Is it big dick privilege or alpha male privilege that makes my wife do anything he wants?

Yeah I dunno I try not to take it too personal. I try and separate it from real life. I look at it as he’s her SUV and I’m her luxury car she’ll do certain things with her SUV or truck that she won’t do with her nice car. Lol I dunno that’s my way of rationalizing it. Also maybe she doesn’t want to do such nasty things with a man she married in a church but deep down she kinda likes doing nasty things? I dunno the way of women
Not SUV. More like Bugatti where she doesn't have to worry about the maintenance, and a few times a month she can just get on the open highway and ride it 200mph. Also, the thing about it is, it's not separated from real life. Everything about you plays a role in their attraction. I understand that the Bull has everything physically but that's just superficial. The fact that he's like a 10 to her superficially, along with him just being in the "sex toy" box probably helps her unleash. Don't know if you understand what I'm trying to say. It's kinda like, I think her not knowing much about him outside of the sex helps her. Not knowing his flaws. He may not be as financially stable as you would think. He may have sucky conversational skills. All of these little things affect a woman's attraction level. Her not truly knowing all of the other aspects of his life allows her to put a positive spin fantasy on him and 'worship him'. It's the rose colored glasses affect. You don't know much about someone, but you find them really attractive, your brain will automatically think their awesome until they shatter the illusion with their human flaws. Trust me, no matter how hot he is, she would be probably be a lot less eager to tongue down his asshole if she found out that, day to day, he was not as hygienic a person as she would like lol.

P.S. side note: It doesn't matter where a woman married you. If you can 'unlock' that side of her then she will do all of that nasty stuff with you. She just has to view you as 'THE MAN', and while being jacked and hung helps; like I said, those things are just superficial.

And yeah could also just be that she simply finds him much more sexy and hotter than me and he turns her on more and she wants to do more things with him. It could simply be that painful but honest truth lol. I mean he’s 6 feet jacked used to be a fighter and he’s got an 8+ inch dick and he fucks like a machine. I understand if she is hot for him. I’m a good looking guy for sure but he’s like a sex symbol for her
I agree and this is the reason why I had to fix your car analogy lol. You are the nice luxury 100k car that's good enough for day to day use while still being reasonable enough to maintain. He's the big flashy sportscar that she gets to joyride form time to time and not have to worry about the maintenance because he's not married to her. Sportscar much more exciting, but how many people do you see using it as their primary vehicle?? lol
 
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Not SUV. More like Bugatti where she doesn't have to worry about the maintenance, and a few times a month she can just get on the open highway and ride it 200mph. Also, the thing about it is, it's not separated from real life. Everything about you plays a role in their attraction. I understand that the Bull has everything physically but that's just superficial. The fact that he's like a 10 to her superficially, along with him just being in the "sex toy" box probably helps her unleash. Don't know if you understand what I'm trying to say. It's kinda like, I think her not knowing much about him outside of the sex helps her. Not knowing his flaws. He may not be as financially stable as you would think. He may have sucky conversational skills. All of these little things affect a woman's attraction level. Her not truly knowing all of the other aspects of his life allows her to put a positive spin fantasy on him and 'worship him'. It's the rose colored glasses affect. You don't know much about someone, but you find them really attractive, your brain will automatically think their awesome until they shatter the illusion with their human flaws. Trust me, no matter how hot he is, she would be probably be a lot less eager to tongue down his asshole if she found out that, day to day, he was not as hygienic a person as she would like lol.

P.S. side note: It doesn't matter where a woman married you. If you can 'unlock' that side of her then she will do all of that nasty stuff with you. She just has to view you as 'THE MAN', and while being jacked and hung helps; like I said, those things are just superficial.


I agree and this is the reason why I had to fix your car analogy lol. You are the nice luxury 100k car that's good enough for day to day use while still being reasonable enough to maintain. He's the big flashy sportscar that she gets to joyride form time to time and not have to worry about the maintenance because he's not married to her. Sportscar much more exciting, but how many people do you see using it as their primary vehicle?? lol
Yeah you hit the nail right on the head
 
And yeah could also just be that she simply finds him much more sexy and hotter than me and he turns her on more and she wants to do more things with him. It could simply be that painful but honest truth lol. I mean he’s 6 feet jacked used to be a fighter and he’s got an 8+ inch dick and he fucks like a machine. I understand if she is hot for him. I’m a good looking guy for sure but he’s like a sex symbol for her
well that sounds a lot more than just a big dick privilege? like the whole package. maybe u answered your own qeustion
 
The luxury and sports car analogy is perfect. It was my conclusion after the conversations with my wife the previous days. I tried to understand the logic used to act that way.

