Not so much a current trend but a state that's always existed upon the internet and has now become a lot more obvious.
If you think about the internet and all that it offers. Right from conception, it has given people the opportunity to view porn images and videos. There used to be a little more secrecy, it used to be a lot more taboo.
Admit to your friends or partner that you're lonely or interested in a particular fetish?
Admit to your partner that you'd like to try something new but you're scared they might not like it? Go to your friendly GP or doctor to ask for sex related advice? Admit to yourself that you're bi, bi-curious, lesbian or gay or you just want to know what another man's cock looks like?
Oh hell no.
Why do that when you can spend five minutes staring hungrily at the screen in anticipation while your
lightning fast 56kbit dial-up connection resolves an unrecognisable and pixelated mosaic into the object of your desire or a forum where you don't have to show your face can provide all the answers.
Therein lies the root of the "cancer", as you put it. And that is the illusion of availability.
Consider that wealth of porn, the sites purely devoted to meeting people for sex or dating, the media hype over "social" networking and the increasing pressure to join up to sites so you can be friends with the friends of your friend's friends and that by partaking in their lives vicariously, you can find
happiness.
We all know that the advertising used on sex/dating sites consists of thinly veiled lies and we should know well enough to ignore it and maybe we do consciously but it's still there, all the time. Flashing away in the corner, pretending to be your MSN friend, popping up when you're damn certain you enabled the pop-up blocker.
Find true love today.
This girl wants to meet YOU.
I'm hot, horny and single and I live in your area.
In three days, I went from being a 28 stone weakling with no penis to a buff Adonis, hung like a horse and now I have to fight off pussy with a stick and so can you as long as you agree to pay an incredibly low monthly fee and don't read the small print.
All tailored for men, targeted at men and now wonderfully Geo IP improved to give you the impression that whatever you want, it's available and it's only a mouse click away.
Not forgetting the underlying implication that you couldn't possibly be happy in your own right, there's no way you could be existing in a content and satisfied state because if you were, God forbid,
you wouldn't need anything else.
Immune to self-doubt and marketing? Oh the horror.
And, nowhere near that level of same advertising aimed at women.
We get shit like:
Share the teeth whitening secrets discovered by a single mum.
Earn £27 million a week working for Google from home. "Being a housewife has never been so easy!" Says Sharon, a millionaire housewife from Milton-Keynes in her 100% true testimonial.
Increase bust size now! Miracle Pills.
Lose weight now! Miracle Pills.
Seen on Oprah! Miracle Pills and some extra miracle crap you're supposed to drink.
Wishes granted! Miracle Lamp.
I think the internet has become the best place for creating and maintaining the aforementioned illusion that there are hundreds of thousands of women who are readily and easily available and in relation to that, also the reason for the assumptions some people may have about the motives and character of genuine women who frequent sites like this, chatroulette and omeagle.
This is bad. Especially for women. I can only imagine the spam that women get on this kind of sites from men. This has negative effects for us too though. Women's value goes up by alot when some really don't deserve it. Don't start throwing rocks yet, for me all women are beautiful in their own special way, but i know guys who wouldn't even look at some women in real life but they gladly spam even worse online.
TL;DR version: Why is there an abudance of sex hungry men online and not enough women to go around?
Are men REALLY that stupid/desperate? I like to think that both sexes have nearly the same needs everybody needs sex why does it have to be the men that act like this?
To address this specifically.
Yes, it can be bad for women when they're in the minority on a site where sex and everything related to it are the main topics of discussion and that site is aimed at, and primarily for men. I'm sure there's probably a "large breast support group.org" out there or similar equivalent and if there isn't, it's only a matter of time.
Although you wouldn't be allowed to use lbsg.org for the address as I just checked it and it's "The Letter Box Study Group."
AND I'M NOW LAUGHING HYSTERICALLY.
Men aren't stupid or desperate any more than women are. There's no reason to put your own gender down or to feel that the actions of others within it reflect the true and total nature.
With regard to number discrepancy and inequality, I think women generally are more hesitant and reluctant to entertain and accept the possibility that they could find what they want online. We definitely do have the same needs and desires as men but it would appear that men are a lot more willing and confident when it comes to instigating and participating in online interactivity of a sexual nature.
i know guys who wouldn't even look at some women in real life but they gladly spam even worse online.
I find that observation really interesting. I've been lurking the internet for an extremely long time now and in my experience, I've certainly found that people will act differently online in comparison to how they act when they're not.
Applause to the internet for providing the opportunity to be known to others exactly as you want to be known. You can be the person you want to be, the person you wish you were and, in some cases, the person you really don't want to be in real life but can be behind a nickname and in the relative safety of anonymity, without fear of reprisal.
Live your fantasies, find friends, vent the rage and frustration, be honestly yourself, be different... There's a hero in all of us : P
Moving on.
As PrincessTasha puts it,
Men think with their pants,women think with the guys wallet
Tongue in cheek, but still a recognisable stereotype and it's the former part of it that may be relevant here in combination with the annoying and stigmatic adage that a man who gets laid a lot is a stud whilst a woman who does the same is something entirely different. A woman who thinks with her knickers?
Oh dear.
Not so much an issue now as it used to be, but there's still a fear amongst women to be labelled as a slut. Unless a woman is prepared and able to live her life without a single care for the opinions of others, she's going to have a rather hard time of it.
To be unconcerned about that label, she'd need to be 100% confident in her own sexuality and that she could engage in sex purely and alone as an act of physical pleasure without the risk of being judged by society, her peers and potential partners for doing so.
Women like that do exist and are rapidly growing in number as people become slowly more willing to accept the notion that sex for pleasure isn't a sin but there still aren't enough of those supremely confident women online at the moment to provide each and every man in the same place with exactly what he desires.
Let's hope, that given time, the numbers start to match up more.
tl;dr
Men are better at computers.
