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I vote zit. It's got white pus in it. Herpes is more of a blister-like sore, with clear liquid in it. Your erection problems are caused by you worrying about this whole deal. Just Go to Google, and do a search for herpes images. It will be obvious that is not what you have.

I wish that was the case but, i have been having the erection problem for about a week before this bump appeared... :worried:
 

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You can walk.



As to your dick... if you wore a rubber and had only the one contact... the likihood of an STD is vanishing small.


Clearly, you have an issue with FEAR.

THAT is the problem you need to address. Its is unreasonable, crippling, and UNNECESSARY.

Unlike most mental illness, FEAR you can overcome thru nothing but experience and thought.

Be intelligent... use your brain, and recognize the ACTUAL risk you face is small.
Have your friends, who certainly drive, take you out driving - at first in empty parking lots, then sparsely traveled back roads, then suburban streets and finally on higher speed roads.

And RELAX about your dick. IT could be anything from a zit to a friction blister to a reaction to the latex in the condom...

Your REAL problem is that you are 19 and allowing yourself to be paralyzed by something you CAN exert control over.
 

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You can walk.



As to your dick... if you wore a rubber and had only the one contact... the likihood of an STD is vanishing small.


Clearly, you have an issue with FEAR.

THAT is the problem you need to address. Its is unreasonable, crippling, and UNNECESSARY.

Unlike most mental illness, FEAR you can overcome thru nothing but experience and thought.

Be intelligent... use your brain, and recognize the ACTUAL risk you face is small.
Have your friends, who certainly drive, take you out driving - at first in empty parking lots, then sparsely traveled back roads, then suburban streets and finally on higher speed roads.

And RELAX about your dick. IT could be anything from a zit to a friction blister to a reaction to the latex in the condom...

Your REAL problem is that you are 19 and allowing yourself to be paralyzed by something you CAN exert control over.


I'm not going to walk 20 minutes to a doctor. And its a phobia and its irrational, it kills me everyday knowing that I'm scard of something for reasons i don't even know, im a man of logic but i've gone rock climbing without support before but i can't even drive.. and being a man of logic i no that odds are against me

10% of the world is left handed and 2% of those are male, 4% of the world is born without frontal sinuses 10% is gay 2% is taller than 6'4" and 1% has the simian line on both palms..now all of this is me so my im already against the odds.......

and my friends did take me driving in the parking lot, i had a panic attack....:frown1:
 

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hey hairy dude...you are fine...stop the panic...your dick will not fall off...leave it alone for a few days...most body parts have a built in repair mode...unless you are really a mess both mentally and physically...give some time...next week all will be back to normal...hey if you want to take a little dick fun...it is nobodys business but yours....you have many mistakes ahead of you...enjoy your youth...stop telling your mom your business...fucks with your big head and little head...
 

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I'm not going to walk 20 minutes to a doctor.
20 minutes.
That is one mile. You can't walk a mile to find the answer to your problem?

And its a phobia and its irrational, it kills me everyday knowing that I'm scard of something for reasons i don't even know, im a man of logic but i've gone rock climbing without support before but i can't even drive.. and being a man of logic i no that odds are against me
As a former rock climber, myself, I can not agree that you are logical given your position on the task of walking one lousy mile.
I can not think of a single climb I went on that did not entail at LEAST a one mile hike to the rock face.

And if you WERE logical... then you would do research and be aware that Panic and phobia disorders have the HIGHEST success rate of treatment of any mental illness.
All they do to cure you is to gradually expose you to the thing you fear until your body becomes so accustomed to it the fear reaction abates. Sometimes they use valium in the initial treatment to help keep you calm, but they wean you off of that as treatment progresses.


But what I see here is that you are 19... unwilling to walk a mile to get medical help, unwilling to walk a mile to a job, unwilling to confront your fears, sponging off your parents, and perfectly content to just keep on coasting as long as you are taken care of.


So you passed out when a friend took you driving... So fucking what?
Get back behind the wheel and try again.

And keep trying until you overcome it... That is how any REAL rock climber would tackle it, like a 5-12 climb. Rope up and climb on.

My son held a job for 4 years that he WALKED 3 miles to get to.
Time for you to grow up, grow a pair, and sally forth.

The ODDS are, that you, like the other 6 billion people on the earth, can manage to survive.
 

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So i walked to the doctor on tuesday, and told him about the bump and the erection problem and he asked me to described the bumps i told him they looks like tiny pimples, he said thats what they are then, i told him i have been messing around with someone and thought they might be a std, he asked if i had any leakage, i said no, so he told me that i dont have a std so he he wont do a test i asked if he was sure he asked if it stung when i pissed i said ya but i think that might just be my kidneys ( i have bad kidneys,to much soda in the past...) so he made me take a piss test that came back fine..so i brought up the no erection in the past week, and he said theres nothing wrong with me so he couldn't do anything worst case if i don't get one soon he sad i'll probably developed ED... :worried: ugh!

so now im worried since he didnt test me..and now that i might have ED...
 

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Not a thorough exam in my book and I'm disappointed about his reply to your ED issue. He should have referred you to a urologist.

The problem is a lot of young guys are using ED drugs for recreational use and so they're reporting they have ED when they really don't. A real urologist can run tests to see what's going on in your penis.

Once again, you have to be proactive. Wait two weeks and then talk to him again and ask for a referral to a urologist. In the mean time get a roll of stamps and stick it around your penis just before you go to bed. If you get an erection then the stamps will be split in the morning.

Do you not get erect when you masturbate?
 

