so tell me, was this wrong?

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  1. Goose_Eggs

    Goose_Eggs Well-Known Member

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    ok, I'm trying to figure out if this was wrong ............

    A couple of weeks ago I was out of town and went down to the hotel spa several times for a steam. I'll admit I do like looking at the naked men and especially like seeing men naked in non-sexual circumstances. One afternoon there were a couple of older gentlemen who were clearly cruising/trolling the steam/sauna/showers, which didn't bother me I just go about my own business. While I am a little over 40, I realize that I do have a lean swimmers smooth build and am a definite 'shower' when I stroll around naked in the lockerroom (kind of boyish with a fat cock look, lol) and usually get a lot of looks -- I have no problem with that, whatever the reason for the looks it doesn't bother me. So I'm sitting in the steam, go out for a cold shower, then into the dry sauna, etc... these two guys follow me around making small talk, perfectly nice looking men but I'm not attracted to them sexually. So pretty soon the one pushes his towel off his cock to reveal a hardon,,,,,,,,,, you can guess where this is progressing. Now keep in mind that I'm not hard at all but am definitely not covering my stuff, it is hanging rather fat, and I'm laying back more or less showing it off (I will admit that). On my last trip into the sauna the hornier one brushes past me and pulls my cock as I walk by, I just pushed his hand away and nodded no. I wasn't offended by that because I had been letting them look and not avoiding them. So the one guy starts really getting into it, the other is trying too, but I'm just not sexually attracted to either of them but I just lay there and watch, pretty soon I adjust my junk, flop it around a little, turn so I'm facing them directly, tug on it a bit ........ basically give them a little show and something to watch while the one beats off.

    It isn't that I don't like older men, actually I often find them very attractive, just not this time. I knew from the get go that I wasn't going to do anything with either of them, was it misleading to keep showing and teasing them? I felt a little bit like I was doing an act of charity for these old guys, I know that sounds kind of harsh (and a bit arrogant on my part) and I don't mean it that way.

    Would any of you guys out there who are, say over 60, think that was just a trampy tease and I shouldn't have done that, or would you be ok with it?
     
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    Sounds fine to me. Once they found out you weren't interested, at least you gave them something to beat off to.
     
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    Sounds a bit over-analysed. Since you asked for opinions, my feedback is that you might try to concentrate less about the levels of "why am I feeling this way" and "what will other people think" and allow yourself to enjoy the moment and how it makes you, and those with you, feel.

    Sex, and I mean the noun, not the verb, is a pleasure. The only guilty pleasure is chocolate - we deserve all the other sorts.

    Ease up on yourself and have fun.
     
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    It happens to me frequently at spas and saunas. Guys will often get hard when seeing other guys especially if you're hung. Sometimes they will engage in conversation and talk to you about it. I've been asked what it looks like when it's hard and what it measures. I'm proud of my cock and don't mind people talking about it or looking. I avoid any unwanted touching be clearly stating, I'll get it hard for you but no touching. I'm amazed how turned on they get watching it grow. People are naturally curious but I have boundaries. There have been times when I have allowed some one to touch me in the sauna and even suck me off but on rare occasions. I guess you have to evaluate every situation, keep you towel handy and leave if you are uncomfortable.
     
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    I think you did the right thing. I'm not an old person, but given that I have done a wealth of cruising for my age, I've noticed a couple of things when it comes to older men in cruisy situations. The first thing is, it's either go in head first, or get nothing. Once you hit a certain age (or weight for that matter), you are mostly undesirable to the general cruising sect. So in order to keep your place, you have to become majorly aggressive. The first cock you see, grab it...it doesn't matter what it looks like because that might be the only thing they get their entire time.

    The second thing I noticed is that sometimes, just paying them some attention is the best way to gain respect. If you've got a big cock and the older men are kind of playing you close, just do what you did: let them see it, maybe put on a show, but make it clear that you aren't interested in taking it further. They will get off just the same watching you. They might be constantly pushing for that next step, but all you have to do is stand your ground and they'll leave you alone.

    Things that don't work are showing aggressiveness back towards them. Being rude will only get you a cock block. If they don't take "no" for an answer, just leave. They will get the lashing from the other people around for chasing you away. Come back in a little while and they might be gone, or if they aren't, they won't really bother you because everyone else has got your back.

    If you snap at them, two things can happen. One: You can inadvertantly chase off any other potentials because of your rude attitude, or two: they can just block you from getting any other action by following you around and trying to get in on your time with someone else.

    I know I just broke down Wild Kingdom: Cruising Edition and alot of you may be like "WTF!?!" but these type of behaviours and the actions countering them actually work. I may spend or have spent a little too long cruising in my young life, but I have gained a wealth of street knowledge in the process.
     
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    There are tramps and teases out there every day People are used to it and aware of it Any time a man or woman wears extra revealing clothing they are trying to be a tease

    I would caution you though because one day you might be over 60 yourself unless you are dead before then and ask yourself hw much would you like this sort of thing being done to you? Maybe think of some person who turns you on giving a show and then at the last second making clear there is no way they will let you touch them or they touch you Think of that and know what it would be like.
     
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    hey ManiacalMadMad, that was sort of my point (guess I didn't make it very well)........... I really am not an "only perfect 25 year olds with plastic bodies for me" kind of guy, and certainly not one who would ever get undone or agressive about being persued by someone who was older, fatter, etc. Their ages had absolutely nothing to do with my feelings, I just wondered if the older guys would feel differently about what happened than say a 30 year old. I wasn't even really horny, but they were enjoying themselves, it just seemed like a nice thing to do (allowing them to look).

    And you are right, we will all be old someday. I can't honestly say how I'll feel lin 20 years, but ..............
     
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