You're a warped individual. I sincerely feel sorry for those kids that you and your woman friends send "to the basement" while you get it on. The kind of woman you're talking about is not the same kind as I am.
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I would have no problems at all dating a single mom. In fact, I dated one for about a year who had three kids (from ages 8 - 14). It was probably the best sex I've ever had. However, we both knew it wasn't going anywhere. She was about thirteen years older than me for one, and I wasn't looking to get married.
Then there is the question: Would you women date a single Father? Sounds a little silly, doesn't it...?
Is it because 9 times out of 10 children live with their mother? I question sometimes if that is most advantageous for the children, but every family is different. Men for some reason (generally, speaking about the whole male population - there are exceptions) are more willing to live apart from their offspring, and thus are painted with the 'single parent' brush less-so than women.
Personally, as a single mother I would have KILLED to find that guy that stops the stroller in the middle of the store aisle to smile and coo while he's wiping spit-up off of his baby's face. If he were THAT kind of father - I would answer the question with an emphatic YES.
On the other hand (I know I'll get flamed for this), I don't think that I would date a "weekend" dad. My humble opinion, for what it's worth, is that a man that has his children much less than half of the time isn't much of a parent at all. Here's your grain of salt: Some men get screwed and are allowed only weekends to spend with their children, or the mother moves away, or whatever. Some men FIGHT for 50/50+ parenting time. Fine. Many men DON'T. This is the type of single father I would not date. Any man to whom his children are not top priority (and yes, that means above the chick - me - they're trying to date) is not worth much to me. And just for the record... if my daughter lived with her dad and he moved to Antarctica, you'd better bet the next flight out would have me on it. One way.
Full-time, Involved Single Father: Yes.
Part-time, Rather-Be-Fucking-Me "Dad": Nope.
Is it because 9 times out of 10 children live with their mother? I question sometimes if that is most advantageous for the children, but every family is different. Men for some reason (generally, speaking about the whole male population - there are exceptions) are more willing to live apart from their offspring, and thus are painted with the 'single parent' brush less-so than women.
Personally, as a single mother I would have KILLED to find that guy that stops the stroller in the middle of the store aisle to smile and coo while he's wiping spit-up off of his baby's face. If he were THAT kind of father - I would answer the question with an emphatic YES.
On the other hand (I know I'll get flamed for this), I don't think that I would date a "weekend" dad. My humble opinion, for what it's worth, is that a man that has his children much less than half of the time isn't much of a parent at all. Here's your grain of salt: Some men get screwed and are allowed only weekends to spend with their children, or the mother moves away, or whatever. Some men FIGHT for 50/50+ parenting time. Fine. Many men DON'T. This is the type of single father I would not date. Any man to whom his children are not top priority (and yes, that means above the chick - me - they're trying to date) is not worth much to me. And just for the record... if my daughter lived with her dad and he moved to Antarctica, you'd better bet the next flight out would have me on it. One way.
Full-time, Involved Single Father: Yes.
Part-time, Rather-Be-Fucking-Me "Dad": Nope.
Man, I could never answer this.
Hockeytiger already posted the process that I'd go through, though.
I'll add a couple things, either of which may be unfounded concerns or not...
I'm normally concerned that a woman would want to marry me only because of my job (government = great health care benefits), and I'm even more concerned about it when it comes to single mothers. There are times when I'm suspicious, skeptical and mistrusting, and this is one of those times. It really sucks, too. There's a pretty nice checkout employee (single mom) at the grocery store on my block, and she's said that she wants to find a man so that she can stop working.
Oof. I'm not ready for that.
Another thing is that kids just piss me off too much of the time. They can be unpredictable, unreasonable, schizophrenic, and just plain psychotic. The good times with children are fantastic, but the bad times make me glad that I don't have to live with them.
Altogether, though, the question of "would I date/marry a single mom" is still one that I simply can't answer when I don't know that particular single mom.
Hockeytiger already posted the process that I'd go through, though.
I'll add a couple things, either of which may be unfounded concerns or not...
