Virginity

[Royal_T]

Originally posted by Altairion@Feb 8 2005, 07:31 PM
heh I feel guilty just throwin this out here, but I'll admit to that fact that I'm still a virgin at 21. I haven't found a girl where we're both into each other enough to do it. This late on I'm to the point that if I do it, I'd want it to be worth something and not just a one nighter where I'd probably regret it later on.

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Yeah I had a philosophy teacher who said a freind of his waited until 20-something to have sex, and by then they were so frustrated he just wanted to get it over with.
So he got a hooker. Hardly the most elegant solution, but at least he got the 'big one' over with... (Im not reccommending this, by the way, it just occurred to me.)

 

[c.dub]

16 to a girl. Long time great friend, she was carrying her V badge as well. It was all nice and sweet, ahh!

19 or 20 with a guy. Was in the sauna at the gym, and this guy roughly my age kept checking out my unit (no towel on). I didn't mind the looks. Then he strikes up a conversation in which he asks me if I "party". I thought that he was talking about partying, not so much. He then clarified, and asked if he could blow me. And I've never been one to give up a free lunch.

 

[Pappy]

Originally posted by NikkiSixx@Feb 25 2005, 03:33 AM

There is no rush, wait until you are ready, whatever that is for you.

What if you've been ready for a LONG time, but you just haven't ever gotten the opportunity?

I'm 20, and I'm one of the few 20+ year-olds who is a virgin, but not by choice. At this point, I wish that I knew how to get a one-night stand...I'm embarassed because I go to a "big party school" (Indiana University) and yet still have not had the opportunity to have sex.

Now, please don't tell me crap like "you don't want that dude"...how does one get a one-night stand? I've been desperate to lose my virginity for over a year and I'm getting sick and tired of it!

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Desperation shows so stop trying so hard. Just chill about it and it will happen. Another thing, don't make yourself appear too available, people always want what they can't have or something/someone that is already taken.

 

[13788]

NikkiSixx: How available should I appear to be?

 

[2924]

Still a virgin here. 18 in July.

 

[deleted111]

I am gay but I lost my virginity when I was 14 yo to an 18 yo girl at a Church Camp in the summer that I worked at LOL

Nate

 

[13788]

Blueeyes: Altairion - Thanks! I had a feeling of all the people on here, you would appreciate my situation...being that you see that having waited as long as you have, you don't want to lose it all to a one-night-stand.

You are right to feel that way...I have many friends who were either raped as virgins, or had a one-night-stand and none of them were very happy with their decisions. Something you hear quite a lot on these boards...or from friends...is that they wish they had waited. You never hear..."I wish I had sex sooner!" So I think it's always wise to wait.

**And for those who are going to respond that being raped doesn't take away your virginity...I KNOW that...but it still is your first sexual experience...so it makes an impression, and usually leads to promiscuous behavior.

While I see that there are people on here who would like to have sex and haven't had the "opportunity", I think that overall, not having sex is a choice. A choice that is very difficult to make because 1) it feels good...even if you haven't done it, you know it will...and 2) you can sometimes feel like you aren't part of the crowd. I can't tell you how many times I have been sitting with friends who are sharing their "first time" stories. And I proudly state..."When I have a first time...I'll get back to you." I have a very relaxed sense of myself, and am proud of the decision I have made, so I never hide it...on the contrary, I try to announce it so that hopefully someone younger and more easily swayed might hear me and think, "hey, if she can decide not to, so can I."

It is for these very reasons that I have never done any drugs...I've never even tried pot! I know...I'm a goody goody...

Best of luck to you all!

And to the 20 year old who wants to have sex...don't think about the sex. Go to the library...go to Starbucks...go to bars, if you must...and just meet people. When you have chemistry with someone, you'll know it and want to spend more time with them. If it's really just the sex you want, there are people you can pay to do that. Don't settle for "just sex", look at it as a memory you get to make...something you can plan ahead of time and look back on with either fondness or anger...I hope you'll make the right decision!

 

[Kimahri]

Originally posted by nacard01@Feb 26 2005, 12:55 PM
I am gay but I lost my virginity when I was 14 yo to an 18 yo girl at a Church Camp in the summer that I worked at LOL

Nate

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This one time, at Church Camp..........

