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First of all I want to say this: I'm asking without any judgment. This isn't the place to go off on what other people should or shouldn't do on the bedroom, I'm just looking for honest answers about real experiences. I know all about the risks of unprotected sex, as do we all. I just am interested in different perspectives.
I'm gay. The gay community has its own standards about when we have unprotected sex, and our own subculture of people who prefer not using protection (we have names for them and everything). However, for the vast majority of us, the legacy of the AIDS crisis hammers into us the importance of always using protection, getting tested for STIs frequently, and discussing our sexual history before encounters with others. Gays who have unprotected sex are almost universally on PREP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis) which hugely reduces the likelihood of HIV transmission.
Now, I am also aware that because there wasn't the same push for sexual education that happened in the gay community, a lot of straight people don't always have the same awareness of these issues. I've known straight guys who have never been tested because they feel they "don't really need to." I've even heard stories of straight guys who just don't worry about protection, assuming the girl has it taken care of. They maybe use condoms on one night stands, and then stop when they have a monogamous relationship, and even then, not consistently.
So, my question is this: for single straight men, how do you decide when and when not to use a condom? Is it case by case? When the girl makes you? Every time? Until you've been together enough?
Are there times when girls don't want you to, and ask you to go in bare?
I suppose I have a semi-related question. Consider this a bonus, if you have the knowledge. As in gay culture, are there people who explicitly have a kink or fetish for unprotected sex? Is the idea that you get off on (potentially) breeding as many women as possible? Or is it perhaps a fixation on inseminating the same woman repeatedly? Would you say this is related to why people may choose not to use condoms with a new partner (as it definitely is in certain gay circles) or do they just not want to wear one because it feels better?
So to sum up: I'm wondering whether straight people have different perceptions of risk, and how the decision of when and when not to wear a condom is made. I'm also aware that I'm asking a group that's probably more sexually educated/aware than a random group of people, so I'd like to hear about your perceptions of other straight guys, as well as your first-hand experience.
I'm gay. The gay community has its own standards about when we have unprotected sex, and our own subculture of people who prefer not using protection (we have names for them and everything). However, for the vast majority of us, the legacy of the AIDS crisis hammers into us the importance of always using protection, getting tested for STIs frequently, and discussing our sexual history before encounters with others. Gays who have unprotected sex are almost universally on PREP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis) which hugely reduces the likelihood of HIV transmission.
Now, I am also aware that because there wasn't the same push for sexual education that happened in the gay community, a lot of straight people don't always have the same awareness of these issues. I've known straight guys who have never been tested because they feel they "don't really need to." I've even heard stories of straight guys who just don't worry about protection, assuming the girl has it taken care of. They maybe use condoms on one night stands, and then stop when they have a monogamous relationship, and even then, not consistently.
So, my question is this: for single straight men, how do you decide when and when not to use a condom? Is it case by case? When the girl makes you? Every time? Until you've been together enough?
Are there times when girls don't want you to, and ask you to go in bare?
I suppose I have a semi-related question. Consider this a bonus, if you have the knowledge. As in gay culture, are there people who explicitly have a kink or fetish for unprotected sex? Is the idea that you get off on (potentially) breeding as many women as possible? Or is it perhaps a fixation on inseminating the same woman repeatedly? Would you say this is related to why people may choose not to use condoms with a new partner (as it definitely is in certain gay circles) or do they just not want to wear one because it feels better?
So to sum up: I'm wondering whether straight people have different perceptions of risk, and how the decision of when and when not to wear a condom is made. I'm also aware that I'm asking a group that's probably more sexually educated/aware than a random group of people, so I'd like to hear about your perceptions of other straight guys, as well as your first-hand experience.