I'm normally concerned that a woman would want to marry me only because of my job (government = great health care benefits), and I'm even more concerned about it when it comes to single mothers. There are times when I'm suspicious, skeptical and mistrusting, and this is one of those times. It really sucks, too. There's a pretty nice checkout employee (single mom) at the grocery store on my block, and she's said that she wants to find a man so that she can stop working.
Oof. I'm not ready for that.
Another thing is that kids just piss me off too much of the time. They can be unpredictable, unreasonable, schizophrenic, and just plain psychotic. The good times with children are fantastic, but the bad times make me glad that I don't have to live with them.
Altogether, though, the question of "would I date/marry a single mom" is still one that I simply can't answer when I don't know that particular single mom.
She is only ONE woman. She has a good job, but she has a small place and her kids keep their toys in the basement of her house. She not rich, so when she is not working or with her children, sex is one of the only thing we free to enjoy. You saying that because she is not a rich woman living in a mansion that I cannot make her happy? You dont even know her and you calling her a bad mother because she like being with a man? To feel passion? To be fucked? If a man insult her in the street like you doing, I'll kick his fucking ass.
All I'm doing is giving my opinion here, okay. I hear guys telling each other don't date her "she got kids". She tired all the time! She going to make you a babysitter! She boring. And they wrong! Single moms are very sexy and love to be fucked. What is wrong with this?
LOL! Idle threats over the internet. I love it!
As for you meaning only one lady, I'm sorry, but you made it sound as if you were speaking in general terms about "American hot mamas" and women you had been with. I understand there may be a language issue, but still.
But, please, do go on. You're revealing yourself to not only be warped, but also unstable.
I'm not trying to threaten you, okay? She is a good mother and I'm not going to hear some asshole call her a freak because she enjoys to be with a man like every normal woman, and I will kick their ass. This some stupid shit if a woman cannot enjoy her body because she is a mother? Her feelings, her passion suppose to stop when she has kids? It is only my opinion but that isn't right.
its all good aztek.. I have come off like a complete douchebag here too
I know you are trying to champion the rights of single mothers by turning them out while there kids are in the basement.. and I for one.. commend you for it!
way to go man, keep up the good work!
I know you are trying to champion the rights of single mothers by turning them out while there kids are in the basement.. and I for one.. commend you for it!
way to go man, keep up the good work!
I had a conversation with a friend of mine that is a single mom, and she doesn't have any trouble 'getting laid' but is having a very hard time finding someone to really have a relationship with, she is 28, in decient shape, and a nice person, but she has to put her kid first. *as she should.
and she is having issues.
She is very close to me, and I care for her.. She doesn't know about this site, and I thought I would bring it up to the group to get thier views on single moms.. my mom was a single mom, and I think she did a hell of a job, even though I can be a bit of a pain in the ass
shitty law...but my ex chooses to pay child support for his step daughter. his view being that h changed diapers, cleaned puke & taught her to ride a bike so she's his, regardless of genetics. ive never had a man seem to be put off by the momdom...but then i am impossible to resist :tongue:
Background: Born to a single mom. From age 2 to 10 mom had a live in boyfriend. At age 10 they married and now have two children together, my half-brothers. I have referred to my stepfather as "Dad" since the day my parents got married and refer to my half-brothers as "brothers".
My position in life: Desk job, BA from a Top University, Preparing to go to Grad/Professional school
Would I date a single mom: I am dealing with this issue right know. There is a woman at work that is HOT, my age, and has a 10 year old son. She has her BA and has been accepted to Grad school every year since she graduated from college but was never been ready to commit to a program . . . and she wants me. I want her too but I do have a hang-up about her being a single mom because I know all the turmoil that comes from being in that situation. Although, her son does seem like a great kid.
. . . I'll keep you posted.