I don't consider relations before adulthood as serious so I won't talk about them.

Hey first bf during college was a handsome young man, co-student, who was also an artist. They were in love but he was out of her league and had nothing to offer her. No sexual education, no big dick (6.5"), he had a lifestyle she couldn't understand and follow (popular with women, artistic etc). She loved him because women approached him and she felt special, they broke up because of that. It's like an old Ferrari which is a work of art but it's not that fast and needs high maintenance. If you can't afford the cost you sell it.

Her second bf was a co-student too. Not handsome, but with a huge (8"-9") dick. At first she couldn't take him and after that it was always difficult with no orgasms due to extreme length. The fact he was very nice to her (never met him but from what I have seen he is extremely sensitive) made him look cheap and ready and this factor was the main reason she cheated on him multiple times. His studies and the fact he was a nice guy made her stay in that relationship for 10 years. It had nothing to do with his dick even though he could destroy her any time he wanted. He was like a Japanese sports car from the 80s-00s. A Honda NSX for example. Very fast, reliable, could destroy any other car on the track but not a Ferrari.

The first cheating was with a guy very popular, very good sexually (8") but with no future neither as an individual nor inside a relationship. He is now married to a very beautiful woman but without any education. Her father knew the guy and without knowing their affair, one time when he found her talking to him told her to stop talking to that loser. The big dick (horsepower) isn't everything. He was like an American muscle car from the same era as the Honda NSX. Very popular, cheap, fast, but nowhere near Honda. Desirable from many drivers but you buy it only if you can't afford a Ferrari. She couldn't handle him and it was only a test drive.

Back to her steady bf. From the moment she cheated on him, because he was a very good guy who tried to always say yes (aka low respect) he lost her respect entirely. The only reason she stayed with him was the fact he was marriage material (Japanese quality). But her journey to find a new car continued.

The second cheating was with a crazy guy. Perfect size for her (7"), good sex, couldn't climax cause something stopped her from letting herself loosen up. Consider him a Lamborghini Countach. Fast, difficult to drive everyday, can kill you if your don't pay attention, the car that stops you from putting the pedal to the medal whenever you want because it's dangerous. He drove him on and off for 2 years but she finally sold the car to feel safe.

Then she met me. Not easy to go with but I can say no, I'm marriage material (studies, job, social status like her ex), I'm low maintenance, a little distant from the continuous hunt for women, already had an affair. I was like a second hand Subaru Impreza or Mitsubishi Evolution. The more you drive it the faster you go. Every driver can go fast and feel safe. So she broke up and married me. The reasoning is this: you never leave a man unless you have found the replacement. I was a guy she could rely on, she could present to her circle, could teach her many things. I don't have the best top speed (big dick); to be honest the lowest of all the previous, but I can provide very fast cornering and teach her to drive fast and safe. She now orgasms easily, does things she never though possible for her (anal, fingering, cumming inside, swallowing etc) and I can provide her a status and life she couldn't think she would do. Sometimes you miss the Lambo, the Mustang or the top speed of the NSX but when you start cornering with the Evo all the others stay behind and watch. Yesterday she told me to go slow cause now we cleared all the problems I make her go fast (sexually) and doesn't know if she can follow (her driving skills are not on par with the car performance). I bet in the future she will demand to become distant again because other women will hit on me if I'm cool, approachable and wearing the wedding ring. I told her it's the price she has to pay if she wants a popular man.

Yesterday she told me to never wear a certain underwear because it lets my dick handing low and I was in front of her mother with a 5" dick visible inside my pants. It's summer (so it's hot) and continuous games make a big flaccid all the time thing she likes but not in public. It was the first time though my flaccid was visiblev and I like it.
 
