Self Esteem

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In difficult times it can be helpful to express gratitude for all the things that you do have.

Your mind is the most amazing gift you have. The Law of Attraction and Quantum physics will show that your mind is a magnet -- What are you attracting into your life?


Mahatma Ghandi said:
Your beliefs become your thoughts
Your thoughts become your words
Your words become your actions
Your actions become your habits
Your habits become your values
Your values become your destiny.

Good Luck!



 

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My 85 year old mother says that sometimes when she walks by a mirror she is shocked by what she see's because she thinks of herself as being a much younger woman. When I asked her what age she perceives herself to be, she said 35.

It is in the mind, and there is a lot to be said for Alfred E. Neumans famous phrase: "What, me worry?"

Those poor "hot" women don't have your charm, humor and experience; not to mention your level of sensuality and sexuality. Gosh, they might even be frigid! You are head and tail ahead of them and if they are lucky, someday, they will attain your level of wisdom.
 

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Okay, I hpe this kills this thread, because I don't want to dwell. I got some really GREAT advice/suggestion/encouragement and that is exactly what I needed at the time. I also wanted to give a quick responce to everyone who took the time to read and help. Love this fucking place. Kisses ~ CG :wink:

JustAsking - I am currently in therapy with a clinical psychologist. This is one of my goals in therapy, so I am seeking some help. Not just for this obviously, but it is directly related to many of my more serious issues. You really know what your talking about, so I appreciate your input on this. What a special person you must be to reach out to people like this. Not much more I can say, except, thanks and maybe one day I can help you?

Andrew - Again, your perception is greatly appreciated. I have a hard time being optimistic, but I know it is something I must try to do. At least practice at it. Thanks for your advice.

Raw - It is so funny that I am always the first one to tell people "don't judge yourself based on what our stupid society tells us is acceptable". All the while secretly knowing that is exactly what I do to myself everyday. I'm really tired of being a 'good little consumer', and buying into all this bullshit is exactly what it makes me. BTW, you are so freakin sweet, I could eat you with a spoon.

Ryan- I can't imagine you having low self esteem, so for you to put that out there means a lot to me. I also like that statement, couldn't be more fitting. Thank you...xxx

Viking - "Take it one day at a time and do not worry that you are inferior to anybody else. " - I will try to keep this in mind, becuase in truth and on that ladder Andrew talked about, we are all the same.

dirtyde - I like what Gandhi said, and I am trying to focus on what I do have. That is part of what makes me so sick about the whole thing. What is wrong with me that I DON'T focus on that ALL the time? But thanks.

Love-it - Wow, I wish I could be like your mother (see, there I go again, haha) seriously, how extraordinary that attitude is for a woman 85 years old. Most women that age, constantly complain and gripe and wish to die because they aren't what the used to be. What an inspiration she would be to someone like me, lots of women I'd venture to guess. I don't know about being wise, but I am at least open for help and guidance...so that's a good start, right? Thanks darlin' you always know just what to say, don't you?
 

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CG, I am sorry I am not respecting your wish to let the thread die, but I just didn't see it until today.

I have a couple things to add that have helped me, many of which I got from being here. When I first came, I had lost around 65 pounds. I had been 235 and I got down to 180 (the size I am in this avatar). My weight fluctuates incredibly, and at one point I was down to 140. In the last year, I went all the way back up to 180 and that's where I am still.

I found out a lot about myself during this journey the last few years, and that's that my self esteem isn't really as tied to my weight as I thought it would be. What I found out is that it's okay to change my perceptions, and to accept the things people tell me as true, unless I have evidence to the contrary. Do you lie to your friends? Probably not. Your friends probably don't lie to you either.

The average size for a woman in America is size 14. The average size for a model is size 4. No wonder we're all so confused! We're led to believe we're "fat" when we're normal, and that's just unhealthy. I've been making costumes for strippers for 16 years, and I've yet to meet ONE who likes the way she looks. EVERYONE wishes they were taller or shorter, thinner or more robust, longer or shorter hair, less cellulite, thinner/thicker thighs, flatter bellies- it never stops.

What helped me is to start looking at myself as one of my friends. What would I say to someone I truly cared about if she told me something like this in regards to her self esteem? I would tell her I care about her, and I see the person inside trying to grow, and THAT is beautiful. So I tell myself something like that in the mirror sometimes. I also tell myself "I'm going to take care of you, you know. I always do." It may sound stupid, but it helps. When we learn to truly care about ourselves and the outcome of our lives, it can be such a freeing experience, because then we don't have to look to others for self verification. You asked if you'll ever get to the point where you aren't jealous of "hot" women- well, that's how I did it. You'll be surprised to discover that most of them hate themselves as much as, if not more than, you do yourself.

Take care of yourself, you seem like such a sweet girl.
 

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JustAsking - ... Not much more I can say, except, thanks and maybe one day I can help you?
If you are in counseling, then there is nothing more I can say or should say, except "keep at it". You can help me by paying if forward and do what I do, which is to know just enough about counseling to successfully convince a friend in trouble that they should get some counseling and that it would probably help them. Your experience will make you even more convincing.

Good luck sweetheart. You are doing the right thing.
 

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I don't lezzie. Don't they have a girl section?