My position in life: Desk job, BA from a Top University, Preparing to go to Grad/Professional school
Would I date a single mom: I am dealing with this issue right know. There is a woman at work that is HOT, my age, and has a 10 year old son. She has her BA and has been accepted to Grad school every year since she graduated from college but was never been ready to commit to a program . . . and she wants me. I want her too but I do have a hang-up about her being a single mom because I know all the turmoil that comes from being in that situation. Although, her son does seem like a great kid.
. . . I'll keep you posted.
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Never dated a single mom. But I would. The only conditions -- she must not be a drug user or alcoholic (I do enough beer drinkin for 2). And about kids... as long as they are young (maybe under 5) I am 23 and not ready for raising teens... I am looking for a wife (and in a relationship with an amazing girl right now). Profession, MD.
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Well i am a single mother and i find this thread interesting, it amazes me how many deep rooted stereotypes still exist on this subject, i have to say ive found very few men who said children are a problem but i have found that while many say they dont mind they dont really take on board what it means to be involved in the life of a mum.
why is it u assume a single mother would be a bad mother or one thats drinks and uses drugs anymore than any other mother, i think this is in a very small minority of cases
i bet if you asked most single mothers it was never their intention to be a single mother its not what anyone plans to do, there are many reasons and i think you shouldnt be so quick to judge anything
just because a mother is single does not automatically mean shes looking for someone who is a paycheck although i would give the girl on the checkout a wide berth, and if thats how u feel about children then u shouldnt be around them
grit said:
why is it u assume a single mother would be a bad mother or one thats drinks and uses drugs anymore than any other mother, i think this is in a very small minority of cases
hockeytiger said:
i bet if you asked most single mothers it was never their intention to be a single mother its not what anyone plans to do, there are many reasons and i think you shouldnt be so quick to judge anything
leeej said:
just because a mother is single does not automatically mean shes looking for someone who is a paycheck although i would give the girl on the checkout a wide berth, and if thats how u feel about children then u shouldnt be around them
Why would you need a steady job? I am a single mother, have a good paying job and support myself and my child. When I date a man I'm not looking to him for support, or thinking "He better make good money to be with us". My money is my money, I don't need yours.
Your answer was my favorite on this entire thread. Very well thought out and made a lot of sense. You and your wife will surely be blessed with a baby somehow. I'm so sorry for your heart ache, but I always believe there is a plan for all of us. It sounds like you will be a wonderful father too, best of luck, xx.
its all good aztek.. I have come off like a complete douchebag here too
I know you are trying to champion the rights of single mothers by turning them out while there kids are in the basement.. and I for one.. commend you for it!
way to go man, keep up the good work!
Actually DJG, your comment was a pretty douchebag thing to say. You commend him? For what? Fucking a single mother? Thanks! Thats much more degrading that anything he's said, IMO. Yeah, his delivery is shitty...but I get his point. He's saying that the stereotypical ideal of single mothers is wrong. We do like to fuck, we do like to have fun and we are hungry for some passion....simply because almost 24/7 our lives revolve aorund our kids. I commend him too, but not for being so brave as to fuck a single mother, but for coming on here and talking about it with such passion. He obviously likes to fuck this woman -
.....just because a little person calls me Mommy doesn't mean I don't like to be FUCKED. That rant wasn't directed toward you DJG, only the "commend" part...the rest was my take on aztecks comments.
Do you date "non-single moms" that drink alcohol? If so, why is the fact that she's a mother who drinks alcohol any different?
I hear what your saying....and thanks for saying it. You could've said it more respectful probably, but I took no offense. I would've had I heard you saying "Yeah, she locks those little brats up in the basement so I can go pound her pussy the way she likes it"....that's not what I heard you say. I heard you say "This single mother likes to fuck anytime anywhere, and just because she has kids doesn't mean she can't be a freak".
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This is a question for the guys..
younger guys... ages 21-35..
would you go out with a single mom?
If you would tell me your profession, and your position in life.
I post this because of a discussion I had with a single mom.
I will NOT tell you my position on it.
I was raised by a single mom, so I have a ton of respect.
Lets hear what you have to say.
I went out with a single mother in my early 30s. Since turning 35, I have been out with a couple of other single mothers.
Why?
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