Single Moms?

[EddieAztek]

its all good aztek.. I have come off like a complete douchebag here too
I know you are trying to champion the rights of single mothers by turning them out while there kids are in the basement.. and I for one.. commend you for it!
way to go man, keep up the good work!

Thanks DJG. I don't like the kids to be in the house when I'm with their mamas and most ladies like to have their kids out of the house. But sometimes mami got to get her sexing and no money for that babysitter--no time to find one. I've been with a lot of single mamis and they all exciting, passionate ladies I was lucky to be with.

I'm going to confess it was weird being with my girl who keep her kids in the basement because the kids were almost teenage (and they looking almost like men now). They hearing everything and understand what's going down between me and their mami, and we were loud in there. Crazy! I fuck a woman in a efficeincy apartment once and her kids behind a book shelf in the same ROOM, and that was very strange! I'm never doing that shit again.

Nothing against single mom living in a apartment here! I'm dealing with a lady right now who living in 1BR in my building and we have no problems.

 

[D_N Flay Table]

Rotflmao

 

[D_N Flay Table]

*whoops I forgot to hit the "sarcasm" button on my keyboard.
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ok, now read again.

its all good aztek.. I have come off like a complete douchebag here too
I know you are trying to champion the rights of single mothers by turning them out while there kids are in the basement.. and I for one.. commend you for it!
way to go man, keep up the good work!

 

[Grit]

It appears that I am getting jumped at by opinions and assumptions In response: I hope this is not the beginning of another pissing contest.

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Originally Posted by grit
Never dated a single mom. But I would. The only conditions -- she must not be a drug user or alcoholic (I do enough beer drinkin for 2).

why is it u assume a single mother would be a bad mother or one thats drinks and uses drugs anymore than any other mother, i think this is in a very small minority of cases

My post made no such assumption. Your comment in reference to the statistical classifications is not relevant.

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Originally Posted by Grit http://www.lpsg.org/relationships-discrimination-and-jealousy/52373-single-moms.html#post862090
Never dated a single mom. But I would. The only conditions -- she must not be a drug user or alcoholic (I do enough beer drinkin for 2). And about kids... as long as they are young (maybe under 5) I am 23 and not ready for raising teens... I am looking for a wife (and in a relationship with an amazing girl right now). Profession, MD.

Do you date "non-single moms" that drink alcohol? If so, why is the fact that she's a mother who drinks alcohol any different?
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What is a "non-single mom" -- does that mean married?

Let me clarify -- one who has a drink is not one and the same as "alcoholic". And in the matter of drug use... for me a partner who uses... is out of the question.

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Originally Posted by Grit

Never dated a single mom. But I would. The only conditions -- she must not be a drug user or alcoholic (I do enough beer drinkin for 2). And about kids... as long as they are young (maybe under 5) I am 23 and not ready for raising teens... I am looking for a wife (and in a relationship with an amazing girl right now). Profession, MD.

Am I the only one who finds this to be extraordinarily amazing?

Extraordinary? Yeah. I graduated HS at age 15. I am in residence.

 

[agnslz]

I'm not trying to threaten you, okay? She is a good mother and I'm not going to hear some asshole call her a freak because she enjoys to be with a man like every normal woman, and I will kick their ass. This some stupid shit if a woman cannot enjoy her body because she is a mother? Her feelings, her passion suppose to stop when she has kids? It is only my opinion but that isn't right.

No one's begrudging a single mom having a sex life, but neglecting her kids to do so is not something I'll ever be okay with.

 

[robert55]

oh yes please soon

 

[robert55]

may i pleasure u?

 

[robert55]

whatever u like

 

[robert55]

mmmm

 

[upone]

I'm way over the age limit, but when I was in that age range I dated a lot of single moms. [A few married ones, too; but that's off topic.]

It really, really didn't matter. There were plusses and minuses for each woman. The single moms tended to have some plusses that were very important to me, mostly sexual. They had usually worked off any sexual hangups in earlier relationships; they knew how to talk to a guy; I could tell a lot about them by how they treated their kids. [Important note, young guys: As a general rule, she is never going to treat you better than the way she treats her kids.]

I was very interested in playing the field, and after a relationship with a single mom, it was usually hard to date a woman who wasn't. Like, non-moms usually don't believe in first-date sex. I never met a mom with that rule. With a mom, the "first date kiss" was usually the "first date blowjob".

The biggest problem with single moms for me was that they usually wanted to move faster than me. By the second date they were talking about moving in; I wasn't ready; so when I was ready, they were on their way out of the relationship. Of course, they also believed in the "goodbye blowjob".

 

[EddieAztek]

No one's begrudging a single mom having a sex life, but neglecting her kids to do so is not something I'll ever be okay with.

