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Discussion in 'Women's Issues' started by CyprusBigOne, Apr 14, 2010.

  1. CyprusBigOne

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    Why is this cancer all over the internet?
    I've noticed this with almost every single site that has to do with meeting people.
    Go on Chatroulette, you'll flip through at least 40-50 penises before you see a woman who will next you in a split second.
    Try omegle, the second you admit you're a guy, the other person clicks next.
    Dating sites, theres at least 15 males to 1 female.
    This site. Theres a bazzilion dumb males with supposedly large cocks (i'm not any different not trying to stick out of the crowd) and about 5 women (i think).

    This is bad. Especially for women. I can only imagine the spam that women get on this kind of sites from men. This has negative effects for us too though. Women's value goes up by alot when some really don't deserve it. Don't start throwing rocks yet, for me all women are beautiful in their own special way, but i know guys who wouldn't even look at some women in real life but they gladly spam even worse online.

    TL;DR version: Why is there an abudance of sex hungry men online and not enough women to go around?

    Are men REALLY that stupid/desperate? I like to think that both sexes have nearly the same needs everybody needs sex why does it have to be the men that act like this?
     
  2. D_Sparroe Spongecaques

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    Men think with their pants,women think with the guys wallet:tongue:

    EDIT:some women before anybody has a blue fit :p
     
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    Not so much a current trend but a state that's always existed upon the internet and has now become a lot more obvious.
    If you think about the internet and all that it offers. Right from conception, it has given people the opportunity to view porn images and videos. There used to be a little more secrecy, it used to be a lot more taboo.
    Admit to your friends or partner that you're lonely or interested in a particular fetish?
    Admit to your partner that you'd like to try something new but you're scared they might not like it? Go to your friendly GP or doctor to ask for sex related advice? Admit to yourself that you're bi, bi-curious, lesbian or gay or you just want to know what another man's cock looks like?
    Oh hell no.
    Why do that when you can spend five minutes staring hungrily at the screen in anticipation while your lightning fast 56kbit dial-up connection resolves an unrecognisable and pixelated mosaic into the object of your desire or a forum where you don't have to show your face can provide all the answers.

    Therein lies the root of the "cancer", as you put it. And that is the illusion of availability.
    Consider that wealth of porn, the sites purely devoted to meeting people for sex or dating, the media hype over "social" networking and the increasing pressure to join up to sites so you can be friends with the friends of your friend's friends and that by partaking in their lives vicariously, you can find happiness.

    We all know that the advertising used on sex/dating sites consists of thinly veiled lies and we should know well enough to ignore it and maybe we do consciously but it's still there, all the time. Flashing away in the corner, pretending to be your MSN friend, popping up when you're damn certain you enabled the pop-up blocker.

    Find true love today.
    This girl wants to meet YOU.
    I'm hot, horny and single and I live in your area.
    In three days, I went from being a 28 stone weakling with no penis to a buff Adonis, hung like a horse and now I have to fight off pussy with a stick and so can you as long as you agree to pay an incredibly low monthly fee and don't read the small print.

    All tailored for men, targeted at men and now wonderfully Geo IP improved to give you the impression that whatever you want, it's available and it's only a mouse click away.
    Not forgetting the underlying implication that you couldn't possibly be happy in your own right, there's no way you could be existing in a content and satisfied state because if you were, God forbid, you wouldn't need anything else.
    Immune to self-doubt and marketing? Oh the horror.
    And, nowhere near that level of same advertising aimed at women.
    We get shit like:
    Share the teeth whitening secrets discovered by a single mum.
    Earn £27 million a week working for Google from home. "Being a housewife has never been so easy!" Says Sharon, a millionaire housewife from Milton-Keynes in her 100% true testimonial.
    Increase bust size now! Miracle Pills.
    Lose weight now! Miracle Pills.
    Seen on Oprah! Miracle Pills and some extra miracle crap you're supposed to drink.
    Wishes granted! Miracle Lamp.

    I think the internet has become the best place for creating and maintaining the aforementioned illusion that there are hundreds of thousands of women who are readily and easily available and in relation to that, also the reason for the assumptions some people may have about the motives and character of genuine women who frequent sites like this, chatroulette and omeagle.


    To address this specifically.
    Yes, it can be bad for women when they're in the minority on a site where sex and everything related to it are the main topics of discussion and that site is aimed at, and primarily for men. I'm sure there's probably a "large breast support group.org" out there or similar equivalent and if there isn't, it's only a matter of time.
    Although you wouldn't be allowed to use lbsg.org for the address as I just checked it and it's "The Letter Box Study Group."
    AND I'M NOW LAUGHING HYSTERICALLY.

    Men aren't stupid or desperate any more than women are. There's no reason to put your own gender down or to feel that the actions of others within it reflect the true and total nature.
    With regard to number discrepancy and inequality, I think women generally are more hesitant and reluctant to entertain and accept the possibility that they could find what they want online. We definitely do have the same needs and desires as men but it would appear that men are a lot more willing and confident when it comes to instigating and participating in online interactivity of a sexual nature.

