I actually don't think a desire to please is what qualifies submissiveness, though. It's pretty common among subs, but not universal to that class nor exclusive to it. One can enjoy being in charge and also seeking to please those one has charge over. Or, enjoying pleasing among those who have no strong inclinations towards power dynamics is quite common too.
I'd say submissiveness has more to do with a desire for another to be in charge / in control. With regard to one person being in control of another, the extent to which it (the dynamic) can be real and genuine (as opposed to loosely resembling) in a human rights, post-slavery ideological context is pretty limited.
OTOH, I still haven't a clue what OP was on about.