Like I'm saying, most of the women I've had to deal with, the kids ain't nowhere around. They outside or at school or with their dads. That's okay for everyone involved, right?

 

[dolfette]

just my opinion...but i think kids & boyfriends should be kept as separate parts of life until you know it's got ltr potential. last thing kids need is a string of strangers trying to play dad! so...the whole responsibility thing isn't really an issue. men imagine it will be.

 

[Blocko]

I have dated a single mother, also a widow mother.

In one case it was good, in the other case she tried to use the child to manipulate me... which I thought was far less of a problem for me than it was for the child.

In short, single mothers are like everyone else, some are fantastic people who you would love to welcome into your life... some will give you problems. Some expect you to be a replacement father, some don't. Everyone is different in the way they handle things and with the level of emotional maturity and decorum they hanlde them with.

 

[bluekarma]

Being the sarcastic smart ass that I am, you'd think I would've picked up on that....my bad DJG, and it turns out (the more he posts) I was a little off with my judgement, ew.

*whoops I forgot to hit the "sarcasm" button on my keyboard.
*click*
ok, now read again.

 

[D_Suckleberry Hound]

I"ve dated single moms, I married a single mom, and now I have a wonderful wife (my soulmate for sure), a wonderful stepson, and my wife and I have had more kids since we married.

I think being a single mom is an incredible thing. Apart from raising a kid or kids alone, being in a relationship is different because of priorities, time, effect it has on the kids, etc.

 

[Tru_african]

I would definately go out with a single mom, most of them them tend to be mature.

 

[Principessa]

just my opinion...but i think kids & boyfriends should be kept as separate parts of life until you know it's got ltr potential. last thing kids need is a string of strangers trying to play dad! so...the whole responsibility thing isn't really an issue. men imagine it will be.

My cousin is a single mom of a 6.5 year old boy and he rarely comes in contact with the men she dates. As far as I know only two men have made it into the inner sanctum of meeting her beautiful son.

No one's begrudging a single mom having a sex life, but neglecting her kids to do so is not something I'll ever be okay with.

Well of course not. . . but does this really happen? I can't imagine a mother choosing sex with some young stud over her child.

 

[dolfette]

Well of course not. . . but does this really happen? I can't imagine a mother choosing sex with some young stud over her child.

never met my mother then!

 

[agnslz]

Well of course not. . . but does this really happen? I can't imagine a mother choosing sex with some young stud over her child.

Nor can I, but it does indeed happen. I've heard of various cases over the years where such was the case: Kids burning themselves on the stove while mom was 'entertaining' some guy in another room, kids being locked in various rooms as their mom cavorted in another, and children being left home alone while mom went out for the night. Shocking and inconcievable to most, but it does happen.

 

[D_Ariva_DerChee]

I'll Try not to make this too terribly long.

I'm a single mother of a gorgeous 3 yr old boy. I work fulltime, and attend college (when time and funds permit).

Every SINGLE case is different. I wouldnt necessarily tell the men out there to be skeptical, Just use your common sense.

I know some younger girls that are single moms through mistake and are looking for men so they have a paycheck or even just so they have someone to take care of their kiddo for them because they're too drug addled and lazy to have that responsibility themselves.

There are rotten apples to every category.

Its my OPINION. That most single moms Appear to be rushing things just because they're .. Mature and settled. They hit a period in their lives that otherwise they wouldnt have come to for years.

Like me. I'm only 21 but i feel at least 40. I've lived a lifetime in a short many years, and i've been ready to settle down since i was 18. Hence getting engaged and choosing to start a family.

I wouldnt ever rush a man, Or need his paycheck or anything else skeezy, Im just solid enough to know i want to settle down and will be more than ready to when the right man comes along.

As for letting my dates meet my kiddo? I Personally dont see why not. I have an avid social life and many friends. All of whom frequently see my son. Generally im friends with someone for some time before i try dating them, So my kiddo's already going to have met them. He loves every person in my life, man or woman, because even at three hes just as odd and sociable as i am, lmao.

Now.. As for neglecting your child to have sex.. I Personally dont see anything wrong with turning on a cartoon for your child and leaving the room for ten minutes to have a quickie in the other room. You can call me wrong for thinking this way, But i dont see it as an issue. You have to leave the room to do MANY things. Cook dinner, Go to the bathroom, get dressed, run down to the car to get groceries? Is that ten minutes neglect because its to do something selfish instead of something necessary? And if your home is properly childproofed why should ten minutes be an issue anyway? Kids need a little independance regardless. I love my son immensely, but i dont want him attached at my hip for every second of the day. Im proud when he runs off to his room for alone time. And im proud that he understands that mommy needs that same time, For whatever it is i choose. Whether it be a quickie (few and far between anyway), To take a shower, get dressed for the day, or to just sit and read for a minute.

k. I've ranted enough. And im sorry if i look bad for my point of view.