Tops do you care if your bottom cums?

[844316]

as a bottom i always want to cum but never think it is my right. i always make sure that all the tops get off and give me a drink or two of their cum and if i am lucky then i am able/allowed to cum but it is not always a given that i do AND i always return!

Basically this for me. I dont need to cum but if my top pernits me ut's always nice

 

[Countryguy63]

Rarely do we see something profound on this board, but I read every single response and want to sincerely thank the bottoms that responded. This has totally changed my perspective.

I am huge on wanting to know that I pleased whoever I'm with at the time. In fact, it's usually more about pleasing them, than myself. Up until now, I honestly thought that if they didn't cum, they didn't enjoy it (Yes, even if they are verbal). That rarely happens, but when it has, it has bugged me for some time after, thinking I didn't do something right, or somehow I wasn't good enough to "please" them.

I'm not going to stop focusing on them, but hopefully will be able to be comfortable in the fact that they actually enjoyed themselves without needing to cum Although as many have said, I still feel that having a bottom cum while I'm fucking them is a huge turn-on. Feeling their muscles tighten and pulse on my cock usually sends me over the edge as well and so we're basically cumming together.

 

[erpap]

Rarely do we see something profound on this board, but I read every single response and want to sincerely thank the bottoms that responded. This has totally changed my perspective.

I am huge on wanting to know that I pleased whoever I'm with at the time. In fact, it's usually more about pleasing them, than myself. Up until now, I honestly thought that if they didn't cum, they didn't enjoy it (Yes, even if they are verbal). That rarely happens, but when it has, it has bugged me for some time after, thinking I didn't do something right, or somehow I wasn't good enough to "please" them.

I'm not going to stop focusing on them, but hopefully will be able to be comfortable in the fact that they actually enjoyed themselves without needing to cum Although as many have said, I still feel that having a bottom cum while I'm fucking them is a huge turn-on. Feeling their muscles tighten and pulse on my cock usually sends me over the edge as well and so we're basically cumming together.

I love pleasing a guy, if I cum from it great but if I don’t I’m just as happy

 

[FineAss]

Depends. If he’s one of those bottoms who can’t handle the dick anymore once he cums, that’s really annoying. Hate being told to pull out before I get my nut.

That was one of the first thing I was taught as a bottom: Suck it up and let the tops power through until THEY cum. I quickly learned just to give in and today I usually cum several times when being fucked...

 

[Tomas26]

I usually like to milk my bottoms a few times a day, and definitely right before I mount them

 

[hvdude]

As gay men we have the distinct pleasure/ability to actually see that we have satisfied our lovers. We often hear how some women fake orgasms (which I completely believe), but there is no way a man can fake an orgasm. That's not to say that it doesn't happen in some gay porn. In real life however when we see our partner's cock spurting his semen we know we've done our job. Just look at how many of us love to watch another man cum - it's magical!

 

[merc41]

I would always like it when they cum. It makes me feel like I'm a good fucker.

 

[deine_huendin]

as a submissive bottom i try to focus on his needs,
So I am more often locked up to learn my anal satisfaction
no possibility to wank, to cum
only dripping and leaking...
and HE likes that ;-)

 

[deine_huendin]

fogot the pic-
this is me -

locked-

 

[PeterJoe]

He needs to cum. It's nice if I do,but I exist toplease men. That is my purpose. Cumming is a bonus.

 

[dfw051980]

can i also say I think this idea of bottoms not cumming is a recent thing of the past few years. I feel that in the past, when i topped most of my partners came at some point of the sex. Either he came while fucking, or he came after by jerking off or he let me service him (by hand or mouth).
Nowadays bottoms seem to choose not to cum and its not really a matter of not being able to cum (which believe me i get and know that can be a factor).
I dont like it, and i want my bottoms to cum!

 

[find83]

can i also say I think this idea of bottoms not cumming is a recent thing of the past few years. I feel that in the past, when i topped most of my partners came at some point of the sex. Either he came while fucking, or he came after by jerking off or he let me service him (by hand or mouth).
Nowadays bottoms seem to choose not to cum and its not really a matter of not being able to cum (which believe me i get and know that can be a factor).
I dont like it, and i want my bottoms to cum!

It's not a recent phenomenon. I have fucked guys back 2007, that didn't need to ejaculate to get off. Some guys get more an anal orgasm when they get fucked and they prefer that. People are just built differently and like different things.
The only reason you didn't hearing it is because back then most guys felt shameful about it. Now everything is sex positive so people talk about all forms of sexuality and kinks.

 

[discreetguy99]

Most definitely. But I’ve also met plenty of men who weren’t looking for an orgasm.

They were just looking to get fucked really well.

I didn’t believe it the first time I heard it. I was a brand new top and honestly I thought he was trying to spare my feelings.

But after heading back to Hula’s and asking several older queens, they all said yes, sometimes a man just wants to get fucked.

Or fucked and bred.

I noticed this more in my “partying” days.

 

[HOU_HEADHUNTER]

As a bottom who doesn't have to cum during the act, I can say for me if I make the top cum then he's cumming for both of us because my pleasure comes from providing him with the most intense pleasure that I can. I can choose to cum during that moment if I want to or I can cum whenever I choose to by simply remembering the experience. I've only had a few tops insist that I cum for them but most do understand that I am well satisfied just by them cumming.

 

[PeterJoe]

One interesting fact is, while I am not opposed to and love cumming, the top NEEDS to cum first. After I cum, anal sex becomes really painful to me. The second I cum, I need that dick out. If the guy wants to cum and the whole thing to be over, fine. If he's up to kissing, nipple play, etc, until I cum, I like that. But i never expect the top to entretain me after he cums, either.

 

[mateo.fdl]

To me is one of the most important things in sex, I love see the man I am fucking cum, specially if he cum over my chest or abdomen, usually see and feel that make me cum too. I think is so sexy and manly. And if the bottom have a hot body and stubble is even hotter to me, I love see a man with stubble with his pleasure orgasmic face.

 

[theplayerking]

One should always be sensitive to the needs of one’s sex partner(s). For me, most important thing in a sexual interaction is that each participant is emotionally satisfied, but that satisfaction can take different forms, some of which don’t include ejaculation.

As a vers guy, my emotional satisfaction comes from penetrating or being penetrated by a man. It’s not necessarily about getting off, which I can do with my hand. That being said, ejaculation feels better when you have a dick up your ass and it’s really hot to fuck a load out of a bottom.

 

[mateo.fdl]

That was one of the first thing I was taught as a bottom: Suck it up and let the tops power through until THEY cum. I quickly learned just to give in and today I usually cum several times when being fucked...

How do you cum several time in the same fuck? I am vers, and like top and like bottom I take too long to cum

 

[jake_30]

I care that they enjoy it. It's hot when they do cum though.

 

[Seven7]

if it's just a hook up then no, bottoms exist to please tops