    I find that observation really interesting. I've been lurking the internet for an extremely long time now and in my experience, I've certainly found that people will act differently online in comparison to how they act when they're not.
    Applause to the internet for providing the opportunity to be known to others exactly as you want to be known. You can be the person you want to be, the person you wish you were and, in some cases, the person you really don't want to be in real life but can be behind a nickname and in the relative safety of anonymity, without fear of reprisal.
    Live your fantasies, find friends, vent the rage and frustration, be honestly yourself, be different... There's a hero in all of us : P

    Moving on.
    As PrincessTasha puts it,
    Tongue in cheek, but still a recognisable stereotype and it's the former part of it that may be relevant here in combination with the annoying and stigmatic adage that a man who gets laid a lot is a stud whilst a woman who does the same is something entirely different. A woman who thinks with her knickers? Oh dear.

    Not so much an issue now as it used to be, but there's still a fear amongst women to be labelled as a slut. Unless a woman is prepared and able to live her life without a single care for the opinions of others, she's going to have a rather hard time of it.
    To be unconcerned about that label, she'd need to be 100% confident in her own sexuality and that she could engage in sex purely and alone as an act of physical pleasure without the risk of being judged by society, her peers and potential partners for doing so.

    Women like that do exist and are rapidly growing in number as people become slowly more willing to accept the notion that sex for pleasure isn't a sin but there still aren't enough of those supremely confident women online at the moment to provide each and every man in the same place with exactly what he desires.
    Let's hope, that given time, the numbers start to match up more.

    tl;dr
    Men are better at computers.
     
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    Keleios you basically expanded to what i wanted to say in a manner one really VERY RARELY if ever sees online in a forum of this kind. I applaud you. I honestly do. I'd love to see what you have to offer in other kind of conversations (not necessarily sexual). If you're up to it, hit me up privately we'll set something up :)
     
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    I was confused about this thread because of the word 'cancer' and thought you'd be asking about a health issue. Talk about things not what they seem!
     
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    Haha it's a thing i picked up from another page i visit nevermind the jargon :)
     
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    Yes, it is a trend that is sweeping the nation.

    Guys have suddenly grown these things called "cocks" and a new trend is developing.

    You are super observant and thanks to geniuses like you, we can all take notice and stop it from...

    Nevermind. I know you're just trying to get the girls to think you're great.

    That won't work. What works is to not be a sniveling pusswhack.

    I am now going to stalk every girl who posts in this thread. ;)
     
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    Plus, hey there /b/ro fancy some pasta? :d
    i LOVED your Chatroulette video it's what CR deserves for being the cesspit it has devolved into :)
     
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    What.....AGAIN??:eek:
     
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    If I was a woman I'd be afraid of looking for someone on the internet, I've seen the whackos out there.

    I've never tried to meet anyone online. I've held conversations and even had cybersex (some were probably guys I'm sure) but beyond that I'm all set.
     
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    I'm certain there are more than 5 real ladies posting on this board. I have personally annoyed at least 9.
     
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    I haven't deliberately tried either but I have the internet to thank for a certain someone special and for many good friends as well.
    When chat rooms and the like first became popular (good old IRC days) there were always horror stories floating around about sexual predators, miscreants and deviants of the highest order. If you reacted badly to an a/s/l request, it was as if they could smell your annoyance through the monitor and would pounce immediately.
    The whackos aren't to be discounted, they're certainly out there but so is a big world full of amazingly nice and lovely people and that more than makes up for the odd encounter with a basketcase.

    You make a good point about women being afraid, fear tends to be of the unknown and online, everyone is unknown until you reach a certain level of communication. But that applies to the guys as well and from reading a good few threads here, it'd seem that the fear of a woman not actually being a woman is a reasonable one to have.

    Not so much in reverse for us, I've only come across two guys who spent serious time masquerading as women so far. One thought it was simply funny and the other was living an incredibly detailed second life online as a happily married woman. I never found out exactly why but he was very good at it.

    I guess it depends though on what's being looked for. Most people would be tentative and cautious about looking for a potential partner in the relationship sense as that would require the possibility of serious emotional investment whilst others might be a lot more forward and unreserved when it comes to looking for a quick hook-up.

    Considering that only a couple of years ago the internet was sometimes seen as a last resort for dating or people were reluctant to admit that they had met through it, it's now becoming remarkably common and acceptable.
    Hurrah for progress : )
     
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    Gotta be honest. I also thought you were going to ask about cancer after reading the first line.
     
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    Baby you know I can't resist those huge tits, fat ass and thick thighs.
     
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    OK, this is how I feel about this site: it's like a big loud bar with lots of drinking and music and guys - lots and lots of guys. Then there's my posse (I said POSSE) my group of girls that I came in with. We're here to have a drink, enjoy the music and laugh, laugh, laugh. We might dance with you if we feel like it, but it's not what we came in for. Oh, a couple of us might be looking for more, but most of us just want to have fun and talk. We let our hair down with each other and talk about even the most personal things.

    Yes, we're dressed nice and some of us even go out of our way to be sexy, but it's to make us feel good not to make you horny. But if it does make you hot, oh well! LOL! We like to flirt a bit, too, but it's only for play.

    And if you don't like it, then we can just go somewhere else, but I don't think you want us to do that, do you?
     
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    Aww, y'all are so cute when you try to think...don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya.

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    Men do out number women on this website...it's a website for men with LP's for christ's sake. :p

    But there are more than 5 women here. This just isn't really a dating site. And the part that sort of is...is a casual sex meet up subforum...to which I never go in and probably most of the "real" women do not because they don't want casual sex.
     
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    I want deep meaningful sex with fleur...with lots of dick slaps and titty sucking and squeezing. ~FMH
     
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