So...I'm an exclusive top. Always have been, always will be. Only lately, the bottoms I've been with seem to expect me to rim them. And I've noticed that on these forums, it seems expected that this is something that a top will routinely do for a bottom as part of foreplay, and that you're not doing it right if not. I'm not comfortable with that. I certainly do my part to relax/stimulate them, from massages to long fingering sessions, if necessary. But I don't want to stick my tongue in someone...certainly not someone I just met.
Do I like to get rimmed? It's OK, I guess. I've been with guys that really go for it - the first time was a complete surprise, I'll tell ya. But it's certainly nothing I would expect a guy to do...I'll just let him enjoy if he indicates he wants to. Does that make me a hypocrite?
I'm very up front about my expectations when I agree to go home with a guy, and no harm no foul if we don't click. But, is it really something wrong with me that I don't want to rim guys?
I wonder if this has anything to do with the increasingly extreme acts shown in porn? I get the idea that some of the younger guys, especially, seem to think that real-life sex should be like the porn they watch. Ass-to-mouth? Um, no.
But seriously, what's up with this?
Do I like to get rimmed? It's OK, I guess. I've been with guys that really go for it - the first time was a complete surprise, I'll tell ya. But it's certainly nothing I would expect a guy to do...I'll just let him enjoy if he indicates he wants to. Does that make me a hypocrite?
I'm very up front about my expectations when I agree to go home with a guy, and no harm no foul if we don't click. But, is it really something wrong with me that I don't want to rim guys?
I wonder if this has anything to do with the increasingly extreme acts shown in porn? I get the idea that some of the younger guys, especially, seem to think that real-life sex should be like the porn they watch. Ass-to-mouth? Um, no.
But seriously, what's up with this?