 

[Knight]

Update: I'm goin seein my girl again this Saturday, she said if its cold we'll go back to hers (her dad will be in but we can just disappear ) and if its sunny we're gonna get back to nature in the forest

I'll keep you posted.

 

[LongTimeComing]

I was 22 or 23 my first time. It was with the woman who would become my wife. This was 23 years ago. We are now going through a divorce. We stopped having sex six years ago. About a year ago I found a girlfriend, she is the only woman I have had sex with besides my wife. My first experience was not very good. I have described it a bit more here: http://www.lpsg.org/forum/index.php?showto...ndpost&p=165671

I was rather awkward with women in my late adolesence / early adulthood. I very much regret not having had an earlier start and more experiences. I am looking forward to exploring my sexuality more as I become more fully separated from my marriage (still living in the same house...) I do not dwell on this regret, nor do I expect to become stupidly promiscuous when I am single, but I do feel an overall dissatisfaction with my sexual history that I would encourage others to avoid.

I think all the posts about first time sex being best with someone you truly care about, etc. are valid, but I also think there comes a time when the need for that first experience creates so much pressure and anxiety and difficulty in forming a good romantic relationship. I think in that case there is nothing wrong with finding a way to get past it -- via a one night stand, even a hooker (something I contemplated but never had the guts to do). It depends quite a lot on the perspective of the individual, that the first time with someone meaningul will be the REAL first time, the MEMORABLE and WONDERFUL first time.

Sorry for the long post.

 

[morethan]

Originally posted by LongTimeComing@Mar 1 2005, 05:43 PM
I was 22 or 23 my first time. It was with the woman who would become my wife. This was 23 years ago. We are now going through a divorce. We stopped having sex six years ago. About a year ago I found a girlfriend, she is the only woman I have had sex with besides my wife. My first experience was not very good. I have described it a bit more here: http://www.lpsg.org/forum/index.php?showto...ndpost&p=165671

I was rather awkward with women in my late adolesence / early adulthood. I very much regret not having had an earlier start and more experiences. I am looking forward to exploring my sexuality more as I become more fully separated from my marriage (still living in the same house...) I do not dwell on this regret, nor do I expect to become stupidly promiscuous when I am single, but I do feel an overall dissatisfaction with my sexual history that I would encourage others to avoid.

I think all the posts about first time sex being best with someone you truly care about, etc. are valid, but I also think there comes a time when the need for that first experience creates so much pressure and anxiety and difficulty in forming a good romantic relationship. I think in that case there is nothing wrong with finding a way to get past it -- via a one night stand, even a hooker (something I contemplated but never had the guts to do). It depends quite a lot on the perspective of the individual, that the first time with someone meaningul will be the REAL first time, the MEMORABLE and WONDERFUL first time.

Sorry for the long post.

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I was 19 at college.

I thought it was going to be so much easier. It went pretty much like this ...

1. Ended going back with a girl
2. She'd had a pre-feel and was looking forward to finding out "what I had" (I didn't tell her at that stage that I was a virgin - pride I guess)
3. We got back to hers - lots of awkward silences
4. We ended up on the sofa with no clothes - I felt on cloud-9 - she had said she was looking forward to seeing "how that felt inside her"
5. ... So much harder than it looks in the movies - there was quite a bit of mechanics - i.e. foreplay before I scored
6. And I must say - it lasted all of about 2 minutes - although the look on her face as she took me was something that'll stay with me for quite some time ...

... You'll be glad to know that since then - it's been a lot better ...

mt.

 

[marcoxxxx]

i was 18
with a a girl i dont even remember the name...
i was in london and we were both on holidays
she did everything basically, i guess she got experience already
I just remember her big boobs and that when i shot my load in her i thought i was a real man... i don't remember her face at all .......
from then i discovered the pleasures of sex and more experience on how to use my tool...
my suggestion to the virgin people out there, don't wait for the right person all the time
sex can be just fun alone with no involvment at all
another point is... from 16 to 20 something it is the peak of sexual power.... want to waste it???
but of course i admit that sex with the girl you love is the very very best

M

 

[deleted640]

Originally posted by pantythief@Feb 10 2005, 12:18 PM
25 yrs old
Nevada brothel

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[jay_too]

When did you lose your virginity?

