back to the “straight” mode and just stopped talking anymore.

Is this kind of Fwb relationship possible to survive? How should I process it now?

 

[Adolescente18]

Text him!

 

[thickcockjames]

You could message him. But it sounds like you were trying to push the boundaries of the agreement if not trying to break them on the first meet up. For me, as a straight guy who has had plenty of female bang buddies, is a big deal. If we had verbal agreements on what’s okay and what isn’t, you don’t push that boundary without consent. It’s kind of one of the main rules of a bang buddy.

 

[Evenflow618]

Zero if he is straight

 

[Oldcowboy]

I got lotsa gay cocksuckers. It’s “my cock—your mouth”. Your first transgression, a forceful verbal warning. Second—you’d see stars.

 

[Brodie888]

Standard etiquette, if you want repeat business, you always message within 24 hours that you had a great time and hope to do it again sometime. Then when you message in the future, it's pretty natural.

The longer you leave it, the more it becomes awkward and weird. To salvage at this point, you can say something like "Hey, I was just thinking about the other night. I have been wanting to tell you I had a great time"

If he doesn't answer, it's dead. If he does, then pick it up from there.

 

[jazzyG]

Wouldn't hurt to send a message

 

[pass3434]

You could message him. But it sounds like you were trying to push the boundaries of the agreement if not trying to break them on the first meet up. For me, as a straight guy who has had plenty of female bang buddies, is a big deal. If we had verbal agreements on what’s okay and what isn’t, you don’t push that boundary without consent. It’s kind of one of the main rules of a bang buddy.

Well I wouldn't say I was pushing the boundaries. We had clear boundaries set up such as no kissing, no fingering. And I would stop whenever he asked me to.

 

[pass3434]

Standard etiquette, if you want repeat business, you always message within 24 hours that you had a great time and hope to do it again sometime. Then when you message in the future, it's pretty natural.

The longer you leave it, the more it becomes awkward and weird. To salvage at this point, you can say something like "Hey, I was just thinking about the other night. I have been wanting to tell you I had a great time"

If he doesn't answer, it's dead. If he does, then pick it up from there.

Texted him and I think it's dead

 

[pass3434]

I got lotsa gay cocksuckers. It’s “my cock—your mouth”. Your first transgression, a forceful verbal warning. Second—you’d see stars.

you have to be like top 0.1% hot or I would just leave when you give out this rule

 

[Brodie888]

Texted him and I think it's dead

Plenty of fish in the sea. Better to know now and move on!

 

[elklindoxxx]

Zero percent.

 

[pass3434]

Plenty of fish in the sea. Better to know now and move on!

Actually you are right. I already got a new one to play with tonight

 

[coordinatedchaos]

he's not straight.
liberal PC californians can berate me for saying that. i do not care lol.
a straight person cannot want nor enjoy sex with somebody of the same sex. sexuality is a spectrum. even if if it means they're 0.5% gay, so be it.

 

[Oldcowboy]

you have to be like top 0.1% hot or I would just leave when you give out this rule

No worries. I’d hold the door and wish you well.

 

[a1000oceanz]

Texted him and I think it's dead

From my experience there is usually a significant delay between the first BJ and the second. The majority of curious st8 guys I've been with usually ask for a second, but they have to get over the mental confusion of enjoying a true BJ from a guy. I even had one hit me up ten years later after a divorce. You have to go into it with no expectations and make them feel like it was no big deal. You also have to make sure they understand there are no expectations for them to reciprocate and your need is solely to service them. A lot of them are used to having to beg for a BJ from their partner and it sometimes comes with strings attached. If it is someone you have regular interaction with (friend circle/coworker) don't bring it up, act like nothing ever happened, and wait for them to imply they need more. They just have to get over the post nut clarity and the mental hurdle of being with a guy.

 

[Euandroic]

Actually you are right. I already got a new one to play with tonight

Yay you!!

 

[Boaxy]

It is if you're comfortable with things not leaving out of the bedroom/sexual based. It isn't if you want things to be more public/open, you might have more work to do, and may have to take it slow/compromise/you might not care you have to be his little secret etc. Maybe eventually he will be more comfortable/open, and everyone wins in the end etc.

But it seems you know what you're signing up for, and are okay with it. Just remember this.

 

[Boaxy]

he's not straight.
liberal PC californians can berate me for saying that. i do not care lol.
a straight person cannot want nor enjoy sex with somebody of the same sex. sexuality is a spectrum. even if if it means they're 0.5% gay, so be it.

If they got together once. Meh, I'll let him keep his 100 percent Straight record. Maybe he was extremely drunk/drugged/curious, desperate/felt sorry etc.

Anything suspect he does more than once, yeah no. Cut that "straight" bullshit lol.

But sexuality is complex though. Let's not kid ourselves, and say it isn't. In their own time of course.

 

[coordinatedchaos]

If they got together once. Meh, I'll let him keep his 100 percent Straight record. Maybe he was extremely drunk/drugged/curious, desperate/felt sorry etc.

Anything suspect he does more than once, yeah no. Cut that "straight" bullshit lol.

But sexuality is complex though. Let's not kid ourselves, and say it isn't. In their own time of course.

Either way they’re not totally straight.