You know, I do want to add one thing.
Having sex for the first time on my wedding night was very scarey. But there were some perks.
We went all night long. After about the 4th time, I started getting the hang of it, and so did she, and so we would sleep for 20 minutes or so and then start over. I came 7 times that night. Not a record. I had a friend who came 11 times. But the point is, that wasn't great at first. It was awkward, embarrassing, and scarey. But then it became all right because we were SO concerned about the other person's enjoyment and pleasure that it really was all about love.
My second honeymoon was more erotic than the first. However, I only came twice. (23 years later, things change a bit.)
But my feeling is that for ME, it was the right thing for me personally to wait until I was married to have sex the first time. For others, I do not judge. It's an individual thing.
As for being worried about how many other virgins there are out there waiting for "you", stop worrying. Who cares if she's a virgin or not, except, are you like-minded, are you willing to work out marriage problems and differences, and is your right good enough to put her first when she needs to be first. I was never concerned about marrying another virgin. I was FAR more concerned about marrying someone who I loved deeply, who loved me the same, and that we could work out our problems.
I was married 23 years the first time. The marriage failed because of mental illness, and many other disasters. The second marriage only lasted 13 months. She was a hot former model who wasn't faithful, and who was also very ill. But as life goes on, regardless of what life brings to you, you can be thankful for the good things anyone brings to your life, regardless of how many years you may spend with them.
I am very glad to have been married and raised two great kids.
Having sex for the first time on my wedding night was very scarey. But there were some perks.
We went all night long. After about the 4th time, I started getting the hang of it, and so did she, and so we would sleep for 20 minutes or so and then start over. I came 7 times that night. Not a record. I had a friend who came 11 times. But the point is, that wasn't great at first. It was awkward, embarrassing, and scarey. But then it became all right because we were SO concerned about the other person's enjoyment and pleasure that it really was all about love.
My second honeymoon was more erotic than the first. However, I only came twice. (23 years later, things change a bit.)
But my feeling is that for ME, it was the right thing for me personally to wait until I was married to have sex the first time. For others, I do not judge. It's an individual thing.
As for being worried about how many other virgins there are out there waiting for "you", stop worrying. Who cares if she's a virgin or not, except, are you like-minded, are you willing to work out marriage problems and differences, and is your right good enough to put her first when she needs to be first. I was never concerned about marrying another virgin. I was FAR more concerned about marrying someone who I loved deeply, who loved me the same, and that we could work out our problems.
I was married 23 years the first time. The marriage failed because of mental illness, and many other disasters. The second marriage only lasted 13 months. She was a hot former model who wasn't faithful, and who was also very ill. But as life goes on, regardless of what life brings to you, you can be thankful for the good things anyone brings to your life, regardless of how many years you may spend with them.
I am very glad to have been married and raised two great kids.
