Alpha, I completely disagree with your definition and I consider it victim-blaming. I agree with NSDB. In my experience, a lot of the guys considered "players" are liars. They fake more interest than they really have. They make up stories and claim to have feelings they don't really have. And I know women who have fallen for those lies, who didn't know the reputation that those guys had, women who have gotten really hurt because they believed that something real was happening, women I would never consider "slutty" for any reason at all because they weren't promiscuous but beautiful, intelligent, genuine, sincere, but possibly naive and inexperienced. Guys like that are con artists and the fact that they would take advantage of someone else's positive outlook on the world, well that just makes those guys assholes.
I read the OP. That one woman on vacation, she cried. Obviously she believed that he was into her so he said or did things to make her believe it, which really makes him a douchebag if he wasn't actually into her, doesn't it? If I intentionally played with a young, naive, and inexperienced guy's emotions and made him believe that I loved him or was seriously romantically interested in him just to have sex with his big peen, then dumped him and broke his heart when I got tired of him, and I did that over and over again, wouldn't that make me a heartless and cruel Megabitch? It's no different when the sexes are reversed. Playing with other people's emotions is always wrong. Period. Considering that some sort of fun past-time is almost unforgivably cruel, especially when you witness the destructive power of that kind of attitude towards other people. But a guy got laid, right? So who cares about the hardened hearts and tears? She must be a slut?
I read the OP. That one woman on vacation, she cried. Obviously she believed that he was into her so he said or did things to make her believe it, which really makes him a douchebag if he wasn't actually into her, doesn't it? If I intentionally played with a young, naive, and inexperienced guy's emotions and made him believe that I loved him or was seriously romantically interested in him just to have sex with his big peen, then dumped him and broke his heart when I got tired of him, and I did that over and over again, wouldn't that make me a heartless and cruel Megabitch? It's no different when the sexes are reversed. Playing with other people's emotions is always wrong. Period. Considering that some sort of fun past-time is almost unforgivably cruel, especially when you witness the destructive power of that kind of attitude towards other people. But a guy got laid, right? So who cares about the hardened hearts and tears? She must be a slut?
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