Aren't Americans a hoot? It is not as though we misplaced it and will find it after a search.

jay

 

[Kimahri]

Originally posted by jay_too@Mar 3 2005, 10:29 AM
When did you lose your virginity?

Aren't Americans a hoot? It is not as though we misplaced it and will find it after a search.

jay

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Despite being American, that's pretty funny.

 

[jay_too]

Originally posted by Kimahri@Mar 3 2005, 02:39 PM
Despite being American, that's pretty funny.

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me too!

jay

 

[13788]

PenileEnvy: 19 years old to the woman who eventually became my wife.

 

[Altairion]

Originally posted by Blueeyes@Feb 28 2005, 03:09 PM
Altairion - Thanks! I had a feeling of all the people on here, you would appreciate my situation...being that you see that having waited as long as you have, you don't want to lose it all to a one-night-stand.

You are right to feel that way...I have many friends who were either raped as virgins, or had a one-night-stand and none of them were very happy with their decisions. Something you hear quite a lot on these boards...or from friends...is that they wish they had waited. You never hear..."I wish I had sex sooner!" So I think it's always wise to wait.

**And for those who are going to respond that being raped doesn't take away your virginity...I KNOW that...but it still is your first sexual experience...so it makes an impression, and usually leads to promiscuous behavior.

While I see that there are people on here who would like to have sex and haven't had the "opportunity", I think that overall, not having sex is a choice. A choice that is very difficult to make because 1) it feels good...even if you haven't done it, you know it will...and 2) you can sometimes feel like you aren't part of the crowd. I can't tell you how many times I have been sitting with friends who are sharing their "first time" stories. And I proudly state..."When I have a first time...I'll get back to you." I have a very relaxed sense of myself, and am proud of the decision I have made, so I never hide it...on the contrary, I try to announce it so that hopefully someone younger and more easily swayed might hear me and think, "hey, if she can decide not to, so can I."

It is for these very reasons that I have never done any drugs...I've never even tried pot! I know...I'm a goody goody...

Best of luck to you all!

And to the 20 year old who wants to have sex...don't think about the sex. Go to the library...go to Starbucks...go to bars, if you must...and just meet people. When you have chemistry with someone, you'll know it and want to spend more time with them. If it's really just the sex you want, there are people you can pay to do that. Don't settle for "just sex", look at it as a memory you get to make...something you can plan ahead of time and look back on with either fondness or anger...I hope you'll make the right decision!

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I'll admit that it took me a while to think of a proper way to reply to this one. Thanks to blu for stepping up saying what you did. Sometimes its good to have a "goody goody" around to keep us in line

There are times when I'm just ready to get drunk some night out at the bars and pick a girl at random just to say I've done it, but that little voice in my head keeps telling me to wait. All I can hope is that the girl I eventually match up with will truly appreciate what I have to offer.

 

[B_DoubleMeatWhopper]

Originally posted by jay_too@Mar 3 2005, 02:29 PM
When did you lose your virginity?

Aren't Americans a hoot? It is not as though we misplaced it and will find it after a search.

jay

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I remember watching an American stand-up comedienne who said, "At the tender age of eighteen, I finally lost my virginity ... after having misplaced it several times before."

 

[13788]

iwfuutaudls: if you guys go back and read your posts, you will be shocked. i can see that the vast majority of you are extremely dependant on women. for example, the lad who is "desperate to have sex" is bound to end up in an un-happy relationship.

women are attracted to the following character qualities in men:
intelligent, independant, rebel, responsible, selfish (as long as "self" includes his woman), funny (as in goofy and sarcastic and cheesy and whatever else makes her laugh), hot headed, stubborn (as long as she can restrain him), very skilled and talented at something, defiant (will die before giving in).

therefore, all you guys out there who are "desperate to have sex" and all you guys out there who "want to find true love and devote their lives to her" - all you guys got another thing coming. if a woman sees that in you she will do one of two things:
1. if she is honest and fair, she will gently turn you down.
or
2. if she is like most women are, she will use you, abuse your naivete, abuse your childish romanticism, and ultimately use your life as a tool to better her own life

and the sad part fellas is, not only will most women behave as i described in scenario 2 but they will act that way completely subconsciously.