Thanks all for your comments. I've always been very close with my son which is why his silence on this topic has me baffled. I've had all the discussions with him - the sex talk, the body changing/puberty talk, the locker room etiquette talk. The one thing I've never shared with him are my actual measurements. Someone mentioned that as possible information to share, but I've always tried to downplay size as "not a big deal", so I wouldn't want to run counter to that by saying "this is how big dad is".
Since I've figured out that I'm the focus of his attention, I suppose it shouldn't bother me much, but it does make me uncomfortable. I know I can deal with it though, and there's no harm in him looking. And while I was considering no longer showering together, I think it does make sense that I don't do anything that drastic. I don't want to make a big deal out of it.
I think my best approach at this point is to give him time until he's comfortable asking what he wants to ask, and let him know that he can ask me anything. And I'll have to learn patience, which is never my strong suit! Thanks again for all your comments, a lot of wisdom in this community.
Since I've figured out that I'm the focus of his attention, I suppose it shouldn't bother me much, but it does make me uncomfortable. I know I can deal with it though, and there's no harm in him looking. And while I was considering no longer showering together, I think it does make sense that I don't do anything that drastic. I don't want to make a big deal out of it.
I think my best approach at this point is to give him time until he's comfortable asking what he wants to ask, and let him know that he can ask me anything. And I'll have to learn patience, which is never my strong suit! Thanks again for all your comments, a lot of wisdom in this community.