- CUBE,
Does AndyA ring a bell with anybody else? These guys are identical twins, cloned from the same frot-crap website I won't bother linking.
Actually, Italian978, your assumptions about gay sex and gender stereotypes is way off base. But I generally take exception to straight men attempting to use their own heterosexual experience as a yardstick for judging the libidos and motivations of gay men.
You assume that there is something inevitably uneven in the power balance of gay sex when it's expressed through anal sex. This is simply untrue in my experience, and 30 years of having sex is a lot of experience. There is nothing inherently feminine or inferior (seperate concepts) in bottoming any more than there's anything inherently feminine or inferior about the person sucking a cock. And your equation of the feminine and the inferior are blatantly sexist.
The reason why is that any sex involving two men is masculine by default. As there is no woman present, it cannot be feminine.
There is also not the correlation you're implying between being butch and getting penetrated (or not). In real life with the real gay men I have sex with, we're not swish or fey, nor strutting around like lumberjacks. We're just two men who want to find pleasure in each other's bodies.
When pondering this reply, I was going to get into the dynamics of roleplay in a SM sub/dom scene, but why waste perfectly good A-List material on the likes of you?
What I will do is share a piece of wisdom imparted on me by an elder in the leather bar scene when I was in my early 20s:
It is the bottom, the submissive who holds all the power. He is the one who sets the limits, and he is the one who consents to the top. The top/dom only has as much authority as the bottom will give him.
You always explain things so well. Smart and handsome...the double whammy. Cheers