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Not a thorough exam in my book and I'm disappointed about his reply to your ED issue. He should have referred you to a urologist.

The problem is a lot of young guys are using ED drugs for recreational use and so they're reporting they have ED when they really don't. A real urologist can run tests to see what's going on in your penis.

Once again, you have to be proactive. Wait two weeks and then talk to him again and ask for a referral to a urologist. In the mean time get a roll of stamps and stick it around your penis just before you go to bed. If you get an erection then the stamps will be split in the morning.

Do you not get erect when you masturbate?

There nearist urologist is in houston, over a hour away even if he does refer me to one, there is no way to get there even my friends dont drive to houston..

and no i havent been able to masturbate cause i can't even get a semi...

grr i don't want to be 19 with ED :mad::sad2:
 

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HA! HA!!! my father lives in florida with a step bitch who doesn't let him talk to me!! So i could give a flying fuck about him!

Okey... just checking.

Now you need to find a way to get to Houston after you see your town doc again in two weeks.
 

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Not a thorough exam in my book and I'm disappointed about his reply to your ED issue. He should have referred you to a urologist.


The boy is 19 with serious Obsessive Compulsive issues. The liklihood that he has ED is vanishingly small.

The only thing the doctor did wrong was to even mention ED, because now THAT'S gonna be the fear fixation.

The kid needs psychological help. There is nothing wrong with his dick...he's simply worrying away any potential erection.

Really... go see a shrink who deals with phobias and OCD. That is your core problem. Get it dealt with and stop diverting your attention from the real issue to bullshit you know full well is just an avoidance strategy.
 

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hairytex...hey guy...take a break from your worrys...if you need some cock time from a buddy go for it...being w/a good friend may free up your thinking...your mental health may affect your physical health...holidays are stressful...just do wwhat makes you happy....your penis will be fine as well as most everything else...light up on life....and yourself...i hope you will find yourself someday, do not give up........
 

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I completely agree with Phil Ayesho.
After reading this entire thread before replying -- I think this kid has all of the symptoms of an OCD-stricken or Phobia-enriched teen. It's sad that he must sacrifice his sex life, by convincing him he cannot get hard, or that the bumps on his dick is an STD. Stop worrying. I looked at it, and I truly believe it is a blocked air follicle, and I would be willing to put money on it.

You need to stop over analyzing everything and just have fun.
When you are old, you will regret not living your youth life to the fullest.
 

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The boy is 19 with serious Obsessive Compulsive issues. The liklihood that he has ED is vanishingly small.

The only thing the doctor did wrong was to even mention ED, because now THAT'S gonna be the fear fixation.

The kid needs psychological help. There is nothing wrong with his dick...he's simply worrying away any potential erection.

Really... go see a shrink who deals with phobias and OCD. That is your core problem. Get it dealt with and stop diverting your attention from the real issue to bullshit you know full well is just an avoidance strategy.

The only way anything like that can be confirmed is by first ruling out any physical reasons. Physical ED is rare in young men, but you don't know it's psychological until a qualified doctor says everything is physically working.
 

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The amount of time wasted on other people's information about what you should do, rather than making a decision and doing it is astounding. I think that you're overreacting and being way too dramatic. Just go to the doctor or 'the free clinic' you can find it online by googling your town name followed by the words 'free clinic' and there you go, done. Even gonorrhea can be fixed by meds and if it is herpes that can be tamed but you would have to take meds for life. Just get it done.
It seems to me that there are other things at work here, something does not add up with you.
 
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Dude...you don't need a doctor you need a therapist. You're 19, afraid to drive, too immature to go to a doctor on your own without serious anxiety, cant get an erection and have sexual identity issues.

Grow some balls, man up and go see someone for your problems.
 

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The only way anything like that can be confirmed is by first ruling out any physical reasons. Physical ED is rare in young men, but you don't know it's psychological until a qualified doctor says everything is physically working.

Yes, I do know its psychological.
Ask a doctor...
The single most important thing in determining any diagnosis is taking a thorough patient history.

What we have here is a patient who is admittedly phobic on many levels... shows signs of OCD, living with parents, unable to hold a job.

Had A SINGLE sexual contact and immediately became obsessively fearful of having contracted an STD. And Whose sexual dysfunction is traceable to that POST sexual contact fear of an STD.

See's doctor and is told its PIMPLES... and that is is highly unlikely for him to have any form of ED at his age.

And Now has transferred his fear fixation from STD, to having ED.


Sorry, Jason... I am more than willing to lay solid cash on the fact that a thourough follow up and lots of costly tests would reveal that the kid's problems are in his head.

He needs treatment for THOSE issue first because doctors will treat the most likely cause first and see if that works before moving the far less likely suppositions.
 
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No need to apologize. You cannot get the patient to believe that there may be a psychological reason for this until you can prove beyond his doubt that it's not a physical issue. Unless you do so, then he cannot address the psychological issues with any certitude. You must demonstrate, with proof, that the problem is not physical before you address the underlying psychological issues. Any doctor will stand by that process. Diagnosis is suspecting an issue based on evidence then ruling out, ruling out, and ruling out until you're left with only one demonstrable etiology. Then you treat that.

It should be no surprise that up until very recently, ED was almost always believed to be psychological. Once Viagra popped-up, then suddenly doctors were diagnosing physical ED and handing out little blue pills which, surprise, worked! I strongly suspect your diagnosis is correct but I believe the OP, and any treating psychiatrist or psychologist, needs a doctor telling him that there is nothing physically wrong first.