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Today she went to the sea with her sister and the kids. I stayed home because her sister's kids are crazy and I get bored of the whole situation. When she returned she was all kisses and hugging. She asked me about the dildo I would buy for her now that the medication prevents me from fucking. She finally asked for two sizes: one with 5" insertable length to reach her cervix and use it every day and one with 8" insertable length to bypass the cervix and destroy her pussy. She even told me to be ready cause in a few hours we'll be home alone and she wants a huge clit orgasm (she loses control that way and screams) and she'll provide a handjob if I can achieve an erection for a few minutes. "Boy I wish you had the dildos already bought to destroy my pussy" was her exact phrase. Then she grabbed my cock and told me "Finish with your therapy cause I'm horny and I need a real dick from a real man. Don't tell me anything, I want the sex talk during our session this afternoon. I hope you can get an erection cause I want your dick".

I believe that from the moment I was cool again and found the wedding ring she is horny and talks dirty thing that she has never done before. Not even with her fuck buddies. She uses cock and dick instead of penis and balls instead of testicles. She wants fucking and no love or sex. She uses the word cum instead of orgasm and she even fingered my ass last night. I hope this whole sexual energy and liberation from the normal would only stay within the couple this time.
 
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My wife and I have experimented with a cuckold relationship and it has gone shockingly well I would say. She’s always had a big dick fetish or at least curiosity and I finally got it out of her and our fantasy has turned reality. We have a bull who has a very big dick and he is also very well built and muscular and very dominant and alpha type. My wife is petite and sexy as hell. She seems to do anything he wants. She’s a little more reserved when we have sex. But for him she is insanely submissive. He obviously fucks the living shit out of her and leaves her shaking but when I fuck her I go hard too. So that’s normal she could always take a pounding.

But she doesn’t seem to ever say no to him. He will put her in any position he wants he’ll fold her up twist her around pick her up bend her over face down legs behind her head. You name it he’s done it to her. And she never says no or complains she just lets him use her and squeals in pleasure as he fucks her as hard and as long as he wants. It’s shockingly hot. He gets to fuck her throat in any position he wants and he’s even fucked my wife in her ass. I’ve never got to fuck her throat or her ass and his dick is much bigger than mine.

She also eats his asshole. This is the biggest shock to me because my wife has never gone near my asshole and you would never expect her to. She has licked my balls once or twice but he will dangle his big balls on hee face and she will start sucking and licking them like it’s candy. He’ll fuck her throat then sit on her face and she tongues his asshole with zero resistance.

If you knew my wife you would never expect this type of behavior lol. I asked her why does she think she is soooo submissive for him and she didn’t have a clear answer. I asked is it because he has a big dick? She said yeah that could be part of it. I asked is it because he’s a big muscular guy? She said yeah that too. So I wonder is having a big dick boost your alpha male status that much more? I feel like with my wife it totally does. Now that she has a big dick to play with and get pleasure from with soaking wet orgasms I think she feels she is his to use so she can earn his big dick? Anybody have any thoughts on this I’m curious if big dick has that much power over a woman.
She's simply dicktamised bro, after decades of being a lifestyle bull, similar to how you describe being a large muscular dominant man, every part of a good bull can turn a hot wife crazy, they change mentally dude.
 
I believe it. I can see it
She’s obsessed with his balls too. He has pretty big balls and he always dangles them on her face and she slurps them up. He fucks her doggystyle and she reaches back and plays with his balls and she comments how she loves when his balls slap her clit or her butthole depending on the angle. He fucks her throat and his balls slap and rest on her nose or her chin. And he’ll always run them on her face and she eagerly waits with her mouth open and swallow them up. Lol she hardly ever plays with my balls. Again I think it’s because he has big full bull balls
 
The power dynamics of your relationship has changed.

With couples where the guy wants “big cock for THE wife” I warn guy about this.

And when he uses “THE” he’s already behind the 8 ball with me.

I won’t proceed w.o . Private visit with wife, I am very clear and candid.

Most are blushing and licking their lips before we part, pupils have dilated and respiration increased. Lots of tells.

