Trapped Cuckold

[EquusAZ]

Eleven years after saying 'I Do' will sound like 'I regret to her no matter how much you say you love her. THIS is why I am ALWAYS harping on communication being important. Why weren't you having these conversations with her earlier? Why weren't you discussing your sexual appetite back when you were dating!?

I have an EX husband - and there is a reason why he's an ex. One of the reasons was his lack of communication. It isn't THE reason but its one of the big ones. He never wanted to discuss what was going on with him and his issues until it was way too late. Also communication is a two way street.

Also I have a feeling that no matter what, you just bringing it up ONCE is not going to go away. Trust me - she's wondering WHY you brought it up now. She's probably insecure as all hell and getting suspicious as to what else you haven't told her. I do hope you are continuing to discuss important things like this in an ongoing processes of discovery. If not - you better get on that quick!

 

[693987]

If folks look at the OP's post history he has been asking about discussing it with his wife for a while. Also possibly committing infidelity. So there -might- be multiple reasons why the wife is holding firm on her "no".

 

[LaFemme]

If folks look at the OP's post history he has been asking about discussing it with his wife for a while. Also possibly committing infidelity. So there -might- be multiple reasons why the wife is holding firm on her "no".

I see that.

Going outside the marriage, without her permission, will eventually be found out. It will end the marriage. Sexual fantasy should stay fantasy. Actually seeking out other male partners to fulfill his “dream” is the first step towards violating the trust his wife has placed in him. It’s a dangerous path he’s on. He’s cucking her. He’s making her the fool. I feel incredibly sorry for her.

 

[918177]

I see that.

Going outside the marriage, without her permission, will eventually be found out. It will end the marriage. Sexual fantasy should stay fantasy. Actually seeking out other male partners to fulfill his “dream” is the first step towards violating the trust his wife has placed in him. It’s a dangerous path he’s on. He’s cucking her. He’s making her the fool. I feel incredibly sorry for her.

I hope she finds out and he ends up living in his car in a Wallmart parking lot.

 

[EquusAZ]

If folks look at the OP's post history he has been asking about discussing it with his wife for a while. Also possibly committing infidelity. So there -might- be multiple reasons why the wife is holding firm on her "no".

Yikes! Thanks for that insight. I'm usually not one to go through someone's posting history to ferret out what is going on in their lives. My response is just a reaction to what he's posted here as it sounded as if he had 'just' broached it with her and was upset she didn't respond with open arms.

Obviously there is a history here and other factors we can't see (we can never be sure of what is represented here either as anything posted by one party is only that party's viewpoint) and that's something to be cognizant of.

 

[Jjz1109]

I will admit that I had cuckold fantasies for a long time. My wife knew because I told her. Her one and only response was, “That’s a really common fantasy.” It never got further than that.

Eventually, I got past it because it was a fantasy. It was not real life. It didn’t reflect who I am, who my wife is, or our relationship. I made a conscious decision to live that part of my life in the real world and love what I have.

Why are women so damn logical, or matter of fact, about these fantasies of ours? Damn, it just ruins the whole idea. Can’t they just let us have the thought for a bit before they burst the bubble?

Kudos to you for moving on. And embracing what you have.