Sorry - your language 'skills' evade comprehension. I don't lezzie - does this mean you think there is a verb to lezzie and you don't partake in whatever activity that verb implies? Or are you perhaps referring to me colloquially as a lesbian? If it is the latter, I think you'll find around here that using an acusation of homosexuality as an insult isn't exactly de rigeur. Nor am I in the least irked by it.

Your need to classify a post by a female member on the general topic of self esteem as something that belongs in a 'girl section' shows misogyny and immaturity in your character.

Your need to comment on the post that is nearly a year old shows an inability to process information on a page.
 

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Why are you posting stories like this on a "PENIS" forum?
Why are you here if you don't like women? Everyone with a penis likes women . . .right?:rolleyes::confused:


I don't lezzie. Don't they have a girl section?
Yes, we do have a Women's Section. However as you may have noticed had you read the entire thread, many intelligent male members responded. Thus posting in the Et Cetera, Et Cetera section was the appropriate thing to do. :cool:


Oh no he didn't...! LOL!
Can you believe this moron? Slinging mud on a year old thread when he has a profile like this! --->
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love trannies
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Sexual Orientation: 100% Straight, 0% Gay

I thought 100% straight men loved 100% real women! Not men with boobs or chicks with dicks as the porno films call them. Perhaps someone needs to adjust his percentages and he'd be less snarky.:mad:
 

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Look girly, I'm the last person that you want to get into a war of words with. But, with a name like "Manly Banister" what am I missing here. As far as misogony goes, don't try to run that feminist crap on me lady because everything that is done without a womans involvment is considered now-adays as misogony. Men can't even take a leak without a woman saying she's being discriminated against because ,"She wants a penis too". So don't try to pick my mind with that misogony crap it doesn't work. Again, this is a "PENIS" I'll say it again "PENIS" forum which I think the topic of solving a "womans" self-esteem issues and problems is an appropriate topic. Again shouldn't that be in the womens section????

As far as how old the topic is. It shows you have the brain of a small dead animal because your stupid ass replied. "MANLY".
 

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The only reason I find trannies exciting and only m to f is because they have way more femininity than you so-called today's "girls"/"women" have and what do straight guys like in a woman??? FEMININITY, Sorry, but looks like Hillary clinton, or women playing football with dirty faces and busted nails are not my style. Today's woman has forgotten what it's like to be a "LADY" You run from the dress and into the gym to build hard glutes and ab muscles, half of you, your bodies resemble that of an adolecent boys and you act like it too????? Too bad, maybe you can learn some female tips from trannies and maybe you can find a man. As you are equally stupid becuse you answered too. Now suck on that "trick".
 

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Look girly, I'm the last person that you want to get into a war of words with. But, with a name like "Manly Banister" what am I missing here. As far as misogony goes, don't try to run that feminist crap on me lady because everything that is done without a womans involvment is considered now-adays as misogony. Men can't even take a leak without a woman saying she's being discriminated against because ,"She wants a penis too". So don't try to pick my mind with that misogony crap it doesn't work. Again, this is a "PENIS" I'll say it again "PENIS" forum which I think the topic of solving a "womans" self-esteem issues and problems is an appropriate topic. Again shouldn't that be in the womens section????

As far as how old the topic is. It shows you have the brain of a small dead animal because your stupid ass replied. "MANLY".

You have picked the wrong 'girly' to fuck with, asswipe.

If you had even vaguely looked around this site you would understand the dynamics of it enough to realise there is so much more going on here than penis appreciation. LPSG is a diverse and inclusive site where everyone, regardless of sex and orientation, is welcome to join in and contribute on whatever level they are comfortable with. *With the obvious exception of TROLLS* I rarely, if ever, do this but I am in this instance going to pull rank. When YOU have been on this forum for getting on for 11 months and have posted over 4000 times I might just consider listening to your opinion on how this place does and should function. And I am but a n00b compared to NJ - who also thinks you're a fuckwit.

Further to that I would draw your attention to the Name and Description of the sub-forum "Et Cetera, Et Cetera - Off-topic postings, current events, rants and raves..." and, having pointed that out, I would like to reitterate that this is the perfect forum for the OP.

On misogyny: Your desire to contain all things feminine to the Women's Issue sub-forum does smack of misogyny to me. "Put the little women in their box" would be a not unreasonable way of describing your attitude. As for your little rant "Men can't even take a leak without a woman saying she's being discriminated against because ,"She wants a penis too" that is just the most ridiculous thing I have read in quite sometime. You are blowing the importance of your own anatomy WAY beyond what most guys here do - and that is quite saying something!!

My username is my username - I do not need to explain it to you. I will however pose you a question on the topic. Just what do you think 'manly banister' might be a euphemism for?
 

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Um, no Dinkus... You seem to have misread the title of this forum. It's called, "Et Cetera, Et Cetera." And I'll even translate it for you because perhaps you may not understand this simple Latin phrase that has become English. It means "And the rest, and the rest." Thus it means that the rest of the stuff that doesn't really belong anywhere else goes here. Therefore, stuff that doesn't have anything to do with penises goes here.

So, read those guidelines and become more literate. Perhaps you might develop some wit in the time it takes for you to understand all of this....
 

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BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH!! DAMN mute button on my remote isn't working. Goodbye girly. Keep writing on a year old post. TO YOURSELF. Find a man or woman or something.