I’ve warned the guy—-often, whatever power, control she yields to me—she’ll take from you. Or rather—-you’ll forfeit it.
Pretty good odds you’re gonna end up with her feeding you my cock.
Lol I’m not taking a cock I don’t do that or clean up or anything like that. I would tag team my wife with a guy but I won’t suck his dick. I usually just sit back and watch my wife lose her mind for a while and get fucked into oblivion
 
Without any intention to offend OP, I really hope this is not a product of imagination and fantasy. Otherwise, it is actually great topic and psychological question. Had similar doubts before myself (hypothetically).

My take here - there are no strings attached, relationship is shallow and obviously he is the complete opposite of you (as her partner and daily "routine"), especially considering he is well built and good looking. Big dick is only extra, but for me is probably at the end of list (certainly not neglect-able). She feels submissive for these exact reasons, add a little bit of stereotype and you get her interpretation of the hierarchy.

It is like in everyday life and communication - I work in sales and you have different approach with people depending on their attitude, natural charisma, mood, appearance etc.

The thing that seems wild to me here - it is strange she shows that in front of you. If these two were alone, it makes sense. If she showed it in front of her BFF or they filmed it for you, still it would make sense. But showing this other side of her face to the stranger, while you are there?! Crazy...
 
years ago I used to work with a girl who was married to a guy who worked at the same place but different team/shifts. He was a bit of a dick really, and so when she got drunk on a work night out and asked me back to her hotel room I was happy to oblige.

This went on for about a year, semi regular, sometimes sex but quite often just a blowjob or just me pulling her pants down and licking her. Over time I got to learn about her relationship with him and her relationship to sex. A couple of things really surprised me when I found them out. Despite all her moaning about my big cock as she bounced up and down on it, her husband was actually bigger! Really didn't see that coming.

She also said he used to ask for head, or try to barter it, he'd go down on her so he'd then expect it in return. What she enjoyed most about our frequent meet ups was how it wasn't reciprocal like that. Sometimes I'd just have her sat on my face and then send her home after that, other times I'd knock on her door, she'd open it and before she could even react I'd have her on her knees with my cock in her mouth, then once I'd finished I'd leave.

She said it was how I just did what I wanted in the moment that she found such a turn on. I wasn't going down on her thinking about how I could try to persuade her to give head after.

So I think it's more than pure cock size, after all I was fucking her and then sending her home to her bigger husband, who she said more than once was a very good fuck
 
years ago I used to work with a girl who was married to a guy who worked at the same place but different team/shifts. He was a bit of a dick really, and so when she got drunk on a work night out and asked me back to her hotel room I was happy to oblige.

This went on for about a year, semi regular, sometimes sex but quite often just a blowjob or just me pulling her pants down and licking her. Over time I got to learn about her relationship with him and her relationship to sex. A couple of things really surprised me when I found them out. Despite all her moaning about my big cock as she bounced up and down on it, her husband was actually bigger! Really didn't see that coming.

She also said he used to ask for head, or try to barter it, he'd go down on her so he'd then expect it in return. What she enjoyed most about our frequent meet ups was how it wasn't reciprocal like that. Sometimes I'd just have her sat on my face and then send her home after that, other times I'd knock on her door, she'd open it and before she could even react I'd have her on her knees with my cock in her mouth, then once I'd finished I'd leave.

She said it was how I just did what I wanted in the moment that she found such a turn on. I wasn't going down on her thinking about how I could try to persuade her to give head after.

So I think it's more than pure cock size, after all I was fucking her and then sending her home to her bigger husband, who she said more than once was a very good fuck
Yea you were definitely giving her that dominance that she couldn't get from her husband. Women crave that and cock size can't make up for that.

I'm so glad that I found out at an early age that bartering for sex in any way is just weak. Around 18 (before I even ever had a real GF) I had a friend who was clearly with a chick who wasn't attracted to him and he would do things like offer to clean to entire house just to get sex that night. All of the time I would see him trying to barter for sex, and even with my limited experience with women at the time, I just lost respect for him and saw that shit as super weak. I promised myself I would never be with a woman who I had to beg and make trades just to get some sex.
 
Yeah I kind of agree but hard to put the genie back in at this point
I’ve warned guys about that upfront.
Told one guy he’d be way more likely to be putting my cock in her—-after prepping it—at her direction.
Was able to point that out to him later——he tried to respond but was told—by her—“dont talk with your mouth full”

This was a guy who wanted big D for “THE” wife—which triggers me beyond logical reason